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7 yo can't sleep alone
I know this has been discussed many times but I think my problem is a
little bit different than what has been said before. My girlfriend is a single mum of a 7yo boy. She raised him on her own since the day he wsa born. For different reasons, her son always slept in her bed with her. We are now living together and trying to make things more "normal". He has his own bedroom but he refuses to sleep there on his own. He says that he's scared but at the same time I know that he has a hard time to understand that I now get to sleep with his mum and not him. There is a little bit of jealousy. I undertand why he feels that way but I don't know how to help him understand. We tried to talk to him about it but he still refuses to sleep on his own. One of us as to be in bed with him when he falls asleep. Any help would be greatly appreciated Thank you B. |
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7 yo can't sleep alone
"B." wrote in message om... I know this has been discussed many times but I think my problem is a little bit different than what has been said before. My girlfriend is a single mum of a 7yo boy. She raised him on her own since the day he wsa born. For different reasons, her son always slept in her bed with her. We are now living together and trying to make things more "normal". He has his own bedroom but he refuses to sleep there on his own. He says that he's scared but at the same time I know that he has a hard time to understand that I now get to sleep with his mum and not him. There is a little bit of jealousy. I undertand why he feels that way but I don't know how to help him understand. We tried to talk to him about it but he still refuses to sleep on his own. One of us as to be in bed with him when he falls asleep. I think you did it backwards. You should have had him move out of his bed first for a few months, then moved in with mom. That's what you do when a new infant takes a toddler's crib. That way, he won't associate the move with being kicked out by the new stranger. The way you have it, not only are you moving in on his turf, you've got his mom and his bed. I'd be jealous, too. Could you stand to be a little patient and back off a little so he can get used to the first two changes before you demand the bed? Or maybe you could convince him to go to his room by not immediately slipping in and taking his place. Have your own little bed. When he gets more comfortable with the new situation, you could then get into bed with the girlfriend. Personally, I wouldn't move in with the girlfriend unless she was a wife, because it would be more stable for the kid that way. At boyfriend/girlfriend stage, you can break up more easily, and that's heartbreaking for a child, who didn't ask for any of it to begin with. |
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7 yo can't sleep alone
Michelle J. Haines wrote:
Start by moving him to a small bed at the foot of your bed or next to your bed. Don't push him out of his mother's bed and into his own room all at once. that's crap, you just got close to this womyn and you need to be tapping that ass. put him in the other room and let him CRY. it will make him stronger. i would also look into strong sedatives. |
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