Dead Beat Fathers

I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
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I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.


Continue raising your kids and leave the man alone. You can't force him to
do anything. If he isn't going to be there for the kids, there is nothing
you can do. I'm sure if there was a tax return to take, it would have been
done by now... plus many other things. I'm sure Oklahoma has done their due
diligence in dealing with him. There is nothing else you can do.


Tracy
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"shelly in ok" wrote in message
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I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.



Are you serious? The judge denied visitation and now you are complaining
the father never attempted to see his children. What did you expect him to
do?

You said you never received any child support. Did the judge order any
child support?

Your kids are getting to an age where they should make the choice about
contacting their birth father or not. I can imagine the bitterness of no
financial help, however, you choose to have four babies and should not
have done so if you were not prepared to take on the financial
responsibility alone.

shelly in ok wrote:

I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
om...
I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.


He was denied visitation---why? And how could he visit them as you complain
he didn't when he was denied visitation?

You've lived without the money this long--your children must be getting to
the ages when they will be out on their own. If the judge denied
visitation, there must have been a reason. Are you sure you want him back
in the middle of your life? (If, indeed, the judge was correct in his
denial of visitation rights)

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
om...
I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the

Yes - I have been divorced from the father of my four kids - too - for
almost 15 years. I - too - never received child support for them. He
deliberately joined the carnival of all things to avoid have to pay
anything. Of course there's no relationship between my children and their
father now.

It's pretty hard to believe a Judge would deny visitation for a father
especially if he's ordered child support. If he's an axe murderer, I
imagine your attorney could have attempted to terminate his parental rights.
In that case there'd be no visitation and no child support. In our
situation, there was domestic violence and plenty of abuse so the Judge
ordered the visitation to be supervised ... That didn't last long because
the father lost interest in being a father.

Like another poster said, your children should be just about all grown up by
now. I know how tough it is for kids not having a father but there's really
nothing we can do about it. If you have an order, I imagine you can file
with your Attorney General's office but as far as I'm concerned - it's
really not worth my time or effort. It's Dad's loss - he chose to bug out
of his children's lives and that's that. After all, I divorced the guy
because he's got problems - maybe my kids turned out to be productive
members of society Because of and not Despite the loss of their father.

Just my two cents,
dC

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
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I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support.

Good.

The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation.

I'm SHOCKED!

I had no say in the
matter.

.....and the sun rises in the west.

So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back?

He places one foot in front of the other.........

yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted.

Did you tell your judge (who denied the visitation) that too?

please can anyone help me or
give me advise.

I can; get a life.

I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.

On Fri, 27 Jun 2003 19:29:31 GMT, "Tracy" wrote:

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
. com...
I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.


Continue raising your kids and leave the man alone. You can't force him to
do anything. If he isn't going to be there for the kids, there is nothing
you can do. I'm sure if there was a tax return to take, it would have been
done by now... plus many other things. I'm sure Oklahoma has done their due
diligence in dealing with him. There is nothing else you can do.


Tracy
~~~~~~~
http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/
"You can't solve problems with the same
type of thinking that created them."
Albert Einstein

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.... not to mention the hopeless situation of a court-ordered
prohibition against contact with his own children. There's more than
what she's telling here.

The courts and most women who love what they do are simply evil and will pay
their due when the time comes, and it will come.


"shelly in ok" wrote in message
om...
I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.

Maybe he (the father) can't stomach you.

"shelly in ok" wrote in message
om...
I have been divorced from my four sons father for almost 15 years. In
this span of time I have not recieved One penny of child support. The
Judge in our case denied the father visitation. I had no say in the
matter.So how can a man just walk away from four sons and not ever
look back? yea they are all his, to many questions.I found out he has
lived as close as 45 miles fron them and never has he made any attemot
to see them. Iy makes them feel unwanted. please can anyone help me or
give me advise. I live in Oklahoma and they are dead beats in CSIF.