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I think this is probably the critical point for me. I doubt I'll ever
really feel "done" or stop feeling a bit broody and nostalgic when I see a little baby. And that would be true whether I stop now at three kids or whether I had a fourth or whether I kept on having 'em until I couldn't any more. My mother started pretty early (22) and had four kids, stopping when she was about 30. I think she feels that same way, that she always feels nostalgic about little babies, but that one of us had to be the last. She made do with cuddling friends' babies and teaching toddlers at church, but she sure was thrilled to bits when we told her she'd be a grandmother! Heck, her second grandbaby was just a month old when we told her she's getting a third grandbaby, and she was thrilled to bits about that too! We could tell her we were having number ten, and she'd be just as thrilled as she was with the first one. I love that! (I don't think ten is very likely for us though. DH and I are young enough, though, that three or four or five isn't unlikely. Shoot, I'm not even 20 weeks pregnant with #2, and I'm getting broody for a third, lol.) -- -Sara Mommy to DD, 2 1/2 And Someone Due 2/05 |
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Every time we have a new baby it necessitates some change in whatever
comfortable routine we have worked out up to that point. I always feel a little grief for that old life that has to change to make way for the new life. But then we adjust and get comfortable with that new life too. This is so beautiful, Leslie! So true too. -- -Sara Mommy to DD, 2 1/2 And Someone Due 2/05 |
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"Leslie" wrote in message
... Barbara said: I think this is probably the critical point for me. I doubt I'll ever really feel "done" or stop feeling a bit broody and nostalgic when I see a little baby. And that would be true whether I stop now at three kids or whether I had a fourth or whether I kept on having 'em until I couldn't any more. I know people who say they know they are done, people here and IRL. I keep hoping that will happen to me at some point, because otherwise I don't know how I'll stop! I don't really feel done. There, I admitted it!!! But I know 4 is a sensible, do-able place to stop. I think more would put me over the edge, but I'd still love more - lol. I think part of it might be cos Dylan doesn't feel done, but knows we are, too. Maybe I should have started very young like Andrea so I could have as many as I wanted. But I didn't, and since there are many things I like about the life I have now that *couldn't* have happened if I'd started having children much younger, I don't regret that I don't have the option of having as many as I might optimally want. Does that make sense? Sure it makes sense. Plus you'd have different children if you'd started sooner, and you can't regret the ones you have! Makes sense to me too. Things happen the way they do for a reason Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 |
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Leslie wrote:
I know people who say they know they are done, people here and IRL. I keep hoping that will happen to me at some point, because otherwise I don't know how I'll stop! I feel exactly the same way! With every pregnancy (and I know that's only two so far), I go through this contented phase in the first trimester. Then I start to get broody again somewhere in the second trimester and it just gets worse from there! DH has always said 4 is his ideal number, but lately he's started talking about more. OMG. Following our current pattern of having a baby when I'm an odd-number old, that's... um... ack! LOL. I bet we'll stop before he feels done, too. Mary S. (who has gone from "should we have an only child?" to being a hopeless baby junkie) |
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Barbara said:
LOL, you might have to wait for menopause like my grandmother (who had her last at 47). Honestly, the only thing that makes me want to stop is that I'd like to still be young enough to have a little fun when they are out of the nest. But I know what you mean. I hear a lot of people say they are definitely done and they really don't *want* any more kids and I think, "Gosh, how could you not want more wonderful people in your family?" That is *exactly* how we feel! We were actually talking about this last night (it started as a conversation about the Star Trek concept of IDIC--infinite diversity through infinite combinations). Our kids all look so different, with blonde, brown, and black hair, and blue, green, and brown eyes, and even four different blood types--and we were speculating on what Lorelei would look like, and of course all their personalities are so different too! And then for me it takes on a religious perspective as well, the opportunity to co-create with God a human being (I mean, what could be more creative or important than that) who will not only live after us but will live forever . . . I just think the whole thing is pretty awe-inspiring and I know I'm unusual but I sometimes wonder why anyone could stand to stop at two with all that potential! I don't mean to say I think it's bad not to want more kids or to be sure you're done--it's probably just the opposite--but I totally can't get my own mind around it! ITA. Maybe it would be more sensible for us to stop, since we certainly can't really afford more kids and they can all be overwhelming sometimes, but the other stuff outweighs that for us. Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Sara said:
I don't think ten is very likely for us though. DH and I are young enough, though, that three or four or five isn't unlikely. I used to want ten, but there isn't time for that at this point. I expect we will end up with six, though. Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Sophie said:
I don't really feel done. There, I admitted it!!! But I know 4 is a sensible, do-able place to stop. I think more would put me over the edge, but I'd still love more - lol. Darn it, Sophie--now I'm disappointed! You were one of the people I was thinking of who knows they are done. I was hoping there was some hope I might come to feel that way at some point! Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Ericka said:
Some people would be better off taking the chance and going forward, while others are probably better remaining conservative. I think it just depends on the personalities. For me, it's hard to imagine not really enjoying another child regardless of the issues that come along with him or her, but I am blessed with resources and a personality that usually accommodates that sort of thing relatively well. Remember that when they survey parents, a staggeringly high number admit in anonymous situations that while they would *never* want to give up a child, if they knew then what they know now, they would have had fewer (or no) kids. This suggests to me that there are quite a few people for whom it would be better *not* to go forward if they were on the fence. Wow, I had never heard that statistic before! (Although I feel that way on certain days g). Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Sara said:
Woohoo Leslie! I hope that means a #6 will be coming along in a few years -- maybe when I have #3! Well, my husband is the anal type and insists we must have an even number of children! g He was happy to stop at four, but not at five! I will see how things go, but would probably wait no longer than three years to have another. Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Sara said:
This is so beautiful, Leslie! So true too. thanks. :-) Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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