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"Sophie" wrote in message
... So what is it about pushing that freaks some folks out? I'm genuinely It's not the pushing, it's where the baby comes out - lol. Even with what happened with L, I'm perfectly A-OK with c-sections and that I never had to have a baby come out "there" "There" is probably the fastest healing part of our bodies though. Certainly faster than the abdomen. I had a deep labial graze (at least I thought it was deep lol) from where DS was born with his hand up by his face. It was gone within a couple of days, I was amazed. And urinary alkanisers take away any pain from grazes while peeing. Did you labour much or at all before having your sections? Because labour is certainly worse than delivery. I think a lot of women think that since labour can hurt a lot, pushing must certainly hurt a lot more. It isn't the case. 'Delivery' seems to be delivery from pain, not just of the baby, lol. I'm a wimp when it comes to pain, but of all the painful experiences in my life, birth is not at the top of the list. Having a plantar wart cut from the sole of my foot under local anaesthesia at age 14 is right up there. Coming off my bicycle at 16 and ending up with a split chin, a few chipped teeth and numerous bruises is right up there too. Transition labour is probably somewhere after those two, but certainly didn't compare to 18 weeks of morning sickness - oh, for a few hours of pain over weeks spent gagging my guts out, head in a toilet... Actual delivery was nothing worse than the Chinese burns my Dad used to give us as kids, pain-wise, it was a non-event, but very exciting nonetheless :-) And before anyone assumes that my "down there" is stretched all out of shape and my babies just slip out, my DH assures me this is not the case ;-) -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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"Denise Anderson" wrote in message
news:_2Rdd.15602$232.1645@trnddc09... I'm sure you're a very good mum, and a very much loved mum. Denise Thankyou. :-) I probably spend too much time posting to newsgroups and not enough time parenting or cleaning. -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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"emilymr" emily@xxxxxx wrote in message
lkaboutparenting.com... I feel exactly the same, PRE-baby, which is alarming. Both my husband and I just got our PhDs, had a very equal relationship in terms of cooking/cleaning the house/ doing errands, were in the same place in terms of jobs (working at the uni, although of course he STILL got paid more as an engineering grad student than I did as a history grad student!) If you have a PhD, you are one up on me, lol. I could have got formal qualifications had I been prepared to put in the effort, but I was too lazy to do that either, I guess :-) All my childhood people tut-tutted about my 'potential'. 'Potential' is going to be a swear word in my house if I have anything to do with it. I miss the flatmate relationship, and I'm rebelling against Stepford already!! (and most of this is probably in *my* head, not in DH's actual expectations) I think the same is true for me. DH honestly doesn't expect much, he's incredibly forgiving. Perhaps that's what makes me so guilty. -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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"Sophie" wrote in message
... Okay, I admit it. I just don't get why anyone would be relieved to be cut open rather than pushing out a baby. I don't mean that as an attack: I'm glad you're relieved and happy about it. I just can't figure what it is about pushing that some women find so awful. I mean, I presume women have had bowel movements every day of their lives (unless they're having "problems", of course!). Pushing out a baby just isn't that much different. At least in my experience. So what is it about pushing that freaks some folks out? I'm genuinely curious. It's not the pushing, it's where the baby comes out - lol. Even with what happened with L, I'm perfectly A-OK with c-sections and that I never had to have a baby come out "there" Okay, I think I can sort of understand that. I know I had no desire to watch my kids come out in the mirror or anything like that--I'd just rather not *see* how big that opening can get even if I know by looking at my babies that it must be pretty darn big g! Still, babies are meant to come out of vaginas. And once you've given birth vaginally, I think most of the squick factor over all the stretching pretty well goes away. You know it goes back where it came from g! -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) "Bush didn't pee his pants or kill anyone, so my guess is that people will say [the third debate] was a tie."--Jessi Klein (http://www.cnn.com/2004/ALLPOLITICS/...log/index.html) All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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"Jenrose" wrote in message
news:1098353807.0aLFJdt4DI0+6aoiZXMhYQ@teranews... Hah! I have a kid per decade. This helps with babysitting issues... (when my first was born, my sister was almost 9...) DD will turn 12 when this one is 3 months old. Good idea, I could do that. I probably have another 10-11 years of fertility left. At our house we have an exclamation.... "Well! Gild my pinecones and call me Martha!" Said sarcastically any time someone gets "extra fancy" about something beyond what others in the family consider sane. The only time I was accused of this recently was planning for my wedding. That time, it was probably warrented. Never again! LOL....I like that :-) Heh. I don't ever get hormonal, or whiny. Not ever. eyeroll There are some things I do well. Parenting newborns, I have a knack for. Parenting preschoolers... not so much. After preschool? Knack again. And pregnancy... I know a lot about pregnancy but am *lousy* at actually doing it. I don't believe you're lousy at being pg. It's virtually impossible to be lousy at being pg, unless you are actively alcoholic or do hard drugs. Pregnancy involves eating enough for two people, I can do that. Pregnancy involves a lot of naps and taking it easy, I can do that too. She cries herself to sleep a lot, in her own room. Personally, my nerves couldn't take it. If it works for you, so be it. My cousin was here a month ago, with her son, and did let him cry it out at one point. I did NOT say one word about it, even though it's not how I'd parent, because I have no history with her child, no background into how they got to that point, and some kids just need some time to wind down before sleeping. We do what works for us. She doesn't cry for more than 10-15 minutes before I pick her up and nurse her, or she's gone to sleep, but I admit the real reason I do it is because I have a very low tolerance level for her crying. She cries whether I hold her or not, and it may be more comforting for her to be held while she's crying, but it's unpleasant for *me*. It makes my blood pressure rise, to have her screaming like that & be unable to fix it. Generally for those 10-15 minutes of hell, I now have two doors shut between us, either that or I'm outside watering plants. I'm not a good enough parent to suffer it with her. You do a coffee group? That's more than I'm managing, socially, right now. And you baked for it? I attempted to bake for it. And it hasn't been held at my house yet, and hopefully never will. I've not been Ms. Popular with most of them anyway, since I mentioned the swear word "SIDS". I thought it was safe to bring up since they were also talking about their fears as their babies were sleeping longer at night, and this was a big thing for me at the time too. No-one told me that coffee groups aren't for serious stuff. Did I mention that I'm a *horrible* housecleaner? I take that back... I'm horrible at keeping my own house clean. I'm pretty competent at cleaning other people's houses where I'm not attached to the junk. I can go to someone else's house and clean things I would never bother with in my own too. I think the difference for me is, that I don't get noticed for cleaning at home. Like most lazy people, any work I do is very much based on the amount of gratitude I get at the end of it. If this were alt.housecleaning, I'd be the one wringing my hands, except that I'm so bad about housecleaning that I've ceased to worry about it and don't even know if there *is* an alt.housecleaning. Parenting is one of my schticks, something I have a knack for, and I've found a lot of things that work *for me*. Do I care if people follow all my advice? Not really. I put it out there in case it helps someone who finds that what they are doing *doesn't* work for them. Most of my parenting style is based not on the path of least resistance, but on the path of least work in the long run. I'm a pragmaticly lazy person. (((Jenrose))) Thanks. -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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Thanks Sue :-)
-- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ "Sue" wrote in message ... "Mum of Two" wrote in message ... Everyone here is so perfect! It seems you all wear your babies constantly, co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on end while they scream, and manage all this even with a dozen other children besides and a successful career. Those of you who don't have a career cook, bake, make your own clothes, baby products, and are basically Martha Stewart minus the criminal record. Still others of you are _always right_ or at least have an annoying way of posting which makes it appear that way to everyone who reads you, myself included. Do you ever get hormonal, overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one? I don't wear DD. She amuses herself a lot under a playgym. In fact, I don't even think she likes me because she cries and struggles when I pick her up sometimes. She cries herself to sleep a lot, in her own room. I tell her off when she bites me. She has cat hair in her nappy, and sometimes in her mouth. She doesn't get enough tummy-time, so she's starting to crawl upside down. She would rather watch TV, at three & a half months, than look at us. I can't/won't cook nor bake - the other mothers at my coffee group thought my scones were biscuits. I don't do sewing either. Actually, I don't do much of anything. I am frequently hormonal and irrational, and constantly contradict myself. I don't make a lot of sense most of the time, even to me. At least she's breast-fed and side-slept, so she'll have a good immune system and a nice shaped head when she starts therapy. -- Amy, Aww, your not alone. This group can be a little overwhelming in the perfect department. My husband and I have decided that we are not going to start saving for college, but we are saving for therapist's fees because I am sure we are messing them up. ;o) Don't worry, you don't need to co-sleep or wear your baby for them to turn out to be happy, respectful people. You would really have to do some horrible things to mess up your child. Just love them, attend to their needs, remain consistent in your disipline, plenty on your love and always listen. You'll be fine. (((hugs)) -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message
... Mum of Two wrote: Everyone here is so perfect! It seems you all wear your babies constantly, co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on end while they scream, and manage all this even with a dozen other children besides and a successful career. Those of you who don't have a career cook, bake, make your own clothes, baby products, and are basically Martha Stewart minus the criminal record. Still others of you are _always right_ or at least have an annoying way of posting which makes it appear that way to everyone who reads you, myself included. Do you ever get hormonal, overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one? Of course everyone does--at least I do. If you'd been around here longer, you'd likely see it ;-) And you have to keep in mind that when people post in response to a question, it's usually because that's an area where they've had some success or have some information (otherwise, what would they say?). But if you'll take note, not everyone responds to every question. A bunch of them are reading right along with the OP, hoping to find a solution to a similar problem. There are thousands of people who read this newsgroup. With a group that big, there's almost always someone who's got a particular area whipped into shape, and there's usually someone who who does X, whatever it might be. If you munge all that together, sure, you'll get Super Mom--that's why this group can be so useful. But if you look closely, no one person does it all. See? You're being right again, in a perfectly logical way ;-) Can you post and be wrong and illogical occasionally? It would make me feel better. -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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"Circe" wrote in message
news:shQdd.35607$bk1.31448@fed1read05... Mum of Two wrote: Everyone here is so perfect! All I have to say is this: people are always considerably more perfect on paper (or screen) than they are IRL. I know I always have a better solution for someone else's problems when I have time to sit and think and write it out than I have for my own when I have to handle them on the fly g! Wow... Does that mean I look better than I am too? Does everyone picture me posting in my PJ's with messy hair next to a dirty cereal bowl, or do they picture me somewhat sane looking? -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ |
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In message EySdd.35722$bk1.17540@fed1read05, Circe
writes I wonder what factors lead to people being *frightened* during labor? I think understanding that could really be quite key to reducing both the amount of pain people experience during labor and the desire for elective c-sections. I know myself well enough to know that for me it's going to be a whole 'fear of the unknown', and 'help, my body is doing something out of my control', thing. (Of course, in my case this is *not* increasing my desire for an elective section - totally the reverse, since a Caesarean would only make me feel far more out of control of the situation.) All the best, Sarah -- "I once requested an urgent admission for a homeopath who had become depressed and taken a massive underdose" - Phil Peverley |
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I've forgotten to buckle her into her carseat, twice. I've used a baby wipe
twice because it only had pee on it, on more than one occasion. I've held her in a way that I hoped she'd swallow her mouthful of spit-up rather than spit it over me. And she's not yet four months. To give DD credit, she's a very settled baby. I bet yours was crying when you put him in the oven. LOL if this is confession time, bring it on, I have plenty more. -- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ "Anne Rogers" wrote in message news:1098372015.BX27s89i7AEm7IvX0o9WMg@teranews... Amy, you are not, I must definitely qualify as worse, though I do blame it on the hormones and PPD, but have you ever put your child in the oven? Or left them in a shop, no I thought not, I am now officially the worst mother! Though I did and still do baby wear if that redeems me at all! |
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