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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Dale" wrote in message om... "teachrmama" wrote in It also beats the hell out of all these women claiming that they are victims because they are raising children alone because they didn't have the sense to get to know the men well before they took off their panties and flopped back on a bed. Perhaps women might start considering the consequences for their actions if they got real consequences, too. And, no, raising a child is NOT a consequence. Since immigration has pulled my authorization to work, the CS payments have ceased. I just got a heart wrenching letter from the single never married mother of my child after 8 years of no communication. She complains that she suffers from having to work in order to afford a place to stay for her and our child. She whines about being laid off a couple times and having to pound the pavement to find a new job, else she couldn't afford a place to rent. The biggest problem in her life right now is how is she going to afford a new car when her current one breaks down. Am I missing something here or is everyone in the country not in the same predicament? She works in health care and lives in co-op housing for $360/mth. The thing is, when you choose to have children, whether you are single or married, you CHOOSE to support that child. If the 2 of you were married and you were incapacitated in some way, she would be doing the exact same thing. I do no comprehend why some womwn think that having a child should exempt them from being wage earners so they can support their children. It boggles the mind. Do you have any contact with your child at all? And, at the moment, since you are not working, how are you affording to live? |
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"teachrmama" wrote in Am I missing something here or is everyone in the country not in the same predicament? She works in health care and lives in co-op housing for $360/mth. The thing is, when you choose to have children, whether you are single or married, you CHOOSE to support that child. If the 2 of you were married and you were incapacitated in some way, she would be doing the exact same thing. Yes, she's lucky she only has herself to feed & 1 small girl! We all don't spend 100% of our income on living expenses, she's just cheap! I do no comprehend why some womwn think that having a child should exempt them from being wage earners so they can support their children. It boggles the mind. SHe has that 50's mentality, men should pay for all her expenses! Do you have any contact with your child at all? And, at the moment, since you are not working, how are you affording to live? I just had to give up my job two weeks ago. my rent is payed for this month and I have enough for next month, but the end is in sight for me in this country. I have not seen my child in 8 years! Would it not make more sense for her to drop the $55,000 arrearage to make the felony charge go away and I can appeal immigration's denial? AT least if I'm working here, she can continue to receive monthly payments. |
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"ghostwriter" wrote in CASA to jail your deadbeat ass. If you honestly were layed off I want that same CASA to be able to transfer some of the current payment amount into arrears so that you can get back on your feet, at which point the payment can be readjusted. And I want all this without you or your ex having to dish out money for a lawyer. It will never work, Lawyers have to be involved to get their cut of the money. Realize, C$ is a huge thriving legal industry where the law profession is raking in the fees! |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
"Dale" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in Am I missing something here or is everyone in the country not in the same predicament? She works in health care and lives in co-op housing for $360/mth. The thing is, when you choose to have children, whether you are single or married, you CHOOSE to support that child. If the 2 of you were married and you were incapacitated in some way, she would be doing the exact same thing. Yes, she's lucky she only has herself to feed & 1 small girl! We all don't spend 100% of our income on living expenses, she's just cheap! I do no comprehend why some womwn think that having a child should exempt them from being wage earners so they can support their children. It boggles the mind. SHe has that 50's mentality, men should pay for all her expenses! Do you have any contact with your child at all? And, at the moment, since you are not working, how are you affording to live? I just had to give up my job two weeks ago. my rent is payed for this month and I have enough for next month, but the end is in sight for me in this country. I have not seen my child in 8 years! Would it not make more sense for her to drop the $55,000 arrearage to make the felony charge go away and I can appeal immigration's denial? AT least if I'm working here, she can continue to receive monthly payments. It doesn't sound as if she can see anything but her own "needs"--which is sad. I think depriving her child of a father who is perfectly willing and able to be a father is criminal. |
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Name change because parent not visiting child
Dale wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in CASA to jail your deadbeat ass. If you honestly were layed off I want that same CASA to be able to transfer some of the current payment amount into arrears so that you can get back on your feet, at which point the payment can be readjusted. And I want all this without you or your ex having to dish out money for a lawyer. It will never work, Lawyers have to be involved to get their cut of the money. Realize, C$ is a huge thriving legal industry where the law profession is raking in the fees! So hire a lawyer to serve as the CASA. Hire a lawyer to represent you kids, not yourself or your ex, but pick the lawyer by elimination so that neither party is unduly represented. Then sign a binding agreement allowing that lawyer to draft a final agreement if you and your ex cannot agree. Lawyers are required to seek the best interests of their clients and assuming you research the lawyer it shouldnt be difficult to pick one that believes joint custody is in the best interests of the child. The idea is that favortism can be eliminated by the selection process and that you can draft the agreement so that challenging the results on its merits is difficult assuming that no malpractice occured. Frankly you could use this method right now as a form of binding arbetration if you could get both parties to agree to it. No disinterested CS caseworkers or uninformed judge, and I think it unlikley that any judge would question someones right to use non-judicial forms of conflict resolution. And while that type of advocate couldnt issue contempt charges, I could see a garnishment type clause being possible. Ghostwriter |
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"ghostwriter" wrote in interests of the child. The idea is that favortism can be eliminated by the selection process and that you can draft the agreement so that challenging the results on its merits is difficult assuming that no malpractice occured. Frankly you could use this method right now as a form of binding arbetration if you could get both parties to agree to it. You could write this into the marriage license agreement so that all parties understand the score before they concider marriage and during the marriage when they are concidering to leave it. A clause should be understood that the one party leaving the marriage will not equally share all benefits due to them. |
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Oh my god what drivel.
"ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... DB wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in IF WE AS A SOCIETY EASE THE BURDEN OFF OF THE GOOD FATHERS MORE OF THE BAD ONES WILL SLIP THROUGH. THE PRICE TO SOCIETY IS FAR GREATER IF THAT HAPPENS THAN FORCING GROWN MEN TO DO WITHOUT. YES IT SUCKS, BUT THAT IS THE SIMPLE TRUTH. Ghostwriter |
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R wrote: Oh my god what drivel. Thank you so much for pointing that out to me, a little more detail as to why it is drivel might help. My postion and thinking on the subject are fairly common in this country, no matter how much you dislike that fact. If you cant make a willing participant in a discussion understand your postion you're screwed with the rest of the country. Ghostwriter "ghostwriter" wrote in message oups.com... DB wrote: "ghostwriter" wrote in IF WE AS A SOCIETY EASE THE BURDEN OFF OF THE GOOD FATHERS MORE OF THE BAD ONES WILL SLIP THROUGH. THE PRICE TO SOCIETY IS FAR GREATER IF THAT HAPPENS THAN FORCING GROWN MEN TO DO WITHOUT. YES IT SUCKS, BUT THAT IS THE SIMPLE TRUTH. Ghostwriter |
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"ghostwriter" wrote in My postion and thinking on the subject are fairly common in this country, What about the global thinking on equal human rights for everyone, should a man's existence be diminished because a political pressure group has come up with a sympathetic slogan that allows politicians to do as they please? When are we going to tell our political representatives that "in the best interest of the children" is not an excuse for ignoring human rights or denying freedoms that were hard fought for. No Mr. Senator, you do not get of that easy to ignore equality & human rights in the name of political agenda. Your job is to make sure the system is helping everyone involved, the present system does not do this, FIX IT!!!!!!!!!!! |
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"DB" wrote No Mr. Senator, you do not get of that easy to ignore equality & human rights in the name of political agenda. Your job is to make sure the system is helping everyone involved, the present system does not do this, FIX IT!!!!!!!!!!! == Umm, I'm pretty sure he isn't reading alt.child-support. |
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