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Help! Toddler left in car question
I was recently in Tucson with a friend of mine and we went to check on a
rental property she owns. Her 2 year old was in the car seat, napping, and my friend left her there when we went to check the house. The windows were all down (this thanks to me -- my friend thought you could leave the windows up on a 70 degree day in Tucson! This is the kind of thing that worries me about my friend.). We were in the house about 15-20 minutes. She never went to check on the toddler and we could not see the car from the house unless we were in the front room. We went all over the house and the back yard. My husband went to check on the toddler during this time. My friend did not know he did it. I felt VERY uncomfortable about the fact that my friend left her kid in the car unattended and I mentioned it to her. She dismissed my concerns, saying that it was a safe neighborhood and one she was familiar with. She also said that she didn't like to wake up her daughter from her nap because she was so tired. I do not have children. I know that I would NEVER leave my baby (if I had one) alone in a car, but maybe I am just paranoid -- maybe, since I don't have kids, I just don't understand. What should I do? Should I mention it again, more forcefully this time? Am I just being paranoid? I would like to hear from some parents on this. As for the neighborhood -- it's ok. It's not great and not terrible -- just ok. Lord, I can tell you all that I am concerned about my friendship with this woman right now because I feel as if I should mention this again way more forcibly, but I would like some advice first. Thanks. -- nimue "If I had created reality television I would have had a much greater influence, but then I would have had to KILL MYSELF." Joss Whedon "There are two types of women -- those who like chocolate and complete bitches." Dawn French |
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"nimue" wrote in message ... daughter from her nap because she was so tired. I do not have children. I know that I would NEVER leave my baby (if I had one) alone in a car, but maybe I am just paranoid -- maybe, since I don't have kids, I just don't understand. What should I do? Should I mention it again, more forcefully this time? Am I just being paranoid? I would like to hear from some parents on this. As for the neighborhood -- it's ok. It's not great and not terrible -- just ok. Lord, I can tell you all that I am concerned about my friendship with this woman right now because I feel as if I should mention this again way more forcibly, but I would like some advice first. Thanks. I have children and I do not leave my kids in the car for more than a minute out of my sight. There's a law against that here, thank goodness, and it states exactly that. We can't leave our kids in the car alone out of our sight for more than a minute, so I only do it long enough to walk literally a few feet from the driveway to the door of the dcp and step in to sign one child in or out. It only take a few seconds, but I lock the vehicle door and I put the emergency brake on. I've had GP's on both sides and friends suggest I leave on or both kids in the car on different occasions, but that's not me. I have a fear that something terrible might happen and then I couldn't forgive myself for not following my heart. |
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Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that
even) It takes 9 months to create a brother or sister. (and does not replace the child stolen) It takes many many many years, (even decades) getting over the fact you have no idea where your child is, Or what happened to your child, or who ever took your child. Never ever do I leave a kid in a car. It would never happen to me. I have heard to many cases of it happening. In fact was one here recently where baby was dumped and it was lucky a passer by found it otherwise it would have died. Its againest the law in this state im living in, and also to you just dont know who is really watching or following you. I would suggest that she should be more careful. Maybe find out how many cases have happened in the last year ? Or you could be more forceful next time and if she refuses, you could then shock her, (by being mean) and get another friend of yours to take baby whilst she is inside looking at the houses. When she comes out, I bet you one dollar she will panic and lose it !. (Unless of couse she doesn't really care about the baby and is only using in a tug of war between her and her ex) BB I know off topic but look at "I know my name is steven" or "the beaumont children" both unlucky and in the wrong spot at the wrong time. "nimue" wrote in message ... I was recently in Tucson with a friend of mine and we went to check on a rental property she owns. Her 2 year old was in the car seat, napping, and my friend left her there when we went to check the house. The windows were all down (this thanks to me -- my friend thought you could leave the windows up on a 70 degree day in Tucson! This is the kind of thing that worries me about my friend.). We were in the house about 15-20 minutes. She never went to check on the toddler and we could not see the car from the house unless we were in the front room. We went all over the house and the back yard. My husband went to check on the toddler during this time. My friend did not know he did it. I felt VERY uncomfortable about the fact that my friend left her kid in the car unattended and I mentioned it to her. She dismissed my concerns, saying that it was a safe neighborhood and one she was familiar with. She also said that she didn't like to wake up her daughter from her nap because she was so tired. I do not have children. I know that I would NEVER leave my baby (if I had one) alone in a car, but maybe I am just paranoid -- maybe, since I don't have kids, I just don't understand. What should I do? Should I mention it again, more forcefully this time? Am I just being paranoid? I would like to hear from some parents on this. As for the neighborhood -- it's ok. It's not great and not terrible -- just ok. Lord, I can tell you all that I am concerned about my friendship with this woman right now because I feel as if I should mention this again way more forcibly, but I would like some advice first. Thanks. -- nimue "If I had created reality television I would have had a much greater influence, but then I would have had to KILL MYSELF." Joss Whedon "There are two types of women -- those who like chocolate and complete bitches." Dawn French |
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Billy bob wrote:
Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) It takes 9 months to create a brother or sister. (and does not replace the child stolen) It takes many many many years, (even decades) getting over the fact you have no idea where your child is, Or what happened to your child, or who ever took your child. Never ever do I leave a kid in a car. It would never happen to me. I have heard to many cases of it happening. In fact was one here recently where baby was dumped and it was lucky a passer by found it otherwise it would have died. Its againest the law in this state im living in, What state is that? This happened in Arizona and I live in New York. and also to you just dont know who is really watching or following you. I would suggest that she should be more careful. Maybe find out how many cases have happened in the last year ? Or you could be more forceful next time and if she refuses, you could then shock her, (by being mean) and get another friend of yours to take baby whilst she is inside looking at the houses. No, no, I could never do that. When she comes out, I bet you one dollar she will panic and lose it !. (Unless of couse she doesn't really care about the baby and is only using in a tug of war between her and her ex) Uh, creepy -- I didn't mention that she is divorced -- how did you know? I think she does love her baby -- I just think she is UNBELIEVABLY naive -- she just assumes everything will be okay and constantly has these little messes in her life that come from not making sure things are as they should be. BB I know off topic but look at "I know my name is steven" or "the beaumont children" both unlucky and in the wrong spot at the wrong time. "nimue" wrote in message ... I was recently in Tucson with a friend of mine and we went to check on a rental property she owns. Her 2 year old was in the car seat, napping, and my friend left her there when we went to check the house. The windows were all down (this thanks to me -- my friend thought you could leave the windows up on a 70 degree day in Tucson! This is the kind of thing that worries me about my friend.). We were in the house about 15-20 minutes. She never went to check on the toddler and we could not see the car from the house unless we were in the front room. We went all over the house and the back yard. My husband went to check on the toddler during this time. My friend did not know he did it. I felt VERY uncomfortable about the fact that my friend left her kid in the car unattended and I mentioned it to her. She dismissed my concerns, saying that it was a safe neighborhood and one she was familiar with. She also said that she didn't like to wake up her daughter from her nap because she was so tired. I do not have children. I know that I would NEVER leave my baby (if I had one) alone in a car, but maybe I am just paranoid -- maybe, since I don't have kids, I just don't understand. What should I do? Should I mention it again, more forcefully this time? Am I just being paranoid? I would like to hear from some parents on this. As for the neighborhood -- it's ok. It's not great and not terrible -- just ok. Lord, I can tell you all that I am concerned about my friendship with this woman right now because I feel as if I should mention this again way more forcibly, but I would like some advice first. Thanks. -- nimue "If I had created reality television I would have had a much greater influence, but then I would have had to KILL MYSELF." Joss Whedon "There are two types of women -- those who like chocolate and complete bitches." Dawn French -- nimue "If I had created reality television I would have had a much greater influence, but then I would have had to KILL MYSELF." Joss Whedon "There are two types of women -- those who like chocolate and complete bitches." Dawn French |
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"Billy bob" billybob@bobshome wrote in message u... Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) I think there are a lot of situations reported where the child was unintentionally taken by a car thief. You know, the child was in the back seat and the thief didn't know it. |
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"toypup" wrote in message om... "Billy bob" billybob@bobshome wrote in message u... Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) I think there are a lot of situations reported where the child was unintentionally taken by a car thief. You know, the child was in the back seat and the thief didn't know it. Define "a lot". And what percentage are car jackings (where a parent was in the car or standing by the car) versus parents wandering away. From what I've heard on the news, I'd guess one or two a year in the entire US, and I'd say most of those are car jackings. Note, I'm not saying you should leave children in cars, I'm just tired of folks fear mongering about imagined dangers, instead of the obvious ones, like a child overheating in a parked car. |
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"Cathy Kearns" wrote in message om... "toypup" wrote in message om... "Billy bob" billybob@bobshome wrote in message u... Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) I think there are a lot of situations reported where the child was unintentionally taken by a car thief. You know, the child was in the back seat and the thief didn't know it. Define "a lot". And what percentage are car jackings (where a parent was in the car or standing by the car) versus parents wandering away. From what I've heard on the news, I'd guess one or two a year in the entire US, and I'd say most of those are car jackings. Note, I'm not saying you should leave children in cars, I'm just tired of folks fear mongering about imagined dangers, instead of the obvious ones, like a child overheating in a parked car. The car theft thing is on my mind as part of why I do not leave the kids in the car, as if I needed too many reasons. For me, it is not so much the likelihood, which is pathetically small. But *what if?* As I said to my DH, who just paled upon thinking about it, the consequences are so horrifyingly small that a vanishingly small chance is just not small enough. I am with you on making things seem what they are not. I do not see the value in it. But even if temperature is not a problem, I still would not leave my kids. |
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Stephanie Stowe wrote:
"Cathy Kearns" wrote in message om... "toypup" wrote in message om... "Billy bob" billybob@bobshome wrote in message u... Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) I think there are a lot of situations reported where the child was unintentionally taken by a car thief. You know, the child was in the back seat and the thief didn't know it. Define "a lot". And what percentage are car jackings (where a parent was in the car or standing by the car) versus parents wandering away. From what I've heard on the news, I'd guess one or two a year in the entire US, and I'd say most of those are car jackings. Note, I'm not saying you should leave children in cars, I'm just tired of folks fear mongering about imagined dangers, instead of the obvious ones, like a child overheating in a parked car. The car theft thing is on my mind as part of why I do not leave the kids in the car, as if I needed too many reasons. For me, it is not so much the likelihood, which is pathetically small. But *what if?* As I said to my DH, who just paled upon thinking about it, the consequences are so horrifyingly small that a vanishingly small chance is just not small enough. THAT is good parenting. In fact, THAT is a good way to think in general. This is why my friend gets into trouble so often. She just doesn't think of the worst possible consequences. She just thinks the world is a much safer place than I do. I am with you on making things seem what they are not. I do not see the value in it. But even if temperature is not a problem, I still would not leave my kids. -- nimue "If I had created reality television I would have had a much greater influence, but then I would have had to KILL MYSELF." Joss Whedon "There are two types of women -- those who like chocolate and complete bitches." Dawn French |
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On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 16:17:16 -0500, "Stephanie Stowe"
scribbled: The car theft thing is on my mind as part of why I do not leave the kids in the car, as if I needed too many reasons. For me, it is not so much the likelihood, which is pathetically small. But *what if?* As I said to my DH, who just paled upon thinking about it, the consequences are so horrifyingly small that a vanishingly small chance is just not small enough. This is my reasoning, as well. I won't debate the "what ifs" and percentages of likelihoods with anyone here, but I don't leave mine in the car for any reason other than I'd stated for opening the door of our house and dropping my purse or groceries inside. It's just not a risk (no matter how minute) I wish to take. If my dd2 is asleep, I just don't stop for bread or a newspaper or whatever. It's not important enough to me, to leave her in the car. I always pay at the pump if the kids are with me, too. Nan |
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"Stephanie Stowe" wrote in message ... "Cathy Kearns" wrote in message om... "toypup" wrote in message om... "Billy bob" billybob@bobshome wrote in message u... Its takes one minute for someone to take your child. (yup less then that even) I think there are a lot of situations reported where the child was unintentionally taken by a car thief. You know, the child was in the back seat and the thief didn't know it. Define "a lot". And what percentage are car jackings (where a parent was in the car or standing by the car) versus parents wandering away. From what I've heard on the news, I'd guess one or two a year in the entire US, and I'd say most of those are car jackings. Note, I'm not saying you should leave children in cars, I'm just tired of folks fear mongering about imagined dangers, instead of the obvious ones, like a child overheating in a parked car. The car theft thing is on my mind as part of why I do not leave the kids in the car, as if I needed too many reasons. For me, it is not so much the likelihood, which is pathetically small. But *what if?* As I said to my DH, who just paled upon thinking about it, the consequences are so horrifyingly small that a vanishingly small chance is just not small enough. That's a good reason for not leaving your child. You acknowledge that it's vanishingly small, but not small enough. I can certainly see that. I am with you on making things seem what they are not. I do not see the value in it. But even if temperature is not a problem, I still would not leave my kids. I'm just against the argument of not leaving your kids because "there are a lot of situation reported where the child was unintentionally taken..." It's too easy to disprove, there aren't "a lot", so it's not persuasive. |
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