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Please, take your milk and cookies and just go away...
On Wed, 14 Jan 2004 23:31:18 GMT, "0tterbot" wrote:
have you been lurking on the m.k. thread about mathematical shapes? you lot are uncanny, i swear... kylie hey, now.. g -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
In article , toto wrote:
On Thu, 15 Jan 2004 03:48:02 GMT, (Brent P) wrote: Oh really? I spent a good portion of my life trying to be *PERFECT*. It's not a matter of being *perfect.* Victims of bullies do have some common characteristics though. Nothing that is their fault and it isn't physical size that matters. That was in response to someone who was arguing that the victim should modify his behavior not to be an "abuse magnet" The idea was nobody would bother me if I was perfect. If I *NEVER* made a mistake I could *prevent* being a "participant". You are human. It's not *mistakes* that cause victimization. That's what I was arguing against. And lately I take being called a human an insult There are, however, some things that tend to make you a target. I don't know if you fit the general profile, so you need to think about how you were at the time and tell me if you fit anywhere below. If actions can be taken, that's a corrective action. If there is a corrective action, something is being done incorrectly. I made sure not to make a mistake in anything. That's actually the first mistake. People who are perceived as perfect are annoying to a lot of people and that would include bullies. No, that was a *response*. The fewer number of errors, the less there is to latch on to. your nose?! Yes. Bullies will always find something if they think you *can* be targeted. That's the point. i'm sure you see now with the benefit of hindsight that trying to be perfect isn't going to work for anyone. i already said these kids are unwilling participants, you don't have to spell it all out again. You have stated they should modify their behavior to prevent the harrassment. I am telling you no amount of modification works. Not all children are equally likely to be victimized by bullying behavior. Didn't say otherwise. Those, children who are more prone to be picked upon tend to have the following characteristics: *low self-esteem *insecure lack of social skills, * don't pick up on social cues * cry or become emotionally distraught easily, ? unable to defend or stand up for themselves *Some children actually seem to provoke their own victimization. These children will tease bullies, make themselves a target by egging the person on, not knowing when to stop and then not being able to effectively defend themselves when the balance of power shifts to the bully. *fewer close friends *tend to regard themselves as less competent Children who are not bullied tend to have better social skills and conflict management skills. They are more willing to assert themselves about differences without being aggressive or confronting. They suggest compromises and alternate solutions. They tend to be more aware of people's feelings and are the children who can be most belpful in resolving disputes and assisting other children to get help. *laugh* how exactly does one use diplomacy with someone who gets his jollies hurting people? People like that are not moved by reason. Kicking their ass, speaking their language is quite effective. One of the more interesting studies of children who are not bullied that I have seen contends that children who are socially skillful often defuse bullying by agreeing with the comments. For example if they say you have a big nose, the socially skillful child will say *yes, I do, so what?* They also have other techniques that seem to work. They usually don't *walk away* but they use their verbal skills to defuse the situation so the bully does not get the reaction he is looking for. And some kids have other strengths but aren't allowed to use them. But if a 'bully' doesn't get the reaction he is looking for he will increase the intensity. He doesn't go elsewhere until it's painful for him not to. For young children, teachers and parents can empower their children to speak up against bullies when they see someone being victimized. Or they can do the usual and say, ignore them. Which then takes it up a notch. Children who are not bullies or victims have a powerful role to play in shaping the behavior of other children. Teach your children to speak up on behalf of children being bullied. "Don't treat her that way, it's not nice." "Hitting is not a good way to solve problems, let's find a teacher and talk about what happened. lol... sorry but that cracks me up. That would turn the neutral kid into a victim in short order or if not a victim, a social leper. Teachers should: Intervene quickly and decidedly in bullying situations Consistently apply consequences Provide praise for the diffusion of bullying Provide adequate supervision at recess, lunch and passing periods. Initiate serious talks with victims and parents as wells bullies and parents Promote classroom discussions of bullying behavior In the real world the parents of the 'bullies' don't care and are not interested. Adequate supervision is not possible unless the children are confined to a rather small space, although these days they might be. Classroom discussions will be as usual dominated by the children jockeying for teacher's favorite. (wether there is one or not. It's nice that some people want to make the effort, but really I don't see any of that having any lasting effect. Make the message absolutely clear that bullying behavior is non-acceptable When time allows, attempt to discover underlying problems that the aggressor may be experiencing and provide appropriate support and/or referrals Provide the bully with a quiet place to calm down Actively teach social skills to all children beginning in preschool and kindergarten, but continuing throughout the school years. These skills can be integrated into the academic subject areas but this does take work and planning. Teach assertive behavior not agressive behavior. If only..... |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
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toto wrote: On Thu, 15 Jan 2004 03:38:11 GMT, DTJ wrote: And when one of those people have an opportunity to teach, they are turned down. When I was laid off a couple years ago, I looked into teaching. You would think that someone who actually has 10 years When my husband retired after 20 years in the military (with two engineering degrees), he applied to teach math and physics and was accepted and was very successful. He did the required 'education' courses while teaching on a provisional certificate which meant he could skip student teaching as he would already have 2 years experience. This was not uncommon. I did it the other way. I had a degree in zoology, and took the required courses in one year at the local 4 year state college including a semester of student teaching, and got my certificate and started teaching right away as a certified teacher. We both got our advanced certificates fairly quickly. You can't just go in and expect them to accept you with open arms - you have to pay your TEACHING dues first. experience in software development, project management and other managerial positions would have some value in teaching high school kids how to program. Not. Instead, they prefer to have someone with 3 hours of computer science, but who did take courses in 8th grade education. Wow, that makes sense. Most public high schools don't teach programming. They teach computer literacy and they *may* teach one or two programming classes, but they have no use for someone who can only teach that. My kids took college classes while they were in hs. One took calculus, and one took programming (and she took programming in hs too), and one took graphic art. grandma Rosalie |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
In article , toto wrote:
Most public high schools don't teach programming. They teach computer literacy and they *may* teach one or two programming classes, SNIP Things have gone for the worse then. Back when I was in HS the the computer classes were computer classes. BASIC and Pascal on the apple 2E.(obsolete by then,but not by a whole lot) Pascal, what horrid language, only loved by CS profs and the like. And a bit of some other now dead programing language... logo or something like that. Easy classes though. |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
"Brent P" wrote in message news:SiqNb.69916$I06.320795@attbi_s01... In article , toto wrote: Most public high schools don't teach programming. They teach computer literacy and they *may* teach one or two programming classes, SNIP Things have gone for the worse then. Back when I was in HS the the computer classes were computer classes. BASIC and Pascal on the apple 2E.(obsolete by then,but not by a whole lot) Pascal, what horrid language, only loved by CS profs and the like. And a bit of some other now dead programing language... logo or something like that. Easy classes though. How have things "gone for the worse" when schools are no longer teaching computer languages that you say are dead and obsolete? P. Tierney |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
"DTJ" wrote in message
... Educators are bureaucrats more interested in keeping their jobs than in educating. And fight any effort to hold them accountable. Tenure? What the **** is that? Any other job you can get fired from, but not a ****ing teacher. This is incorrect. So does your opinion now change? Teachers lack sufficient talent and training in their subject areas. There are exceptions - but in most colleges education has lower requirements than science or engineering. I doubt there are any exceptions. I have never heard of a teaching certificate or degree requiring anything near what any other bachelors degree requires, much less and engineer. Further, the majority of those who seek to become teachers are the absolute least intelligent among us. Then what does that make you if you can't get your facts straight, like above? Or below... I have heard future teachers complain when they had to take a math class or a logic class, claiming that they don't need logic, they are only going to teach. Did you take logic? Or proofs? Because if you did, you'd know full well that the "I have heard future teachers complain" does nothing to support your assertion that "teachers are the absolute least intelligent" people. The talented people who would make the best teachers usually find more rewarding, and higher paying, work in the private sector, and outside of education. And when one of those people have an opportunity to teach, they are turned down. When I was laid off a couple years ago, I looked into teaching. You would think that someone who actually has 10 years experience in software development, project management and other managerial positions would have some value in teaching high school kids how to program. Not. Instead, they prefer to have someone with 3 hours of computer science, but who did take courses in 8th grade education. Wow, that makes sense. Do you even know what computer courses are taught in high school? How do they apply to your skills? A few years ago there was a push to allow people with experience in industry to teach, as there were "not enough teachers". I guess that got canned when the NEA realized that intelligent people wouldn't want to join their union. As a person who likely considers himself highly intelligent, you would know that private schools (and many public school districts now) are not unionized. So if your skills are so valuable, then how come you couldn't get a job at one of those schools? You can't blame the NEA for that. So what's the story? P. Tierney |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
The Lindbergh Baby wrote in message . ..
Brent P wrote: As I have learned in chicago blizzards is to go out in the snow as it's falling and shovel low depths often. The last one we had in 99 (I think) I went out and shoveled every couple-three hours. Annoying yes, but I didn't have my cars burried like the neighbors did. It's just easier to take care of it in small bites. I just moved to California! :-) Problem solved. John I get my kids to shovel the snow |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
"P. Tierney" wrote in message news:wzrNb.57081$5V2.68891@attbi_s53...
"DTJ" wrote in message ... Educators are bureaucrats more interested in keeping their jobs than in educating. And fight any effort to hold them accountable. Tenure? What the **** is that? Any other job you can get fired from, but not a ****ing teacher. This is incorrect. So does your opinion now change? Teachers lack sufficient talent and training in their subject areas. There are exceptions - but in most colleges education has lower requirements than science or engineering. I doubt there are any exceptions. I have never heard of a teaching certificate or degree requiring anything near what any other bachelors degree requires, much less and engineer. Further, the majority of those who seek to become teachers are the absolute least intelligent among us. Then what does that make you if you can't get your facts straight, like above? Or below... I have heard future teachers complain when they had to take a math class or a logic class, claiming that they don't need logic, they are only going to teach. Did you take logic? Or proofs? Because if you did, you'd know full well that the "I have heard future teachers complain" does nothing to support your assertion that "teachers are the absolute least intelligent" people. The talented people who would make the best teachers usually find more rewarding, and higher paying, work in the private sector, and outside of education. And when one of those people have an opportunity to teach, they are turned down. When I was laid off a couple years ago, I looked into teaching. You would think that someone who actually has 10 years experience in software development, project management and other managerial positions would have some value in teaching high school kids how to program. Not. Instead, they prefer to have someone with 3 hours of computer science, but who did take courses in 8th grade education. Wow, that makes sense. Do you even know what computer courses are taught in high school? How do they apply to your skills? A few years ago there was a push to allow people with experience in industry to teach, as there were "not enough teachers". I guess that got canned when the NEA realized that intelligent people wouldn't want to join their union. As a person who likely considers himself highly intelligent, you would know that private schools (and many public school districts now) are not unionized. So if your skills are so valuable, then how come you couldn't get a job at one of those schools? You can't blame the NEA for that. So what's the story? P. Tierney My son is just startin Business Management in his 2nd year at the academy |
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Rant: Over indulgent parents strike again
Charles Soto wrote:
(Brent P) wrote: I know what I wanted to do with some people, I just had a safety circuit that kicked in and stopped me. It appears that at least some kids lack that safety circuit. And when they short out, there's nothing to stop the explosion. ITYM "parents." When a personal sense of one's mortality is lacking, it's up to the parents to provide a suitable "fear of death." You mean like this? http://maddox.xmission.com/beat.html Mag |
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