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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
In article , Nan says...
On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan One of whom is also extremely abusive sometimes. I mean, are we (or you on a.m.) to be masochists putting up with insults and abuse with no comment or complaint in order to be 'welcoming'? Or continually put up with a long trail of odd disruptions related to cross-posting and inviting cross-posting about unpleasant situations and disruptive topics? In my observation, just saying "stop that, please" is viewed to be 'unwelcoming'. Well, what to do? I think it's telling that the "multiple people" is pretty much limited to a very small number who have been very disruptive and/or nasty (although I don't know what the thing was with Stephanie - I think it was?, there is one person here whom I regard as perfectly reasonable who posted about not feeling welcome that puzzled me, and Dorothy as well, and it all seemed very long ago and vague ...) Banty |
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On 8 Feb 2006 06:40:48 -0800, "Barbara" wrote:
But even if you say that a lot of the kids now diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorders would previously just have been considered to be a little *different,* there still seem to be a heckuva lot more of them than when I was a kid, and I'd like to know why. One thing about this is that more of them are out and about in the community. As late as the 80s, parents were advised that these children would never live on their own and should be institutionalized. I don't know how many parents took the advice ot the doctors, but you can bet that less of them do so now. The fact that treatments have improved and group homes are available means we see them more often too. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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On 8 Feb 2006 06:40:48 -0800, "Barbara" wrote:
Chookie wrote: In article , (Catherine Woodgold) wrote: I simply don't know why autism is continuing to increase. I have a strong hunch it's because of something human beings are doing. Um, diagnosing it? Remember that Asperger's paper on his now-eponymous syndrome was published in 1946 or so, but only translated into English and republished in the 1990s. Suddenly a whole group of people who didn't fit the classical profile of autism could be included on the autism spectrum. Diagnosis has tightened up enormously. Remember it was only 1887 when Kraepelin noticed that there were a few different types of nutcases in his asylum -- the patients would have included intellectually as well as mentally disabled people. Categories that we take for granted are remarkably recent constructs, and, as with the autism spectrum, still developing. That's almost certainly a major reason for the huge proliferation in diagnoses of autism and learning disabilities these days, but I doubt that its all of it. Taking a step away from autism, my son has Auditory Processing Disorder, word retrieval issues, and some other misc. learning differences that probably didn't have a name as recently as 20 years ago. We've discussed the question of what would they have done with One back in those days. My opinion? They would have told us he just wasn't very bright (although he actually probably has a near-genius IQ if you only look at tests not affected by his disabilities). But even if you say that a lot of the kids now diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorders would previously just have been considered to be a little *different,* there still seem to be a heckuva lot more of them than when I was a kid, and I'd like to know why. Another thought too. Autistics used to be confined and not have children. That too has changed. More autistics are having children of their own who are on the spectrum. Barbara -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan Thanks! You are such a peach. |
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"Banty" wrote in message ... In article , Nan says... On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan One of whom is also extremely abusive sometimes. I mean, are we (or you on a.m.) to be masochists putting up with insults and abuse with no comment or complaint in order to be 'welcoming'? Or continually put up with a long trail of odd disruptions related to cross-posting and inviting cross-posting about unpleasant situations and disruptive topics? In my observation, just saying "stop that, please" is viewed to be 'unwelcoming'. Well, what to do? I think it's telling that the "multiple people" is pretty much limited to a very small number who have been very disruptive and/or nasty (although I don't know what the thing was with Stephanie - I think it was?, I don't even remember. All I remember was lurking a bit, posting, getting told pretty much that I was a jerk and kind of dumb or some such. So I left. I mean it *is* usenet. There is not reason that any single group needs to be the way I want it to be. I'm surprised, though, to learn that I'm a person that most people would find off putting. (Not you, Nan.) there is one person here whom I regard as perfectly reasonable who posted about not feeling welcome that puzzled me, and Dorothy as well, and it all seemed very long ago and vague ...) Banty |
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On Thu, 09 Feb 2006 17:22:17 GMT, "Stephanie"
wrote: I'm surprised, though, to learn that I'm a person that most people would find off putting. (Not you, Nan.) No, I wasn't referring to you as one of the off-putting types. Nan |
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On Thu, 09 Feb 2006 17:20:30 GMT, "Stephanie"
wrote: "Nan" wrote in message .. . On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan Thanks! You are such a peach. I wasn't considering you in that. Lyn brought up another person who complained about a.m. as "evidence" that a.m. is an exclusionary group and one in which everyone must engage in groupthink. The person she brought up was abusive and rude to a.m. posters, so I wouldn't say she's the type most people would want to befriend. Sorry for making you think I meant you. Nan |
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On 9 Feb 2006 07:56:57 -0800, Banty wrote:
One of whom is also extremely abusive sometimes. I mean, are we (or you on a.m.) to be masochists putting up with insults and abuse with no comment or complaint in order to be 'welcoming'? Or continually put up with a long trail of odd disruptions related to cross-posting and inviting cross-posting about unpleasant situations and disruptive topics? In my observation, just saying "stop that, please" is viewed to be 'unwelcoming'. Well, what to do? That's just it. If anyone is called to the carpet for their abusiveness to anyone we consider a friend, we're a "clique" (gawd I hate that word). I have to assume that people are pretty much the same in real life, as they are on usenet. If I meet someone that behaves the way certain other people on here act, in real life, I'm not going to like them irl, either. I think it's telling that the "multiple people" is pretty much limited to a very small number who have been very disruptive and/or nasty (although I don't know what the thing was with Stephanie - I think it was?, there is one person here whom I regard as perfectly reasonable who posted about not feeling welcome that puzzled me, and Dorothy as well, and it all seemed very long ago and vague ...) Nan |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Thu, 09 Feb 2006 17:20:30 GMT, "Stephanie" wrote: "Nan" wrote in message . .. On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan Thanks! You are such a peach. I wasn't considering you in that. Lyn brought up another person who complained about a.m. as "evidence" that a.m. is an exclusionary group and one in which everyone must engage in groupthink. The person she brought up was abusive and rude to a.m. posters, so I wouldn't say she's the type most people would want to befriend. Sorry for making you think I meant you. Nan Oh sorry. I thought I was one of the aforementioned 3. |
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"Catherine Woodgold" wrote in message
... "Circe" ) writes: I'm just not sure what your point (or Catherine's or Stephanie's) is here. Is there some requirement that EVERY person who subs a particular newsgroup must find it to her taste and interests? I was talking about misc.kids. I wasn't talking about whether the group was to my tastes and interests. I was talking about whether people posted replies to my posts containing remarks likely to make me feel bad: harsh criticism or insults or name-calling or taboo words or personal remarks etc. (I'm not claiming that all of these have happened to me on this newsgroup.) My point was that my experience could be taken as providing support for some point someone else was making that misc.kids can be unfriendly to some people in a patterned way involving newcomers and/or people seen as outsiders. It's not strong evidence, just my subjective experience vaguely remembered. Hmmm, I think of you as a well-liked and well-respected regular poster to this group. Occasionally, you post ideas that some people feel wouldn't work IRL for a variety of reasons and they say so, but I've never gotten the impression that there's any concerted effort on the part of a large contingent of other regular posters to be unfriendly or unkind to you. -- Be well, Barbara |
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