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On Thu, 09 Feb 2006 19:35:59 GMT, "Stephanie"
wrote: Oh sorry. I thought I was one of the aforementioned 3. Thanks for letting me clear it up. Nan |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. The other thing is that most all of us can be "off-putting" at times, even without being mean. And so if you are posting to a group, chances are that sooner or later you will say something someone disagrees with. And then a debate may start, and it might even get heated. Witness, for example, the Matchbox cars debate. Ericka and Banty and I have been quite heatedly disagreeing. And yet I hold no animosity for either of them, nor do I think they hold any for me. Part of the reason why I don't take it personally is that I already know them and like them, and I know that we do agree on many other subjects. *If* this same discussion had happened when I was new here and didn't know anyone, I might well have felt unwelcome. And so I think that perhaps in many cases, the person who feels unwelcome is perhaps misinterpreting heated feelings about a *topic* as heated feelings about them. Bizby |
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In article zQMGf.365$Sb.217@trndny04, Stephanie says...
"Nan" wrote in message .. . On Thu, 09 Feb 2006 17:20:30 GMT, "Stephanie" wrote: "Nan" wrote in message ... On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. Nan Thanks! You are such a peach. I wasn't considering you in that. Lyn brought up another person who complained about a.m. as "evidence" that a.m. is an exclusionary group and one in which everyone must engage in groupthink. The person she brought up was abusive and rude to a.m. posters, so I wouldn't say she's the type most people would want to befriend. Sorry for making you think I meant you. Nan Oh sorry. I thought I was one of the aforementioned 3. No, that was Iran, North Korea, and Syria. |
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Banty wrote: I wasn't in a.m. to watch all that, but I *do* recall all your childfree-peacemaking misadvantures here in misc.kids. You aren't abusive like a couple of the other names that have come up, but you're a bull in a china shop. This seems to support Lyn's contention that conformity of ideas is expected here. I consistently express myself in a polite and reasonable way. However, I have quite a few unconventional beliefs. It sounds like you find my ideas unacceptable. Jayne |
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In article , bizby40 says...
"Nan" wrote in message .. . On 8 Feb 2006 17:31:48 -0800, "-L." wrote: It becomes strong evidence when multiple people from differing backgrounds say the same thing. Not really. Considering the "multiple" people (which is 3 in this case), have the type of personality that a lot of people will find off-putting. The other thing is that most all of us can be "off-putting" at times, even without being mean. And so if you are posting to a group, chances are that sooner or later you will say something someone disagrees with. And then a debate may start, and it might even get heated. Witness, for example, the Matchbox cars debate. Ericka and Banty and I have been quite heatedly disagreeing. And yet I hold no animosity for either of them, nor do I think they hold any for me. Part of the reason why I don't take it personally is that I already know them and like them, and I know that we do agree on many other subjects. *If* this same discussion had happened when I was new here and didn't know anyone, I might well have felt unwelcome. And so I think that perhaps in many cases, the person who feels unwelcome is perhaps misinterpreting heated feelings about a *topic* as heated feelings about them. Right. And a particular poster may be good, or not so good, at defending their position in a discussion newsgroup, and might feel hounded by disagreement. Folks don't as often do this IRL, and they're just not used to it. The "why do I have to do you homework for you" folks. Banty |
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"toto" wrote in message
... Another thought too. Autistics used to be confined and not have children. That too has changed. More autistics are having children of their own who are on the spectrum. The same thing is happening with asthma. Rates are going up like mad. I was talking to some friends the other night because they'd taken their son to the ER with a bad attack on Sunday and wanted to pick my brain about asthma control (they know about my little "incident" a couple of years back). Anyway, the dad was asking why asthma is becoming so much more common and one of the things I said was that better treatment was making it possible for more asthmatics to reach adulthood and reproduce, which naturally drives up the incidence of asthma. -- Be well, Barbara |
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"dragonlady" wrote in message
... In article .com, wrote: Banty wrote: I wasn't in a.m. to watch all that, but I *do* recall all your childfree-peacemaking misadvantures here in misc.kids. You aren't abusive like a couple of the other names that have come up, but you're a bull in a china shop. This seems to support Lyn's contention that conformity of ideas is expected here. I consistently express myself in a polite and reasonable way. However, I have quite a few unconventional beliefs. It sounds like you find my ideas unacceptable. Given the rather strong differences of opinion between some of us regulars on a couple of threads lately, I continue to find this accusation of "group think" rather amazing! The thing that's even more amazing about it is that it was first levelled in a thread where quite a number of us "regulars" were ACTIVELY disagreeing with one another! -- Be well, Barbara |
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