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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
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Clisby wrote: Stephanie wrote: "-L." wrote in message oups.com... dragonlady wrote: So -- when YOU are nasty it's always "for cause", but if one of us regulars is nasty YOU get to decide we have an ulterior motive -- other than the fact that we find you a genuinely unpleasant person? Don't ask the questions if you don't want the answers, yout stupid Bitch. Sheesh! -L. Pot? Yes, thanks!!!! Be sure to roll the ends tight, though. Clisby Lord, I must be getting old -- this took me WAY longer than it should have! (And thanks for the laugh -- eventually.) -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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Nan wrote: On Sun, 12 Feb 2006 04:35:47 GMT, dragonlady wrote: In article , Nan wrote: On Sun, 12 Feb 2006 03:06:19 GMT, dragonlady wrote: So -- when YOU are nasty it's always "for cause", but if one of us regulars is nasty YOU get to decide we have an ulterior motive -- other than the fact that we find you a genuinely unpleasant person? You keep jumping on her hook ;-) Nan What can I say? We all have our shortcomings, and easy to bait has always been one of mine. I shall endeavor to do better. Ah, I don't mind, really. It shows how predictable she is. I just hate to see you get frustrated with someone who clearly isn't going to care one whit about anything you say. Nan Not frustrated so much as bewildered. -L is obviously well educated, I keep expecting some sign of critical thinking to emerge -- or at least signs of decent debating skills. Instead, she retreats to ad hominim attacks. Nevermind. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
dragonlady ) writes:
In article .net, Clisby wrote: Stephanie wrote: "-L." wrote in message oups.com... dragonlady wrote: So -- when YOU are nasty it's always "for cause", but if one of us regulars is nasty YOU get to decide we have an ulterior motive -- other than the fact that we find you a genuinely unpleasant person? Don't ask the questions if you don't want the answers, yout stupid Bitch. Sheesh! -L. Pot? Yes, thanks!!!! Be sure to roll the ends tight, though. Clisby Lord, I must be getting old -- this took me WAY longer than it should have! (And thanks for the laugh -- eventually.) Oh, I get it! chuckle |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
In article .com,
"-L." wrote: Jayne searched on her own name, undoubtedly to find replies to her own posts in order to answer them. It's a method a lot of people use, especially when they post on multiple groups. I use this method myself, often. To Banty, that translates into a "vanity search". I thought the correct term was "kibozing" for ngs and "ego-surfing" when applied to the web. -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "... if *I* was buying a baby I'd jolly well make sure it was at least a two-tooth!" Mary Grant Bruce, The Houses of the Eagle. |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
dragonlady wrote: Not frustrated so much as bewildered. -L is obviously well educated, I keep expecting some sign of critical thinking to emerge -- or at least signs of decent debating skills. Instead, she retreats to ad hominim attacks. Nevermind. Unlike you and your twit friends who label anyone who doesn't agree with you a "troll". God forbid someone should have a different viewpoint. You're a waste - of everything. -L. |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
On Mon, 13 Feb 2006 02:53:46 GMT, dragonlady
wrote: Not frustrated so much as bewildered. -L is obviously well educated, I keep expecting some sign of critical thinking to emerge -- or at least signs of decent debating skills. Instead, she retreats to ad hominim attacks. I agree. It's apparent she's capable of pleasant discourse, as evident on other threads. Nan |
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Catherine Woodgold wrote: ) writes: Banty wrote: Well, jumping HERE and joining in the complaining after a vanity search is one thing (most people don't do that), but minor in the scheme of things. The crossposting that you did concerning the husband in a.m. as I recall from looking it over didn't end for a while, what I remember most is you having actually inviting a childfree poster hostile to our group here to post, then proposed to set misc.kid up as some kind of meeting ground (oh goody), and it took a LONG time to get you off that and to try to set up a group of your own, all the while we were dealing with the concomitant unpleasantness. This is not how I recall events, nor can I find much support for your recollections in google. Jayne I didn't understand Banty's explanation either. For one thing, I have no idea who she means was doing a "vanity search" or when. "Vanity search" means googling on one's own name. That is how I discovered Nan talking about me in misc.kids and triggered my recent bout of participation here. I jumped into this thread and joined in complaining, but I don't see anything wrong with the way I did that and I don't think anyone has complained. I wouldn't have described my posts in this thread as complaining either. Inviting someone to participate in a newsgroup is OK. I'm guessing that Banty is referring to a time that I wrote civilly to person who was trolling m.k and said something like "These extreme views are obviously not your real opinions, but if you cared to share you actual thoughts on the subject I would be glad to discuss it with you." At the time she disapproved of this method for dealing with trolls on the grounds that it would encourage them. I'm not sure what she perceived as me spending a long time trying to set up m.k as a meeting ground, so I don't have an explanation for that one. Trying to start up a subgroup or discussion within a newsgroup is OK. Complaining can be OK in certain contexts. A few years ago I tried to start a new newsgroup for discussions between childfree and parents. The childfree newsgroup does not allow posts from parents and most childfree who post to m.k seem to be trolling. I thought that having a newsgroup for talking to each other would promote mutual understanding and greater tolerance for other people's differences. Several people thought that merely going through the proposal process on news.groups would encourage trolling on parenting groups and expressed annoyance with me. It seems to me that Banty was one of these. Jayne |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
Catherine Woodgold wrote: If we're gonna vent, let me tell you (again?) about my experience on alt."support".depression. (quotations marks added for sarcasm.) I hadn't seen the this story before. I'm very interested in this sort of thing and almost certainly would have remembered it. I visited the group as a lurker a few times, reluctant to post since I wasn't sure what would be most helpful. Then one day I posted a well-polished article: a list of methods of treating depression. It wasn't perfect, but I was proud of it. I got blamed, called names, taboo words thrown at me, etc. etc. They asked if I had read the FAQ. I hadn't. But then I went and read it. It didn't say anything about not posting that kind of post. In fact, the FAQ had a rather similar section to what my post was. I would not have posted differently if I had read the FAQ. Now that I've had that experience, I have a little bit better idea how to do a first post in other groups. But at the time, I was totally taken by surprise. I know that some groups have little tolerance for newbies, but I would have expected a support ng to be better at making allowances. It sounds like an unpleasant experience for you. Apparently, the correct way to begin to post on a.s.d. is first to participate in some OFF-TOPIC threads, then to announce publicly that one is depressed, and finally very tactfully just maybe mention ways of dealing with depression. This was not stated in the FAQ. Possibly one of these days I'll get around to asking them to include that in the FAQ, as apparently the same thing happens to other people too from time to time!!! I am fascinated by newsgroup dynamics and observing how each group forms its own culture. My impression is that most people are unaware of the unspoken rules (which differ from group to group) yet nevertheless use various mechanisms to enforce them. To a certain extent, I would say that virtually every ng has "groupthink" so I see some validity to Lyn's comments. On the other hand, I wouldn't single out m.k as being an egregious case of it. Jayne |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
"-L." wrote in message ups.com... dragonlady wrote: Not frustrated so much as bewildered. -L is obviously well educated, I keep expecting some sign of critical thinking to emerge -- or at least signs of decent debating skills. Instead, she retreats to ad hominim attacks. Nevermind. Unlike you and your twit friends who label anyone who doesn't agree with you a "troll". God forbid someone should have a different viewpoint. You're a waste - of everything. Instead you label entitlemoo. Are you really so different? -L. |
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UPDATE: playgroup fiasco
Stephanie wrote: "-L." wrote in message ups.com... dragonlady wrote: Not frustrated so much as bewildered. -L is obviously well educated, I keep expecting some sign of critical thinking to emerge -- or at least signs of decent debating skills. Instead, she retreats to ad hominim attacks. Nevermind. Unlike you and your twit friends who label anyone who doesn't agree with you a "troll". God forbid someone should have a different viewpoint. You're a waste - of everything. Instead you label entitlemoo. Are you really so different? Actually, there are several women on this group with whom I almost always disagree. But I would never call them trolls. They consistently post on topic and avoid personal attacks. Occasionally, they even teach me something new! A troll, OTOH, rarely posts on topic and, even when (s)he does, quickly turns all discussions into personal attacks on those who disagree with him (her), and occasionally all who do agree with her. S/he attempts to foment dissent, and to turn all discussions towards him/her. If you're unsure if someone is a troll, its generally a good idea to google his/her behavior on other groups. If, for example, people on other groups in which the person participates are offering to pay for his/her *meds* due to what is perceived there as irrational behavior, repeatedly complain that the person's behavior has driven people off, or accuse the person of being a troll, it serves as some supporting evidence. HTH. Barbara |
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