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Thanks Nikki :-)
-- Amy, Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 email: barton . souto @ clear . net . nz (join the dots!) http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/c/carlos2002/ "Nikki" wrote in message ... Mum of Two wrote: Everyone here is so perfect! Nah - it only seems that way when you are going through a rough patch. It seems you all wear your babies constantly, co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on end while they scream, FWIW I co-sleep and rock mine and most the time I wonder what the hell I did wrong to get us all in such a predicament, lol. Do you ever get hormonal, overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one? Sure. We all have breaking points. I don't wear DD. She amuses herself a lot under a playgym. Well amusing herself is a *good* thing and should be encouraged! Who cares if you wear her or not. That is a method of meeting a babies needs. If you choose not to use that method..so be it. You meet her needs in some other way that works better for you two. In fact, I don't even think she likes me because she cries and struggles when I pick her up sometimes. Awww - that is normal baby stuff. 3.5 months was a hard age for me with Hunter. Hang in there. By 6 months things were a lot better for me and there is more positive feedback from the baby too. She doesn't get enough tummy-time, so she's starting to crawl upside down. Oh goodness. That cracked me up ;-). I would say she is very advanced if she is doing that! I can't/won't cook nor bake - So what? She doesn't care what you cook. She doesn't even eat, lol. She won't care for quite some time. When she is old enough to care, you can let her make her own food ;-) Just remember that for every messy floor and frozen pizza there is a mom who is reading a story, grabbing a moment for herself to recharge for her family, getting some sleep so she is more patient, playing hide and seek with the kids upstairs instead of picking up the toys, or spending time with her spouse to strengthen their marriage. My house is hardly ever messy and sometimes it should be. I am frequently hormonal and irrational, and constantly contradict myself. I don't make a lot of sense most of the time, even to me. Some of this is to be expected post-partum and adjusting to life with a newborn. If you feel like you are really spinning out of control, speak with your doctor. PPD, mild or even suspected, is not something to fool around with. At least she's breast-fed and side-slept, so she'll have a good immune system and a nice shaped head when she starts therapy. Tee hee. Hang in there Amy. -- Nikki |
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"Mum of Two" wrote in message
... Everyone here is so perfect! It seems you all wear your babies constantly, co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on end while they scream, and manage all this even with a dozen other children besides and a successful career. Those of you who don't have a career cook, bake, make your own clothes, baby products, and are basically Martha Stewart minus the criminal record. Still others of you are _always right_ or at least have an annoying way of posting which makes it appear that way to everyone who reads you, myself included. Do you ever get hormonal, overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one? I don't wear DD. She amuses herself a lot under a playgym. In fact, I don't even think she likes me because she cries and struggles when I pick her up sometimes. She cries herself to sleep a lot, in her own room. I tell her off when she bites me. She has cat hair in her nappy, and sometimes in her mouth. She doesn't get enough tummy-time, so she's starting to crawl upside down. She would rather watch TV, at three & a half months, than look at us. I can't/won't cook nor bake - the other mothers at my coffee group thought my scones were biscuits. I don't do sewing either. Actually, I don't do much of anything. I am frequently hormonal and irrational, and constantly contradict myself. I don't make a lot of sense most of the time, even to me. At least she's breast-fed and side-slept, so she'll have a good immune system and a nice shaped head when she starts therapy. -- Amy, Aww, your not alone. This group can be a little overwhelming in the perfect department. My husband and I have decided that we are not going to start saving for college, but we are saving for therapist's fees because I am sure we are messing them up. ;o) Don't worry, you don't need to co-sleep or wear your baby for them to turn out to be happy, respectful people. You would really have to do some horrible things to mess up your child. Just love them, attend to their needs, remain consistent in your disipline, plenty on your love and always listen. You'll be fine. (((hugs)) -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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Mum of Two wrote:
Everyone here is so perfect! It seems you all wear your babies constantly, co-sleep with them when you aren't wearing them, rock them for hours on end while they scream, and manage all this even with a dozen other children besides and a successful career. Those of you who don't have a career cook, bake, make your own clothes, baby products, and are basically Martha Stewart minus the criminal record. Still others of you are _always right_ or at least have an annoying way of posting which makes it appear that way to everyone who reads you, myself included. Do you ever get hormonal, overtired? What is your breaking point? Do you have one? Of course everyone does--at least I do. If you'd been around here longer, you'd likely see it ;-) And you have to keep in mind that when people post in response to a question, it's usually because that's an area where they've had some success or have some information (otherwise, what would they say?). But if you'll take note, not everyone responds to every question. A bunch of them are reading right along with the OP, hoping to find a solution to a similar problem. There are thousands of people who read this newsgroup. With a group that big, there's almost always someone who's got a particular area whipped into shape, and there's usually someone who who does X, whatever it might be. If you munge all that together, sure, you'll get Super Mom--that's why this group can be so useful. But if you look closely, no one person does it all. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Plissken" wrote in message news:ahEdd.782612$M95.399923@pd7tw1no...
From day one I could put her down in her bassinet (no I didn't cosleep, but she slept beside our bed for 9 months) and she would lay there quietly until she went to sleep and at 17 months I can still put her down awake and she will fall asleep by herself. My daughter never cried unless she was hungry (not even for a wet diaper) and never really needed to be held constantly. I did carry her around in her baby bjorn when she was really young and we went for walks, but she went in her stroller at times too. I want one of those! Elle |
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"Elle" wrote in message om... "Plissken" wrote in message news:ahEdd.782612$M95.399923@pd7tw1no... From day one I could put her down in her bassinet (no I didn't cosleep, but she slept beside our bed for 9 months) and she would lay there quietly until she went to sleep and at 17 months I can still put her down awake and she will fall asleep by herself. My daughter never cried unless she was hungry (not even for a wet diaper) and never really needed to be held constantly. I did carry her around in her baby bjorn when she was really young and we went for walks, but she went in her stroller at times too. I want one of those! I'm praying this next baby is like this too! Is it possible to have two easy babies? I hope so. I'm convinced I'm going to have one exactly the opposite. It'll be like having a baby for the first time all over again because I was so spoiled with Maddy. Nadene |
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Mum of Two wrote:
Everyone here is so perfect! All I have to say is this: people are always considerably more perfect on paper (or screen) than they are IRL. I know I always have a better solution for someone else's problems when I have time to sit and think and write it out than I have for my own when I have to handle them on the fly g! -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) "Bush didn't pee his pants or kill anyone, so my guess is that people will say [the third debate] was a tie."--Jessi Klein (http://www.cnn.com/2004/ALLPOLITICS/...log/index.html) All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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Irrational Number wrote:
Chotii wrote: People do not see my living room floor, which has not been vacuumed in quite possibly 2 weeks. That's it? 2 weeks? Try a few months here... (Oops, maybe I should not have admitted that!) The only reason mine is vacuumed daily is that my nanny does it. Otherwise, it would probably be two weeks between vacuumings (but I'd have to do it every other Tuesday because the cub scouts den meeting currently meets here!). -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) "Bush didn't pee his pants or kill anyone, so my guess is that people will say [the third debate] was a tie."--Jessi Klein (http://www.cnn.com/2004/ALLPOLITICS/...log/index.html) All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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Amy, you are not, I must definitely qualify as worse, though I do blame it
on the hormones and PPD, but have you ever put your child in the oven? Or left them in a shop, no I thought not, I am now officially the worst mother! Though I did and still do baby wear if that redeems me at all! |
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People do not see my living room floor, which has not been vacuumed in quite possibly 2 weeks. In fact, if someone came here, they *could* not see my living room floor, because it's too cluttered. you need to come to our house, I've never vacuumed our living room floor, thankfully my parents and in laws are infinitely tactful, so usually it gets seen to once every 6 weeks or so! |
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Circe wrote:
Irrational Number wrote: Chotii wrote: People do not see my living room floor, which has not been vacuumed in quite possibly 2 weeks. That's it? 2 weeks? Try a few months here... (Oops, maybe I should not have admitted that!) The only reason mine is vacuumed daily is that my nanny does it. Otherwise, it would probably be two weeks between vacuumings (but I'd have to do it every other Tuesday because the cub scouts den meeting currently meets here!). I have wood floors in my living room and bedrooms. I sweep them once a month. I think I've mopped them once since I've lived here, lol. I do the kitchen a little more often ;-) -- Nikki |
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