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Planning my Future SAH Experience
I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security
Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). My main concern is, since we're new to the area (our closest family is 4 hours away), and therefore, I have very few contacts here, that I will not have the know-how or the know-who to find a job/start a business that 1) allows me to work from home and 2)doesn't necessitate a lot of my time, but 3) gives me opportunity to keep growing as a person in our new community while I'm also growing as a mommy for my family. Work will most likely not be necessary financially for a 5-10 year at home stay with our children, however, I would like to continue a hobby/job that pulls in a light paycheck so I still feel that I'm contributing financially. I would just like to know if anyone else has been in the same boat and any suggestions that he/she may have for me to help plan my quickly-developing future? Many thanks! |
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One of the top things I would recommend for anyone is to read. Since
you don't have kids yet but are planning for them in the future....now is the ideal time to read and you'll have plenty of time for it. Naturally there are lots of books about the what to expect when you're pregnant and what to expect through the first months, years, growth milestones, etc....but then there is also a large selection of so much more. Some of the best books I've read about children and the way they learn are by John Holt.(he has several...like 'How Children Learn'). Another recommend book is the 'Read-Aloud Handbook' by Jim Trelease. He also includes a list of 'books' for kids in the back of the book. Now while you are still working is a good time to save money for when you stop as well as build a nice 'kids book collection' (even from library sales, etc.) There are lots of excellent suggestions from 'homeschool' groups, websites, and books for more reading as well as 'activities' to do with your kids. For kids I personally would recommend limiting TV, video games, un-educational computer games, etc. There are even books about these activities as well and why they should be limited. After reading you can have enough information to decide for yourself. (Jane Healy writes about this). As far as a 'career' - if you don't need to work...enjoy the time with your kids. If you think you will need to work...I'd suggest a career move that works around your kids...some say if you can get into it medical transcription or billing can offer work from home. Some say the education field works best...(if you find a school system you feel comfortable with - preschool...maybe). Again...now while you have the time is the easiest to start toward a transition. Good Luck. On 12 Apr 2004 14:36:54 -0700, (Bresslady) wrote: I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). My main concern is, since we're new to the area (our closest family is 4 hours away), and therefore, I have very few contacts here, that I will not have the know-how or the know-who to find a job/start a business that 1) allows me to work from home and 2)doesn't necessitate a lot of my time, but 3) gives me opportunity to keep growing as a person in our new community while I'm also growing as a mommy for my family. Work will most likely not be necessary financially for a 5-10 year at home stay with our children, however, I would like to continue a hobby/job that pulls in a light paycheck so I still feel that I'm contributing financially. I would just like to know if anyone else has been in the same boat and any suggestions that he/she may have for me to help plan my quickly-developing future? Many thanks! -----= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =----- http://www.newsfeeds.com - The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! -----== Over 100,000 Newsgroups - 19 Different Servers! =----- |
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Bresslady wrote in :
I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). Why? I mean, you are still quite young to have children, so what is the hurry? Can't you wait a further 12 months before trying to get pregnant: if you were 44 (or even 34), there would be sensible reasons for having children as soon as possible. But not at 24. My main concern is, since we're new to the area (our closest family is 4 hours away), and therefore, I have very few contacts here, that I will not have the know-how or the know-who to find a job/start a business that 1) allows me to work from home and 2)doesn't necessitate a lot of my time, but If you were to wait another 12 months you could spend the time now, when you are not concerned with pregnancy/early babyhood worries, and really lay the foundations for your business. I imagine whatever business you start would require a lot of knocking on doors before you get to doing the work that you can do at home, so the more doors you knock on now the more established you will be later. 3) gives me opportunity to keep growing as a person in our new community while I'm also growing as a mommy for my family. Work will most likely not be necessary financially for a 5-10 year at home stay with our children, however, I would like to continue a hobby/job that pulls in a light paycheck so I still feel that I'm contributing financially. I would just like to know if anyone else has been in the same boat and any suggestions that he/she may have for me to help plan my quickly-developing future? I think it is really good that you are planning ahead like this. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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On Tue, 13 Apr 2004 19:15:41 +0100, Penny Gaines
wrote: Bresslady wrote in : I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). Why? I mean, you are still quite young to have children, so what is the hurry? Can't you wait a further 12 months before trying to get pregnant: if you were 44 (or even 34), there would be sensible reasons for having children as soon as possible. But not at 24. I don't see why it isn't "sensible" now. If that's what they want, then go for it. Besides, one never knows how long it will take to get pregnant anyway. P. Tierney |
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On Tue, 13 Apr 2004 14:35:29 GMT, Kris wrote:
Some of the best books I've read about children and the way they learn are by John Holt.(he has several... like 'How Children Learn'). Another recommend book is the 'Read-Aloud Handbook' by Jim Trelease. I like your suggestions, but my top pick for anyone who is going to be a new parent is still: How to Talk So Children Will Listen and Listen So Children Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. They have several other books that are great as well. -- Dorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits |
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"P. Tierney" wrote in message ... On Tue, 13 Apr 2004 19:15:41 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: Bresslady wrote in : I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). Why? I mean, you are still quite young to have children, so what is the hurry? Can't you wait a further 12 months before trying to get pregnant: if you were 44 (or even 34), there would be sensible reasons for having children as soon as possible. But not at 24. I don't see why it isn't "sensible" now. If that's what they want, then go for it. Besides, one never knows how long it will take to get pregnant anyway. I do think it's sensible to wait. Marriage can really change the dynamics in a relationship. Some couples manage it better than others. Better to wait till after the wedding to see how things are or to regain some footing before introducing an added stress. |
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I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security
Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). Why? I agree with Penny too. I personally would wait. Marriage the first year can be so hard. I know it was for us and for many people around us. And we lived together before we got married. If we had added a child to that dynamics the first year, I'm not so sure we would have made it. I think it's better to have couple time and do things as a new couple than to add a child into the mix so soon. Children change your lives and for some it is a shock to their lifestyles. -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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"P. Tierney" wrote in message ... On Tue, 13 Apr 2004 19:15:41 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: Bresslady wrote in : I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). Why? I mean, you are still quite young to have children, so what is the hurry? Can't you wait a further 12 months before trying to get pregnant: if you were 44 (or even 34), there would be sensible reasons for having children as soon as possible. But not at 24. I don't see why it isn't "sensible" now. If that's what they want, then go for it. Besides, one never knows how long it will take to get pregnant anyway. Oh, heavens, I'm so with Penny on this one. I love my kid (soon to be kids) but the best thing I ever did was not have them until I was in my thirties. What is the rush? I always figure that one's twenties are the time to get one's career established, enjoy one's marriage while it's one-on-one, travel, play, invest... all of the things that are a thousand times more difficult once the kids start arriving. Donna |
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Bresslady wrote: I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). My main concern is, since we're new to the area (our closest family is 4 hours away), and therefore, I have very few contacts here, that I will not have the know-how or the know-who to find a job/start a business that 1) allows me to work from home and 2)doesn't necessitate a lot of my time, but 3) gives me opportunity to keep growing as a person in our new community while I'm also growing as a mommy for my family. Work will most likely not be necessary financially for a 5-10 year at home stay with our children, however, I would like to continue a hobby/job that pulls in a light paycheck so I still feel that I'm contributing financially. I would just like to know if anyone else has been in the same boat and any suggestions that he/she may have for me to help plan my quickly-developing future? Many thanks! If it's important to you to be able to work from home while your children are small, I'm going to chime in here and agree with the posters who recommended waiting awhile to have children. It's a lot easier to lay the groundwork for an at-home job before you have kids. I'm a computer programmer, and work from home about 25 hours a week. I have almost completely flexible hours, and I have 2 kids. I don't think there's any way I'd have had this good a situation without being solidly established in my career before I even thought of having children. Clisby |
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Clisby wrote:
Bresslady wrote: I'm a 24 year old CS Manager in Indy. My fiancee is a IT Security Director with a very successful career track. I'm only beginning to open up the doors to my career, but I'm much more interested in the SAH track for now. We've decided to have children starting within the next year (we'll be married in less than 3 months). My main concern is, since we're new to the area (our closest family is 4 hours away), and therefore, I have very few contacts here, that I will not have the know-how or the know-who to find a job/start a business that 1) allows me to work from home and 2)doesn't necessitate a lot of my time, but 3) gives me opportunity to keep growing as a person in our new community while I'm also growing as a mommy for my family. Work will most likely not be necessary financially for a 5-10 year at home stay with our children, however, I would like to continue a hobby/job that pulls in a light paycheck so I still feel that I'm contributing financially. I would just like to know if anyone else has been in the same boat and any suggestions that he/she may have for me to help plan my quickly-developing future? Many thanks! If it's important to you to be able to work from home while your children are small, I'm going to chime in here and agree with the posters who recommended waiting awhile to have children. It's a lot easier to lay the groundwork for an at-home job before you have kids. I'm a computer programmer, and work from home about 25 hours a week. I have almost completely flexible hours, and I have 2 kids. I don't think there's any way I'd have had this good a situation without being solidly established in my career before I even thought of having children. I work full time from at a home office. I still need lots and lots of child care to get 40 hours a week in and I do lots of travel/need to have office hours etc. The pay off, I think/hope, is going to be when they are school age, not babies. Anyway...I had to really pull out all the stops and go above and beyond in my previous jobs to get me this really great job...and then I had kids. I would not/could not have devoted that much time to my career with kids. I guess I'm just chiming in with the others thatsaid if you want some kind of specialized work (either self employed or work from home) it takes a lot of effort before hand so I'd get that hammered out before you plan the baby. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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