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"Cele" wrote in message ... On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 08:41:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message news On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 06:35:08 GMT, "CME" wrote: Ok poor choice of words on my part, hurt would have been better... but you have a valid point. I guess for myself, I only trust and care about a small number of people and what they really think of me. If anyone here were to judge and for me to be hurt by their assessment simply wouldn't happen. I only show people small glimpses of who I *really* am online and it's not that I have any fear it's just not something I do because I have become hardened by experience. I just think it's sad you'd let someone, even someone you respected, keep you away from a place you've become a valued part of. Christine ((((( Christine ))))) I wish others would stop teaching us that it's wrong to be who we are. That's their bad. Ours is to let it hurt us so much that we can never open up enough to let others in again... even if that takes time. I enjoy the little bits that you show of yourself. You cared enough to ask why. 'Kate Ah well thanks. ~Blushing~ Yeah I've come to care about you too, as well as Joelle and it got my back up thinking someone hurt her. RAAAAAAAAAR. lol Oh and Cele, I didn't mean to pass judgement on her feelings, or say she should live her life a certain way, I was just surprised is all and wanted to share my take on it. Christine That sounds like you didn't mean to hurt her? Well, IME, when you hurt someone by accident, an apology seems to be the best course. If you don't apologise, they generally assume it was deliberate. Cele |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 08:41:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message news On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 06:35:08 GMT, "CME" wrote: Ok poor choice of words on my part, hurt would have been better... but you have a valid point. I guess for myself, I only trust and care about a small number of people and what they really think of me. If anyone here were to judge and for me to be hurt by their assessment simply wouldn't happen. I only show people small glimpses of who I *really* am online and it's not that I have any fear it's just not something I do because I have become hardened by experience. I just think it's sad you'd let someone, even someone you respected, keep you away from a place you've become a valued part of. Christine ((((( Christine ))))) I wish others would stop teaching us that it's wrong to be who we are. That's their bad. Ours is to let it hurt us so much that we can never open up enough to let others in again... even if that takes time. I enjoy the little bits that you show of yourself. You cared enough to ask why. 'Kate Ah well thanks. ~Blushing~ Yeah I've come to care about you too, as well as Joelle and it got my back up thinking someone hurt her. RAAAAAAAAAR. lol Oh and Cele, I didn't mean to pass judgement on her feelings, or say she should live her life a certain way, I was just surprised is all and wanted to share my take on it. Christine That sounds like you didn't mean to hurt her? Well, IME, when you hurt someone by accident, an apology seems to be the best course. If you don't apologise, they generally assume it was deliberate. Cele Wrong Christine eh? Christine |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Thu, 25 Nov 2004 02:47:23 GMT, "CME" wrote: "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "steveb" wrote in message , "CME" wrote: Right, and it's not your job to moderate it, now is it? she simply askedyou why, pottymouth Oh **** off steve Dennis ****ing classic. Christine You both realize you've used all of November's supply of "****". We'll have to restock. 'Kate LOL I'll go hit the truck stops and absorb some more. Christine |
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... On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 08:41:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message news On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 06:35:08 GMT, "CME" wrote: Ok poor choice of words on my part, hurt would have been better... but you have a valid point. I guess for myself, I only trust and care about a small number of people and what they really think of me. If anyone here were to judge and for me to be hurt by their assessment simply wouldn't happen. I only show people small glimpses of who I *really* am online and it's not that I have any fear it's just not something I do because I have become hardened by experience. I just think it's sad you'd let someone, even someone you respected, keep you away from a place you've become a valued part of. Christine ((((( Christine ))))) I wish others would stop teaching us that it's wrong to be who we are. That's their bad. Ours is to let it hurt us so much that we can never open up enough to let others in again... even if that takes time. I enjoy the little bits that you show of yourself. You cared enough to ask why. 'Kate Ah well thanks. ~Blushing~ Yeah I've come to care about you too, as well as Joelle and it got my back up thinking someone hurt her. RAAAAAAAAAR. lol Oh and Cele, I didn't mean to pass judgement on her feelings, or say she should live her life a certain way, I was just surprised is all and wanted to share my take on it. Christine That sounds like you didn't mean to hurt her? Well, IME, when you hurt someone by accident, an apology seems to be the best course. If you don't apologise, they generally assume it was deliberate. Cele Wrong Christine eh? Christine I feel I have no reason to apologize. I never called her the emotionally inflamative word she chose to use. That was wholly of her own histrionics. I find it amazing that until her post *claiming* I called her a Nazi, no one had a clue that she would even be upset. Obviously no one else had a problem with our "disagreement" (which I never knew we had) until almost 2 MONTHS after the fact. Her parting post in response to ME was a slam at Cele...... Good LORD..... and her return post was intended to vilify me for something I didn't do. (dammit, I do enough on my own, I don't need credit where no credit is due! - LOL) Usually when I feel inappropriately criticized or "hurt" by something someone says to me, I will examine why it was. Does it have a grain of truth? If so, does it bear further examination. What of my insecurities allowed this to hurt me in some fashion? If not, I can't be hurt by something that is unfounded. Had Joelle come out and said "I take offense to being referred to as taking on the role of the KGB", I would have further explained my position (where I believed that her attitude toward counselling teens in her ministry - that SHE brought into the discussion - "I don't care if they tell me or not" was detrimental to her relationship with those members) or bowed out of the discussion with "let's agree to disagree" (not likely, but it HAS happened). I also resent the passive-aggressiveness in which this was addressed. If I have a problem with anyone, I surely won't (and DON'T) take the underhanded and immature way of addressing everyone else or allowing them to "fight" my battles or beg for an apology for an *imagined* slight for me. Truth be told, this running commentary has shown me a lot about Joelle. She *isn't* direct or "up-front" as I thought, *is* afraid of discussion in which she has to "defend" her position, and a kindergarten grade manipulator. (and YES that is a direct confrontation). I, too, had respected her differing opinions although I didn't agree with many of them (must be the cursed "liberal" in me). But it made for interesting and thought-provoking commentary. Now, however, that is tainted by the grade-school attempts to "turn the clique against me". eyeroll Christine, I'm sorry you got caught in the passive-aggressive crossfire directed at me. Just my 2 cents......... Christine |
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"Purchgdss" wrote in message ... ... On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 08:41:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message news On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 06:35:08 GMT, "CME" wrote: Ok poor choice of words on my part, hurt would have been better... but you have a valid point. I guess for myself, I only trust and care about a small number of people and what they really think of me. If anyone here were to judge and for me to be hurt by their assessment simply wouldn't happen. I only show people small glimpses of who I *really* am online and it's not that I have any fear it's just not something I do because I have become hardened by experience. I just think it's sad you'd let someone, even someone you respected, keep you away from a place you've become a valued part of. Christine ((((( Christine ))))) I wish others would stop teaching us that it's wrong to be who we are. That's their bad. Ours is to let it hurt us so much that we can never open up enough to let others in again... even if that takes time. I enjoy the little bits that you show of yourself. You cared enough to ask why. 'Kate Ah well thanks. ~Blushing~ Yeah I've come to care about you too, as well as Joelle and it got my back up thinking someone hurt her. RAAAAAAAAAR. lol Oh and Cele, I didn't mean to pass judgement on her feelings, or say she should live her life a certain way, I was just surprised is all and wanted to share my take on it. Christine That sounds like you didn't mean to hurt her? Well, IME, when you hurt someone by accident, an apology seems to be the best course. If you don't apologise, they generally assume it was deliberate. Cele Wrong Christine eh? Christine I feel I have no reason to apologize. I never called her the emotionally inflamative word she chose to use. That was wholly of her own histrionics. I find it amazing that until her post *claiming* I called her a Nazi, no one had a clue that she would even be upset. Obviously no one else had a problem with our "disagreement" (which I never knew we had) until almost 2 MONTHS after the fact. Her parting post in response to ME was a slam at Cele...... Good LORD..... and her return post was intended to vilify me for something I didn't do. (dammit, I do enough on my own, I don't need credit where no credit is due! - LOL) Usually when I feel inappropriately criticized or "hurt" by something someone says to me, I will examine why it was. Does it have a grain of truth? If so, does it bear further examination. What of my insecurities allowed this to hurt me in some fashion? If not, I can't be hurt by something that is unfounded. Had Joelle come out and said "I take offense to being referred to as taking on the role of the KGB", I would have further explained my position (where I believed that her attitude toward counselling teens in her ministry - that SHE brought into the discussion - "I don't care if they tell me or not" was detrimental to her relationship with those members) or bowed out of the discussion with "let's agree to disagree" (not likely, but it HAS happened). I also resent the passive-aggressiveness in which this was addressed. If I have a problem with anyone, I surely won't (and DON'T) take the underhanded and immature way of addressing everyone else or allowing them to "fight" my battles or beg for an apology for an *imagined* slight for me. Truth be told, this running commentary has shown me a lot about Joelle. She *isn't* direct or "up-front" as I thought, *is* afraid of discussion in which she has to "defend" her position, and a kindergarten grade manipulator. (and YES that is a direct confrontation). I, too, had respected her differing opinions although I didn't agree with many of them (must be the cursed "liberal" in me). But it made for interesting and thought-provoking commentary. Now, however, that is tainted by the grade-school attempts to "turn the clique against me". eyeroll Christine, I'm sorry you got caught in the passive-aggressive crossfire directed at me. Just my 2 cents......... Christine Hmm..... I am thinking this thread has become more tiresome then me and Paul's flirting became to others. There was a disagreement....... that happens. Time to let it go folks. This is the internet, not real life. BTW.... I don't think Joelle was trying to turn the clique against you. I personally have a small idea of the disagreement but not enough to comment. If others don't remember it, its only because some of us only pay close attention to what is relevant to us at that moment. Before any fire directed at me, please note that this post is in response to the issue at hand and not directly to any one person, outside the last comment. T |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ... snip Hmm..... I am thinking this thread has become more tiresome then me and Paul's flirting became to others. There was a disagreement....... that happens. Time to let it go folks. This is the internet, not real life. 'Scuse me. The people typing those words into the internet are real people, with real feelings. Not some sort of cyber borgs who hit the 'off' switch when they're done posting. |
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On Thu, 25 Nov 2004 05:26:52 GMT, "CME"
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... snip Hmm..... I am thinking this thread has become more tiresome then me and Paul's flirting became to others. There was a disagreement....... that happens. Time to let it go folks. This is the internet, not real life. 'Scuse me. The people typing those words into the internet are real people, with real feelings. Not some sort of cyber borgs who hit the 'off' switch when they're done posting. Yeah, but when you start taking your online life to seriously, you just might lose grip with reality. I am not downplaying the importance of online relationships. The support I get here has been valuable. I also can't say these women are taking this and letting them effect their real lives. Hopefully not. T |
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"Purchgdss" wrote in message ... ... On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 08:41:32 GMT, "CME" wrote: "'Kate" wrote in message news On Wed, 24 Nov 2004 06:35:08 GMT, "CME" wrote: Ok poor choice of words on my part, hurt would have been better... but you have a valid point. I guess for myself, I only trust and care about a small number of people and what they really think of me. If anyone here were to judge and for me to be hurt by their assessment simply wouldn't happen. I only show people small glimpses of who I *really* am online and it's not that I have any fear it's just not something I do because I have become hardened by experience. I just think it's sad you'd let someone, even someone you respected, keep you away from a place you've become a valued part of. Christine ((((( Christine ))))) I wish others would stop teaching us that it's wrong to be who we are. That's their bad. Ours is to let it hurt us so much that we can never open up enough to let others in again... even if that takes time. I enjoy the little bits that you show of yourself. You cared enough to ask why. 'Kate Ah well thanks. ~Blushing~ Yeah I've come to care about you too, as well as Joelle and it got my back up thinking someone hurt her. RAAAAAAAAAR. lol Oh and Cele, I didn't mean to pass judgement on her feelings, or say she should live her life a certain way, I was just surprised is all and wanted to share my take on it. Christine That sounds like you didn't mean to hurt her? Well, IME, when you hurt someone by accident, an apology seems to be the best course. If you don't apologise, they generally assume it was deliberate. Cele Wrong Christine eh? Christine I feel I have no reason to apologize. I never called her the emotionally inflamative word she chose to use. That was wholly of her own histrionics. I find it amazing that until her post *claiming* I called her a Nazi, no one had a clue that she would even be upset. Obviously no one else had a problem with our "disagreement" (which I never knew we had) until almost 2 MONTHS after the fact. Her parting post in response to ME was a slam at Cele...... Good LORD..... and her return post was intended to vilify me for something I didn't do. (dammit, I do enough on my own, I don't need credit where no credit is due! - LOL) Usually when I feel inappropriately criticized or "hurt" by something someone says to me, I will examine why it was. Does it have a grain of truth? If so, does it bear further examination. What of my insecurities allowed this to hurt me in some fashion? If not, I can't be hurt by something that is unfounded. Had Joelle come out and said "I take offense to being referred to as taking on the role of the KGB", I would have further explained my position (where I believed that her attitude toward counselling teens in her ministry - that SHE brought into the discussion - "I don't care if they tell me or not" was detrimental to her relationship with those members) or bowed out of the discussion with "let's agree to disagree" (not likely, but it HAS happened). I also resent the passive-aggressiveness in which this was addressed. If I have a problem with anyone, I surely won't (and DON'T) take the underhanded and immature way of addressing everyone else or allowing them to "fight" my battles or beg for an apology for an *imagined* slight for me. Truth be told, this running commentary has shown me a lot about Joelle. She *isn't* direct or "up-front" as I thought, *is* afraid of discussion in which she has to "defend" her position, and a kindergarten grade manipulator. (and YES that is a direct confrontation). I, too, had respected her differing opinions although I didn't agree with many of them (must be the cursed "liberal" in me). But it made for interesting and thought-provoking commentary. Now, however, that is tainted by the grade-school attempts to "turn the clique against me". eyeroll Christine, I'm sorry you got caught in the passive-aggressive crossfire directed at me. Just my 2 cents......... Christine Ah don't worry about it, I remember the discussion you all were having and stayed out of it for the most part. I didn't know she was offended by your remarks until just recently and frankly I'll let you both hash it out and exit stage left. ~tip toes away~ Christine |
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"steveb" wrote in message ... On Thu, 25 Nov 2004 05:26:52 GMT, "CME" wrote: LOL I'll go hit the truck stops and absorb some more. You'll blend right in Sadly no, I bathe and don't sport a gut, although I do look hot in a ball cap. Christine |
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