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kindergarten misbehavior and parental follow-through
My daughter is five, and she attended Head Start at ages three and
four. So, when she started Kindergarten, she knew the things the went over. Her current knowledge consisted of: colors, shapes, numbers, parent names, age, birthday,etc. Most importantly, she knew how to spell/write/recognize her name and alphabets. She would do her work, get bored, and then talk to her classmates. Well, she brought a note home over the course of a week for talking. I went and volunteered to see what was going on. Well, my child has done alot less talking compared to the things I saw in that classroom. The behavioral problems were out of this world. At least my child stayed in her seat and did her work before talking; not running around the room, cursing, fighting, stripping,etc. From then on, I didn't pay attention to the talking notes because my daughter was the tattle-tail. But, at least she wasn't doing what they were doing. I was proud of her for not following them and acting out in the classroom. But, I am the type of parent that, when I get a note, I follow through by talking to the teacher. I also volunteer to see what is going on. I continue to volunteer and help out in the classroom because the teachers need a break -sometimes, also a helping hand. But they are both good teachers and have a kind heart. |
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Rosalie B. wrote: If I got a note from the teacher I would ask what the punishment was AT THE TIME. Something should be happening THERE in order to nip the behavior in the bud. The fact that it is continuing means that appropriate counter-measures are not being taken. I agree with Rosalie. One thing you might try is have all the boys over to your house for a playdate, and observe what goes on for yourself. I'd be curious if they act out together in any environment, in which case it may be just the mix of personalities. Or whether it is just at school, which may indicate the teacher needs to try some different approaches. If they do act out together while at the playdate, it might give you an opportunity to work with the kids towards better ways of interacting. Not suggesting you discipline these other children, but you could try re-directing them and helping them build more positive social skills. Just a thought, at any rate. At very least, it'd give you some more insight into exactly what the teacher is dealing with at school. My youngest has a friend that when the two are together, watch out! There's just something about their personalities that feed off each other, and they often get into mischief. I know the mom very well, she's going through a nasty divorce and has her hands full. We have her daughter over a lot, and this mom doesn't mind if I intervene to gently redirect. She's basically a good kid, just going through a really turbulent time right now, and I think a lot of her acting out is attention getting. Meanwhile, I also work with my own daughter, so she's not so prone to follow her friend into mischief. It's a two-pronged approach. The two of them have been in the same class since K, and I long ago figured this was the best strategy, versus trying to discourage their friendship altogether. If your son is likely to have these other children in his class from here on out, you might give it a thought, too. I figure the teachers have enough on their hands, they could use a little help on this front. Good luck! I empathize with your frustration! jen |
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