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A sad good bye.
Stephanie and Tim wrote: "Denise" wrote in message ... "Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message .. . "Dawn Lawson" wrote in I do not know this posters whole situation. And I don't care. There is more to parenting, particularly more than one child, then breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is important, but I am grateful that there are alternatives that are far better than they used to. I am having exactly ZERO problems breastfeeding, but I still sometimes think that bottle feeding would allow me to balance parenting of both children and give my son some of the time and attention he has been missing. I am holding off day by day. As I say, breasfeeding is important, and this is a great place to get help and support. But there is more to parenting and being a person than breatsfeeding. For some of us anyway. meow I agree with you, but when a person makes it seem like they're sad to not be able to breastfeed, doesn't it make sense to offer them advice to help? If she's truly happy with not breastfeeding and she thinks formula will make her and baby happier, good, go for it. I guess I read it differently. I did not think she was looking for advice to help. But yeah, I agree with you. especially so near where most problems level out anyhow. Dawn |
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A sad good bye ((Thanks))
Thanks for those who were understanding. My house is a much more nice place for others to be. When your husband dreads coming home because DD has torn up the house and mom is crying while nursing the baby you know something NEEDS to change. K-K |
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A sad good bye.
Elfanie wrote: On Thu, 11 Dec 2003 16:56:26 GMT, "K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote: I could tell the tension was dwindling my supply. *snip* I cant go back, Im on dry up pills. I dont know why I took them, My doc suggested them to me and said that they will help with the engorgement. Ok...I'm confused. the only pills I know that will "dry you up" is bromocriptine (brand name Parlodel). Unlike most people are mistaken about, they are not off the market. they also are not an arthritis drug...they are an anti-parkinsons drug. they DID stop giving them to dry up milk supplies because there are a LOT of risks to bromocriptine, a LOT of side effects, and it was deemed not worth it to have that level of risk for that temporary of a problem. bromocriptine is also used for pituitary tumors, and to lower prolactin (PCOS) in order to concieve. (and also for reducing milk production, obviously) And certainly not off the market, at least not in Canada. HOWEVER....that aside.. You are stopping nursing because you are tired and stressed because your baby wants to nurse all the time and you feel your supply is dwindling.. yet you're taking something to dry you up?? *boggles* I suppose I just don't understand this...not at all. Makes no sense.... It's not about supply issues *at all*. Dawn |
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A sad good bye ((Thanks))
"K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote in message news:kP7Cb.663747$6C4.568845@pd7tw1no... Thanks for those who were understanding. My house is a much more nice place for others to be. When your husband dreads coming home because DD has torn up the house and mom is crying while nursing the baby you know something NEEDS to change. K-K I would think that change needs to come from DH. Instead of dreading coming home he could be somewhat more understanding. nstead of telling you that the house is trashed he could just pick up and deal with it. Instead of letting you cry he could make you a cup of hot chocolate and take the 3YO for an hour or two for you. I don't see your problems as being BF problems, I see them as being DH problems. He needs to be the one to support you now and I'm truely sorry that he isn't. I'm sorry for you, I'm sorry for your baby and I'm sorry for your whole family unit. If he won't support you in something as *small* (in the whole picture) as this, what happens when something major comes along? Jen *who can't STAND unsupportive husbands* |
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A sad good bye.
"Dawn Lawson" wrote in message news:Lc7Cb.666997$pl3.283982@pd7tw3no... Stephanie and Tim wrote: "Denise" wrote in message ... "Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message .. . "Dawn Lawson" wrote in I do not know this posters whole situation. And I don't care. There is more to parenting, particularly more than one child, then breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is important, but I am grateful that there are alternatives that are far better than they used to. I am having exactly ZERO problems breastfeeding, but I still sometimes think that bottle feeding would allow me to balance parenting of both children and give my son some of the time and attention he has been missing. I am holding off day by day. As I say, breasfeeding is important, and this is a great place to get help and support. But there is more to parenting and being a person than breatsfeeding. For some of us anyway. meow What does "meow" mean in this context? Thanks. I agree with you, but when a person makes it seem like they're sad to not be able to breastfeed, doesn't it make sense to offer them advice to help? If she's truly happy with not breastfeeding and she thinks formula will make her and baby happier, good, go for it. I guess I read it differently. I did not think she was looking for advice to help. But yeah, I agree with you. especially so near where most problems level out anyhow. Dawn |
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read my original post, Its not about my drying up... I felt my supply *was*
dwindling which was adding to the downward spiral. I want to stop nursing because of the stresses I am putting on my self and others. I want to stop nursing because I miss my DD and my DH. I want to stop because he was on my feeding too frequently than I could handle emotionally. My daughter was un able to deal with it as well and that made me feel guilty etc... I'm not going to go on. I took the pills because I wanted to dry up faster. when I said I don't know why I took them I meant (I don't know why I took them, I guess I could have dried up on my own. "Elfanie" wrote in message ... On Thu, 11 Dec 2003 16:56:26 GMT, "K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote: I could tell the tension was dwindling my supply. *snip* I cant go back, Im on dry up pills. I dont know why I took them, My doc suggested them to me and said that they will help with the engorgement. Ok...I'm confused. the only pills I know that will "dry you up" is bromocriptine (brand name Parlodel). Unlike most people are mistaken about, they are not off the market. they also are not an arthritis drug...they are an anti-parkinsons drug. they DID stop giving them to dry up milk supplies because there are a LOT of risks to bromocriptine, a LOT of side effects, and it was deemed not worth it to have that level of risk for that temporary of a problem. HOWEVER....that aside.. You are stopping nursing because you are tired and stressed because your baby wants to nurse all the time and you feel your supply is dwindling.. yet you're taking something to dry you up?? *boggles* I suppose I just don't understand this...not at all. Makes no sense.... Stephanie Soderblom CLD CCCE CD(DONA) ICD Mesa, AZ Mommy to Mikael 5/9/95 - Kerstyn 8/6/99 - and Kevin 8/30/02 Student Midwife Birth Doula / Childbirth Educator / Pregnancy and Birth Photography http://www.birthdiaries.com - Birth Story Diaries=REAL BIRTHS = REAL PHOTOS |
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A sad good bye.
Why cant I be a bit disappointed in my self not being able to handle breast
feeding and a family life at the same time? I am going through a bunch of emotions! I am glad to have more free time to spend with my DD and DH! but I am ashamed and disappointed that I couldn't last bf'ing longer, emotionally it was more than I can handle. I weighed all the pros and cons and well it came out with more cons if I continued to bf. "Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message ... "Dawn Lawson" wrote in message news:Lc7Cb.666997$pl3.283982@pd7tw3no... Stephanie and Tim wrote: "Denise" wrote in message ... "Stephanie and Tim" wrote in message .. . "Dawn Lawson" wrote in I do not know this posters whole situation. And I don't care. There is more to parenting, particularly more than one child, then breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is important, but I am grateful that there are alternatives that are far better than they used to. I am having exactly ZERO problems breastfeeding, but I still sometimes think that bottle feeding would allow me to balance parenting of both children and give my son some of the time and attention he has been missing. I am holding off day by day. As I say, breasfeeding is important, and this is a great place to get help and support. But there is more to parenting and being a person than breatsfeeding. For some of us anyway. meow What does "meow" mean in this context? Thanks. I agree with you, but when a person makes it seem like they're sad to not be able to breastfeed, doesn't it make sense to offer them advice to help? If she's truly happy with not breastfeeding and she thinks formula will make her and baby happier, good, go for it. I guess I read it differently. I did not think she was looking for advice to help. But yeah, I agree with you. especially so near where most problems level out anyhow. Dawn |
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A sad good bye ((Thanks))
in bold (IT IS NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY TO KEEP THE ENTIRE FAMILY TOGETHER! HE
IS SUPPORTIVE, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM OR ME FOR THAT MATTER. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH ANY ONES DH CAN TAKE, AND NO PUNY CUP OF HOT CHOCOLATE CAN CONSOLE ME AFTER SPENDING THE DAY WITH A DAUGHTER WHO IS CRYING BECAUSE I AM NEGLECTING HER. THERE ARE ONLY SO MANY TIMES READING HER A BOOK WHILE IM NURSING WILL AMUSE A 3.5 YEAROLD, AND IM SICK OF USING T.V AS A BABYSITTER.) it is not a small thing, it was a big deal! Nevermind my dh, my daughter was suffering greatly because of this. I great cure would be to put her in preschool a couple afternoons a week but we cant afford it and are just barely above the financial standards for any type of subsidy. I have looked at many routes to try and make this better on every one. I am only 22 DH is 26 DD is almost 4 DS is 4.5 weeks We own a house We own a new car We are doing very well for people so young, and its hard and stressful to deal with all of these (new) responsibilities. Maybe I'm not mature enough to be completely selfless, maybe I'm not mature enough to figure out how to bf and take care of my family. Regardless, I am trying my best. "badgirl" wrote in message news:FR8Cb.367876$ao4.1233531@attbi_s51... "K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote in message news:kP7Cb.663747$6C4.568845@pd7tw1no... Thanks for those who were understanding. My house is a much more nice place for others to be. When your husband dreads coming home because DD has torn up the house and mom is crying while nursing the baby you know something NEEDS to change. K-K I would think that change needs to come from DH. Instead of dreading coming home he could be somewhat more understanding. nstead of telling you that the house is trashed he could just pick up and deal with it. Instead of letting you cry he could make you a cup of hot chocolate and take the 3YO for an hour or two for you. I don't see your problems as being BF problems, I see them as being DH problems. He needs to be the one to support you now and I'm truely sorry that he isn't. I'm sorry for you, I'm sorry for your baby and I'm sorry for your whole family unit. If he won't support you in something as *small* (in the whole picture) as this, what happens when something major comes along? Jen *who can't STAND unsupportive husbands* |
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A sad good bye ((Thanks))
Do you think maybe you could refrain from yelling?
I could be a royal ass and go on the defensive and yell back but I won't. I simply pointed out what I saw as the problem, and I still feel that's the most likely suspect. It seems to me that you could make other choices and have it turn out well for all of you. I'm glad you got your baby as much breastmilk as you did, but I'm also dissappointed just like I was when my sisters quit. They had the same kinds of excuses and it didn't matter how much I offered to help...even to the point of babysitting for their older kids so they could get a good rythm going with BF for the babies. Apparently like you, they had made up their minds and nothing I offered to help with was going to change it. Whatever. No, breastfeeding is not the only important aspect of parenting, but it is a big one IMO and sometimes other things need to be at least temporarily readjusted in order to succeed at it...or any other part of being a parent for that matter. Jen "K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote in message news:7xaCb.665374$6C4.338699@pd7tw1no... in bold (IT IS NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY TO KEEP THE ENTIRE FAMILY TOGETHER! HE IS SUPPORTIVE, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM OR ME FOR THAT MATTER. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH ANY ONES DH CAN TAKE, AND NO PUNY CUP OF HOT CHOCOLATE CAN CONSOLE ME AFTER SPENDING THE DAY WITH A DAUGHTER WHO IS CRYING BECAUSE I AM NEGLECTING HER. THERE ARE ONLY SO MANY TIMES READING HER A BOOK WHILE IM NURSING WILL AMUSE A 3.5 YEAROLD, AND IM SICK OF USING T.V AS A BABYSITTER.) it is not a small thing, it was a big deal! Nevermind my dh, my daughter was suffering greatly because of this. I great cure would be to put her in preschool a couple afternoons a week but we cant afford it and are just barely above the financial standards for any type of subsidy. I have looked at many routes to try and make this better on every one. I am only 22 DH is 26 DD is almost 4 DS is 4.5 weeks We own a house We own a new car We are doing very well for people so young, and its hard and stressful to deal with all of these (new) responsibilities. Maybe I'm not mature enough to be completely selfless, maybe I'm not mature enough to figure out how to bf and take care of my family. Regardless, I am trying my best. "badgirl" wrote in message news:FR8Cb.367876$ao4.1233531@attbi_s51... "K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote in message news:kP7Cb.663747$6C4.568845@pd7tw1no... Thanks for those who were understanding. My house is a much more nice place for others to be. When your husband dreads coming home because DD has torn up the house and mom is crying while nursing the baby you know something NEEDS to change. K-K I would think that change needs to come from DH. Instead of dreading coming home he could be somewhat more understanding. nstead of telling you that the house is trashed he could just pick up and deal with it. Instead of letting you cry he could make you a cup of hot chocolate and take the 3YO for an hour or two for you. I don't see your problems as being BF problems, I see them as being DH problems. He needs to be the one to support you now and I'm truely sorry that he isn't. I'm sorry for you, I'm sorry for your baby and I'm sorry for your whole family unit. If he won't support you in something as *small* (in the whole picture) as this, what happens when something major comes along? Jen *who can't STAND unsupportive husbands* |
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A sad good bye ((Thanks))
"K-K ~Glass Boobs~" wrote in message news:7xaCb.665374$6C4.338699@pd7tw1no... in bold (IT IS NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY TO KEEP THE ENTIRE FAMILY TOGETHER! HE IS SUPPORTIVE, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM OR ME FOR THAT MATTER. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH ANY ONES DH CAN TAKE, AND NO PUNY CUP OF HOT CHOCOLATE CAN CONSOLE ME AFTER SPENDING THE DAY WITH A DAUGHTER WHO IS CRYING BECAUSE I AM NEGLECTING HER. THERE ARE ONLY SO MANY TIMES READING HER A BOOK WHILE IM NURSING WILL AMUSE A 3.5 YEAROLD, AND IM SICK OF USING T.V AS A BABYSITTER.) I'm really, honestly things didn't work out for you. Have you considered maybe getting screened for PPD? What do you suppose other moms with more than one child do while they nurse? Its good that you are doing so well for your age, but honestly, age has nothing to do with maturity, or parenting, or the ability to handle responsibilities, or make commitments.. etc. I'm 24. I have 3 kids and 1 on the way. My husband's 31, he's been in the Navy for 14 years and we own stuff. Does that make me or him better parents than you or anyone else? No. Parenting isn't a competition. If you're happy, good. You don't need to make excuses for making decision. Part of being an adult is making decisions for your family. You did. Good. Don't make excuses to appease others. -----= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =----- http://www.newsfeeds.com - The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! -----== Over 100,000 Newsgroups - 19 Different Servers! =----- |
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