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Can we cope with twins- no spin answers sought-David
warning... very long winded...
Well, Gwen, I support your stance. I don't think you were condescending when you "urged". That's the way people talk when they have a passion. Of course, I'm biased, I'm a SAHM too. I wouldn't miss these years for the world, if I could help it. But then again, I desperately wanted these children. There are plenty of people out there who just endure their kids and can't wait for graduation. I still think the kids would rather have their parents at home with them. That's their family. Their nest, their place of safety. Only if they are together is there a chance for them to bond. Bonding would never have a chance to happen if they all go their separate ways. There are plenty of ways for the at-home parent to be fulfilled without having to spend all day at work. And I have found that there are plenty of needs out there that can only be met by moms who are home during the day. And that is a wonderful thing for the kids to see. Kids aren't seeing moms at home, eating bonbons, laying around lamenting the careers unfulfilled. We are doing things for other people, making a difference in the neighborhood or community or to the little old lady next door. David, that was a cheap shot about the mom who drowned her kids. She had a mental illness. You can pipe in only AFTER you've gone through PPD. Thank you very much. Oh, and if you're referring to Susan Smith, well, that chick's got to have a mental illness too. Do you think spending their days in daycare would have changed that outcome? I think not. I don't really care what the studies indicate. It'll change in a few years and then change again. All I know is that my boys do benefit from me being at home and that's what I base my opinion on. I benefit too. Just last week I had two "parties" at my house, one Monday and one Tuesday. This is a lot of socializing for me. So I had to organize the agendas, clean house, cook, etc. etc. I farmed the kids out for several hours both days to get my work done. I was exhausted. And I missed them. I longed to stand in the driveway and watch them ride their bikes around in circles or run back and forth through the sprinklers. Sorry this was sooooo long. Stephanie Jake and Ryan 9/3/99 |
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Can we cope with twins- no spin answers sought-David
Just wanted to pop in.....I'm still here and desperately wanting to reply
but I've been SWAMPED!!!! We've decided to sell and build our own home so I'm packing, looking for land, weeding through house plans.....trying to get ready for our twins club C&E sale (aaack just a few more weeks!!)......and then of course everyday life with toddler twins and a 5year old!!!! And darn it if I still don't have some funky residual stuff from that internet worm......I'll start reading a post from here and if its of any length, I get kicked right back to its begining...very irritating!!!.....so anyway, rest assured I will RESPOND.....I wont make your life easier by disappearing like the other poster.....our kids are too important!....ok...off to more laundry, plan searching.....and I MUST vaccume tomorrow!!! Gwen |
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Can we cope with twins- no spin answers sought-David
Just wanted to pop in.....I'm still here and desperately wanting to reply
but I've been SWAMPED!!!! We've decided to sell and build our own home so I'm packing, looking for land, weeding through house plans.....trying to get ready for our twins club C&E sale (aaack just a few more weeks!!)......and then of course everyday life with toddler twins and a 5year old!!!! And darn it if I still don't have some funky residual stuff from that internet worm......I'll start reading a post from here and if its of any length, I get kicked right back to its begining...very irritating!!!.....so anyway, rest assured I will RESPOND.....I wont make your life easier by disappearing like the other poster.....our kids are too important!....ok...off to more laundry, plan searching.....and I MUST vaccume tomorrow!!! Gwen |
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Can we cope with twins- no spin answers sought-David
Jonathan --
This is a link to a later article about the study: http://www.oacas.org/whatsnew/newsst...6childcare.pdf Julie Jonathan Wolgamuth wrote: In article , ess says... There was actually a big NIH study released on that this summer. Basic finding, as reported in the NY Times this summer, was "The correlation between quantity of child care and behavior problems remained even when other variables were taken into account, including the quality and type of the child care, the mother's sensitivity to her child's needs and the family's socioeconomic status. Indeed, the study found that the time spent in child care was linked more strongly with children's behavior than was the quality of care." Do you have a link to the report? Or a summary of the report? I'm interested. -- Jonathan "Kids are great Apu! You can teach them to hate the things you hate, and they practically raise themselves with the internet and all!" H.S. |
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