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Old December 6th 06, 10:55 AM posted to alt.child-support
Janet
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Default How to stop him?

My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Jan
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Old December 6th 06, 11:02 AM posted to alt.child-support
Moon Shyne
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"Janet" wrote in message
...
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.


He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf as
you do.



Jan



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Old December 6th 06, 01:18 PM posted to alt.child-support
Gini
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"Janet" wrote
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

==
How is it that she got so turned against her father? That doesn't normally
happen without
some Parental Alienation Syndrome, especially in a child that young. Why do
you not wish her to have a
relationship with her father? You are no more her parent than he is. You do
not own that child. If you want him
out of her life, why did you file for child support? Did you really expect
to take the money and run?
You aren't looking so good here. It wouldn't surprise me if the judge
agrees. Normally, when a custodial mom
comes here with this kind of story, she suddenly comes back with "he was
abusive" in an attempt to justify her
turning the child against the dad to keep him away from her. So, do you now
have an abuse story?


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Old December 6th 06, 01:26 PM posted to alt.child-support
R
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Default How to stop him?


Janet wrote:
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Jan


You don't have a clue. Do you? The little one is his too. You're the
one responsible to see to it they have a loving and healthy
relationship. Where did she get the idea dad was a bad guy anyway? It's
not genetic. I'll give you a hint... YOU! What sort of message are you
sending your "Little" girl about men and relationships? Your attitude
wreaks of feminisim. Kids need BOTH parents. Wake up and stop the
bull**** kitten. Who the hell are you to judge his motives? Perhaps
it would be a better idea to post this trash to a feminist audience.
Not to parents

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Old December 6th 06, 02:12 PM posted to alt.child-support
teachrmama
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"Janet" wrote in message
...
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?


It's going to be up to you to make this easy for her. The judge almost
certaily will assign him time with his chld. So you need to start talking
about all the wonderful things little girls can do with their fathers. Talk
to him, and arrange for the 3 of you to start doing some things together--go
out for a hamburger, go see a movie, etc. Laugh with him, talk with him.
Let HER see what a nice man he is. (You obviously did more thatn laugh and
talk at one point in time, or she wouldn't be here) Let her see the man you
cared enough about to create her. YOU have the power to help this happen
without trauma. Be a loving mother to your daughter and help her get to
know and love her daddy.


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Old December 6th 06, 06:34 PM posted to alt.child-support
Dale
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Default How to stop him?


"Janet" wrote in

She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this
will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him.


I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has been in
therapy previously and spending time with him will set her back? Since when
does a parent's love do damage to a child?

Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is because you
shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess, you filed for C$
money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the state can legally
collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did you really think you were
going to collect a $30,000 check with no strings attached or did all your
girlfriends not tell you about that part?

If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being truthful,
then drop the CS case.
If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!!




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Old December 6th 06, 07:29 PM posted to alt.child-support
Mr. Anonymous
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Default How to stop him?

It's kind of funny, isn't it? The girlfriends are all full of advice about
"divorce him", "sue him", and all sorts of stuff, yet nobody figures that
there might be a backlash. Only loads of free money...

Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free ride.


"Dale" wrote in message
. net...

"Janet" wrote in

She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this
will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him.


I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has been in
therapy previously and spending time with him will set her back? Since
when does a parent's love do damage to a child?

Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is because
you shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess, you filed for
C$ money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the state can legally
collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did you really think you were
going to collect a $30,000 check with no strings attached or did all your
girlfriends not tell you about that part?

If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being truthful,
then drop the CS case.
If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!!






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Old December 6th 06, 07:45 PM posted to alt.child-support
Bob Whiteside
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Default How to stop him?


"Janet" wrote in message
...
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.


Parenting time plans are used to establish CS awards. CS can be set
administratively and then get court approval. Parenting time plans require
separate approval and can only be set by the courts.

Your child's father is not doing anything unusual.

From the tone of your original post it sounds like you might have some
control issues. Since the two of you had a child together your lives will
be intertwined forever through the child. Get used to it and stop trying to
drive her father away.


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Old December 6th 06, 07:56 PM posted to alt.child-support
Dale
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Default How to stop him?


"Mr. Anonymous" wrote in

Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free ride.


Yes, there wouldn't be much of an incentive to pop out kids if it was just
basic support they were going to get, but the idea they can collect a large
portion of money, based on the percentage of a man's income is what's really
driving these greedy mommas to hunt there missing ex down.

Maybe he wouldn't be missing if the CS rates were not so bleeding high?


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Old December 6th 06, 09:31 PM posted to alt.child-support
Phil
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Default How to stop him?


"Mr. Anonymous" wrote in message
t.com...
It's kind of funny, isn't it? The girlfriends are all full of advice
about "divorce him", "sue him", and all sorts of stuff, yet nobody
figures that there might be a backlash. Only loads of free money...

Seems like women think that the pussy is just a ticket for a free
ride.


For many, it is and just as many men haven't figured it out yet.
Phil #3



"Dale" wrote in message
. net...

"Janet" wrote in

She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
She is seeing a therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that
this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him.


I don't get it, you say she doesn't hardly knows the man, but has
been in therapy previously and spending time with him will set her
back? Since when does a parent's love do damage to a child?

Perhaps the reason your boyfriend was absent all these years is
because you shut him out from your daughter's life? Let me guess,
you filed for C$ money just in time before her 6th birthday, so the
state can legally collect arrearages from the time of birth? Did
you really think you were going to collect a $30,000 check with no
strings attached or did all your girlfriends not tell you about that
part?

If you are really serious about stopping him and you were being
truthful, then drop the CS case.
If he's really not interested, he will go away!!!!!!!!!!






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