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I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we
basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? S. |
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S.K. wrote:
I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? If she doesn't truly need the money, she shouldn't take it, but that's another issue. Even though I'm in CA also, I'm not sure about this, but I believe that her income should be "imputed" as if she were still working and your payments shouldn't be affected. If she doesn't work, that's her choice. Technically, your kids are not his kids, they're your kids. So, expecting his money (even if he were Donald Trump) to be a basis for lowing your obligation is not right. -- "Reagan proved deficits don't matter." ~ Dick Cheney to Paul O'Neill during a Cabinet meeting. |
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You are correct to my knowledge regarding imputed income.
Hoever, it's likely that CS was set pre marriage and he's paying what he'd be paying if she were working (and it's still to high). Gee, I wonder if he could get Spousal Support due to her now "joint income" that is higher? It wouldn't hurt to run it past an attorney though. If you don't have much money, go to www.nolo.com and try one of the "dial a lawyer" people on that site. I've used them and gotten competent legal advice and the cost is minimal (about $70.00 the last time I used them). barry |
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S.K. wrote:
I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) I don't understand why you have to pay if you're the "custodial parent" on paper. It must be worse than I thought. Bob She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? S. -- When did we divide into sides? "As president, I will put American government and our legal system back on the side of women." John Kerry, misandrist Democratic candidate for President. http://www.johnkerry.com/issues/women/ [Bob does not advocate any illegal, seditious, or immoral acts. All posts are for discussion, rhetorical, or humorous purposes only.] |
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I pay because ...legally, my daughter spends 51% with me, and 49% with her
mom...at the time we signed our CS papers she had 0 income and I made around 35k... That's another reason for me to be careful about the whole thing as well: I make more now. so if i were to stir things up, then lose my arguement, I may end up paying even more. S. "Bob" wrote in message ... S.K. wrote: I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) I don't understand why you have to pay if you're the "custodial parent" on paper. It must be worse than I thought. Bob She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? S. -- When did we divide into sides? "As president, I will put American government and our legal system back on the side of women." John Kerry, misandrist Democratic candidate for President. http://www.johnkerry.com/issues/women/ [Bob does not advocate any illegal, seditious, or immoral acts. All posts are for discussion, rhetorical, or humorous purposes only.] |
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"The DaveŠ" wrote in message ...
S.K. wrote: I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? If she doesn't truly need the money, she shouldn't take it, but that's another issue. Even though I'm in CA also, I'm not sure about this, but I believe that her income should be "imputed" as if she were still working and your payments shouldn't be affected. If she doesn't work, that's her choice. Technically, your kids are not his kids, they're your kids. So, expecting his money (even if he were Donald Trump) to be a basis for lowing your obligation is not right. I disagree. She's married to the new husband now. They share home, autos, and chekcing accounts. I do not believe that should be expected to provide full support for his new wifes children, but the fathers chld support payments SHOULD be lowered on the basis that 1/2 of the new spouses income is owned by the wife/mother. The new husbands income would be used to calculate everything else. medicaid, eligibility for WIC, sliding scale services, etc even though the services would be provided to only the wife and children, so yes, it should also be used to calculate the fathers support payments. Now tell me, if this lady walks into welfare and wants a welfare check because she doesn't work what do you think they will tell her? They will tell her that half of her husbands income is hers. If it counts for the government why not for the dad too? |
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witchwirsen wrote:
Technically, your kids are not his kids, they're your kids. So, expecting his money (even if he were Donald Trump) to be a basis for lowing your obligation is not right. I disagree. She's married to the new husband now. They share home, autos, and chekcing accounts. I do not believe that should be expected to provide full support for his new wifes children, but the fathers chld support payments SHOULD be lowered on the basis that 1/2 of the new spouses income is owned by the wife/mother. The new husbands income would be used to calculate everything else. medicaid, eligibility for WIC, sliding scale services, etc even though the services would be provided to only the wife and children, so yes, it should also be used to calculate the fathers support payments. Now tell me, if this lady walks into welfare and wants a welfare check because she doesn't work what do you think they will tell her? They will tell her that half of her husbands income is hers. If it counts for the government why not for the dad too? Because it's not the new husband's kid. The new husband isn't the government. End of story. -- Whose cruel idea was it to put an 's' in the word lisp? |
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"S.K." wrote in message m... I pay because ...legally, my daughter spends 51% with me, and 49% with her mom...at the time we signed our CS papers she had 0 income and I made around 35k... ------------------ Did they impute income at that time? ------------------ That's another reason for me to be careful about the whole thing as well: I make more now. so if i were to stir things up, then lose my arguement, I may end up paying even more. ----------------- I know what you mean. In our case they imputed income to my future fiancee but not to the mom which was totally unfair. But now my FF is making over twice as much as was imputed and the mom is still unemployed, (she remarried, new hubby works while she sits on her fat ass), We figure it would still be 50% of the paycheck which it is now due to arrearages so there's really no point. It would just end up making any arrearages in the future, (job loss, etc), larger. ~AZ~ S. "Bob" wrote in message ... S.K. wrote: I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) I don't understand why you have to pay if you're the "custodial parent" on paper. It must be worse than I thought. Bob She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? S. -- When did we divide into sides? "As president, I will put American government and our legal system back on the side of women." John Kerry, misandrist Democratic candidate for President. http://www.johnkerry.com/issues/women/ [Bob does not advocate any illegal, seditious, or immoral acts. All posts are for discussion, rhetorical, or humorous purposes only.] |
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New spouse income can be factored into the CS payment equation in CA I
believe. "The DaveŠ" wrote in message ... S.K. wrote: I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? If she doesn't truly need the money, she shouldn't take it, but that's another issue. Even though I'm in CA also, I'm not sure about this, but I believe that her income should be "imputed" as if she were still working and your payments shouldn't be affected. If she doesn't work, that's her choice. Technically, your kids are not his kids, they're your kids. So, expecting his money (even if he were Donald Trump) to be a basis for lowing your obligation is not right. -- "Reagan proved deficits don't matter." ~ Dick Cheney to Paul O'Neill during a Cabinet meeting. |
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If you are paying less than 300 to 400 bucks, I'd leave it at that man. You
are rolling the dice by ****ing her off, you KNOW she has all the cards. I make 75G's a year, my ex 50G's a year, and I pay 1,000 a month in CS. I have my kids about 35% of the time. When my ex took me back to court to increase CS from the previously negotiated 600/month at the time of divorce, to the new amount, the court basically had NO empathy for me at all. All the receipts, all of the expenses I itemized, the savings I demonstrated for my children's college mattered not. The man is the cash cow, pure and simple. 5 minutes in front of the judge, bada bing, bada boom, instant pay decrease. And I still try and provide all the things I did before for my kids. Just suck it up at this point. "S.K." wrote in message m... I pay because ...legally, my daughter spends 51% with me, and 49% with her mom...at the time we signed our CS papers she had 0 income and I made around 35k... That's another reason for me to be careful about the whole thing as well: I make more now. so if i were to stir things up, then lose my arguement, I may end up paying even more. S. "Bob" wrote in message ... S.K. wrote: I live in CA and I have been paying my ex support for 5 years or so....we basically share custody 50-50, with me being the custodial parent (on paper at least) I don't understand why you have to pay if you're the "custodial parent" on paper. It must be worse than I thought. Bob She was remarried a few years ago and now her husband makes a ton of money (he changed jobs)....so: she has decided not to go back to work. She lives in a huge house, providing loads of great things for the family, while I live in a small 1 bedroom apartment and have to pay her. how is this fair? should I have to pay her support while she is doing so much better financially? If she hadn't married this other guy, she would have an income, and therefore lower the support that i need to pay her right? Well, either way, things have always been very friendly between us, so I am always hesitant to even bring up the subject. Plus, I feel an obligation to provide support as well. I would never cut off payments to her, unless it was agreed on. But, it truly seems wrong for me to pay her so much every month when she and her family has so much more than i. Would it be true that if she were to marry donald trump, and have millions of dollars available to her, that I would still need to pay her every month the few hundred dollars? S. -- When did we divide into sides? "As president, I will put American government and our legal system back on the side of women." John Kerry, misandrist Democratic candidate for President. http://www.johnkerry.com/issues/women/ [Bob does not advocate any illegal, seditious, or immoral acts. All posts are for discussion, rhetorical, or humorous purposes only.] |
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