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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Ilse Witch" wrote in message news On Thu, 03 Jun 2004 19:00:24 -0400, Sophie wrote: Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. From the already 67 replies to this post, you can see how this is obviously a big issue for many posters here. I say, if they'd want me to BF in the bathroom I will gladly comply if the guest who complained takes his/her meal and eats there too. Great minds think alike Ilse I've never had to ask anyone to bring their meal with me to the loo to discuss their problem with me bf in public, but its certainly what I'd like to think I'd have the guts to do Amanda (PS - how are you??) -- DD 15th August 2002 1 tiny angel Nov 2003 EDD 19th August 2004 |
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melizabeth wrote:
are you all using a blanket, or the sling while NIP? We took DD to a local ice cream maker's "Come eat ice cream for free all day" party when she was 2-3 weeks old. At that point, I could nurse in exactly one position, normally topless, and had never tried nursing outside of the house. It was a million degrees (probably 95 and 80% humidity), DD was hot and cranky and hungry, she wouldn't take the bottle of ebm I'd brought, so the only other option was to nurse where we were. I had my mom hold a blanket between me and the crowd while I got her latched on, then tried to put a blanket over us. She wouldn't nurse, I was much hotter, no blanket for us. One of the ice cream lines was 3 feet away, and we didn't get so much as a glance. I never even tried to use a blanket again. I nursed in a sling a lot when DD was younger, because she'd sleep in the sling and only wake to nurse back to sleep. I nurse in the sling now, but that's almost as indiscreet as nursing while DD sits in the shopping cart. Her butt is down below my waist, she's got my shirt in both hands pulled up as high as possible, and her head and my arms are the only things blocking the view. I'm wondering how much discretion plays a part in people's attitudes towards NIP. I think the nursing mom's demeanor has a lot to do with it. If you're acting embarrassed and furtive, people will try to figure out what you're up to and stare at you in the process. If you think you ought not be NIPping, you interpret those stares not as curiosity but as lasciviousness or disgust. If you act normal and matter-of-fact, people assume you're doing normal things, and NIP isn't what they assume. Example: I was at the zoo with a mom from a local AP group and her 3 year old. Caterpillar was hot, cranky, and ready for a nap. So I put her in the sling (sitting up), and she held up my shirt and nursed. The other mom looked over and said, "Oh, is she sleeping?" Phoebe |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Buzzy Bee wibbled
We were in a brewery/restaurant in Belgium a few weeks back and DH spotted a woman breastfeeding a toddler. He was all "hey, isn't that great, she's breastfeeding". *Such* a difference in him VBG Jac |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
H Schinske wrote:
Wouldn't they also remember having their diapers changed? I don't remember my diaper being changed. Do you? If your kid is still in diapers at 3 and 4 years old, that's a whole other topic. |
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On Fri, 4 Jun 2004 21:26:53 +0000 (UTC), Jacqui
wrote: Buzzy Bee wibbled We were in a brewery/restaurant in Belgium a few weeks back and DH spotted a woman breastfeeding a toddler. He was all "hey, isn't that great, she's breastfeeding". *Such* a difference in him VBG Yeah, you've been a great influence on him, but y'know, iuil is visiting in a couple of weeks and she and 'Tis Herself were his first NIP experience (in a Dublin pub when I was pregnant with Seoras). After some rafter studying I think he got used to the idea and learnt how to have conversations with their faces! Megan |
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"Buzzy Bee" wrote in message news On Fri, 04 Jun 2004 17:20:18 GMT, Maria Danielle Darst wrote: DH was the one who would get all excited about other people seeing the babies feed. We were in a brewery/restaurant in Belgium a few weeks back and DH spotted a woman breastfeeding a toddler. He was all "hey, isn't that great, she's breastfeeding". *Such* a difference in him (particularly given I of course never have breastfed yet, so he doesn't have that "as a Dad" experience of it). I was kind of glad the ILs weren't with us at the time (we were on holiday with them, but had decided to skip the brewery tour). MIL is not so convinced about extended breastfeeding so I am hoping it just sneaks up on her ;-) Megan *lol* My in-laws seemed to be ok with my BF-ing. It made me nervous to do it w/FIL or my dad in the room...but OTOH I didn't feel like I should have to leave the room/conversation/ect for extended periods of time. DH was always there and made sure that DD and I were comfy and not exposed. But by far the funniest time I had w/DH was when Kelly was about 3 months old and we came to visit my mom in San Antonio....and I had to bf on the plane. He would see her fussing....then see me move her into position...start the shirt lift and then jump into action with the blankie. The only thing I could think of was "sheesh....people are trying to board the plane here...get situated...they are paying me little mind (either we were seated in a row w/only 2 seats or would have the middle and window seats in a 3 seat row...so I was usually by the window and someone would have been pretty hard pressed to figure out what was going on unless they heard DH saying something. Your DH seems to have a good attitude about it....hope he keeps the good humor if you decide to bf as well....it takes it from both partners to get thru the inital period... Maria Kelly 2/19/00 Kyle 7/9/01 |
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"Shena Delian O'Brien" wrote in message ... H Schinske wrote: Wouldn't they also remember having their diapers changed? I don't remember my diaper being changed. Do you? If your kid is still in diapers at 3 and 4 years old, that's a whole other topic. So far only one of my children has managed to be potty trained before 3. One will be 4 in 2 weeks and she's no where near being potty trained. I'm sure she'll remember having her diaper changed when she's older. Denise |
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Buzzy Bee wibbled
Jacqui wrote: Buzzy Bee wibbled We were in a brewery/restaurant in Belgium a few weeks back and DH spotted a woman breastfeeding a toddler. He was all "hey, isn't that great, she's breastfeeding". *Such* a difference in him VBG Yeah, you've been a great influence on him, but y'know, iuil is visiting in a couple of weeks and she and 'Tis Herself were his first NIP experience (in a Dublin pub when I was pregnant with Seoras). After some rafter studying I think he got used to the idea and learnt how to have conversations with their faces! Oh, I wasn't aiming for sole credit! ;-) I know it's very noticeable how much more comfortable he is now, though (and equally I'm far more comfortable NIH(house) with him there, as I've got a lot more competent at it since we first met!). Now if I could just have got someone to NIP in front of DH for a while before T was born... ;-) He's fine with people we know nursing in front of him now but he was quite startled when we had all the curtains back on the ward in the first few days and he saw other women nursing. It was bad enough for him trying to get his head around *my* doing it. ;-) Jac |
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On Fri, 04 Jun 2004 14:27:56 -0700, Shena Delian O'Brien
wrote: If your kid is still in diapers at 3 and 4 years old, that's a whole other topic. Neither of mine were out of diapers until they were well past 3 years, so I imagine my 2 month old may be as well. Nan |
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On Fri, 04 Jun 2004 21:46:05 GMT, Maria Danielle Darst
wrote: Your DH seems to have a good attitude about it....hope he keeps the good humor if you decide to bf as well....it takes it from both partners to get thru the inital period... Oh, I know I have his support, to the extent of telling his mother to **** off if necessary. We had long discussions about that when I was pregnant with S. And I certainly *will* BF just as soon as I get a child I *can* BF - we both have a history of allergies, so its a given for us and one of the reasons we hired our independent midwife (and will hire her again even if we opt for a hospital birth, though thats not likely) Megan |
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