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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
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Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 I didn't ever breast feed in public ( as in shops or restaurants) but certainly did in friends houses purely because I have really big breasts and tummy and find it very awkward and only ever fed using the football hold and a pillow at the side of me,( not one bit discrete I tell you!) even in those parents rooms I couldn't because the sides of the arm chairs were too high.. I timed my outings to shops and dinner etc for the 3 hrs between feeds, I found it very inconvenient. I have no objection to people feeding babies in public, I wish I was able to do it so easily. Alissa |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
In article 5hQvc.37079$pt3.23574@attbi_s03,
JennP wrote: "Sophie" wrote in message ... Mini-vent coming on - As a person who did not/does not breastfeed, why does it bother me when people say breastfeeding in public is "inappropriate" - and particularly it's inappropriate in a **restaurant**?? Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Nursed five kids, nine years total. I only got one comment and it was enthusiastically positive. Jan Tovah 13 Eliana 11 Asher 9 David 6 Shoshana 4 http://www.lotsofkids.com |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Sophie wrote: Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 I've nursed in public often, although discreetly, and never had a rude comment. A few double take/longer than normal stares, but nothing major. My 4 year old recentlyt announced loudly in the middle of the store 'mom, she (dd#2) wants some BOOB!', which got a few amused stares, but thats the closest I've come to an odd comment... cara |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Wendy,
I haven't had the pleasure of any long term breastfeeding, but I am the mother of a 17 month old. I think what happens is that your baby grows so fast, and yet so slow at the same time. I'd imagine that nursing your baby at 6 months isn't that much different than nursing that same baby at 7 or 8 or 9 months. The next thing you know, that baby is 12 months old -- an arbitrary date, and yet still such a baby. The 12 month recommendation is arbitrary, and mostly based on societal norms and pressures. To suddenly cut off that closeness, that bonding, that comforting, well, it just doesn't make logical sense. But that baby who nursed for food and comfort yesterday at 11 months and 30+ days, isn't any different today, on his/her 1 year birthday. That baby still needs food and comfort, and your breasts still provide both. So you continue to breastfeed. Time passes. Maybe you cut down the number of feedings, based on the baby's wants, needs, and schedule, but you are still nourishing your child with your body. You do it because it feels right and natural, and because you can. Time continues to pass, and the next time you really look at your child, they've morphed into a toddler. And then a preschooler. Maybe you've stopped by now, by your choice, or by your child's choice, but if you are still breastfeeding, it's by mutual consent and agreement -- both parties are benefiting from the arrangement. Both parties feel the bonding, feel the love, and feel the comfort. I think where the cut-off is, depends on the mother and the child. -- Jamie & Taylor Earth Angel, 1/3/03 Check out Taylor Marlys -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password Check out our Adoption Page at http://home.earthlink.net/~jamielee6 "Wendy" wrote in message ... I am really surprised to hear how many mothers are saying they breastfed their babies past the recommended 12 months. I think breastfeeding is wonderful but I am curious to know why you would WANT to breastfeed that long. I'm not criticizing their choice so no flames, please, but is there a point where it gets weird? Isn't 3,4, or 5 a little old to be nursing? How can you nurse a kindergartener? And if people nurse children of that age why not go to 10 or 11? Where is the cutoff? Just wondering. |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Sophie wrote: Have any of you who breastfeed in public ever had anyone say anything rude to you? Just curious. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 I also would get ticked off at people who are so rude about the whole breastfeeding isue. It is not like I am shooting a porn & if it turns you on, then you are weird. I never been in the situation, but I think that if someone says anything rude to me about breastfeeding in public, I would just tell them that they should keep their eyes away from me. Look away & it won't bother you. |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"Wendy" wrote in message ... I am really surprised to hear how many mothers are saying they breastfed their babies past the recommended 12 months. I think breastfeeding is wonderful but I am curious to know why you would WANT to breastfeed that long. I'm not criticizing their choice so no flames, please, but is there a point where it gets weird? Isn't 3,4, or 5 a little old to be nursing? How can you nurse a kindergartener? And if people nurse children of that age why not go to 10 or 11? Where is the cutoff? Just wondering. Well first of all the World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding for at least two years. Breastmilk, contrary to what a lot of people think, continues to provide wonderful nourishment and health benefits well past baby's first year. Also, many mothers (myself included) enjoy breastfeeding their toddlers. I'm sure the age that it gets "weird" is different for every mother. I'm not sure what that age will be for myself. I hope to breastfeed my daughter until she is 2 and at that point I will decide whether I feel comfortable in continuing or not. I honestly cannot see myself breastfeeding a 3 or 4 year old but I certainly don't judge women who do (and I'm not saying you are judging them) and who knows, maybe that will be me! I think I enjoy breastfeeding now more than ever. I recently started working full time again and the first thing I do when I see my DD after work is breastfeed her. It is a wonderful way to reconnect with her after being separated all day. |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Seriously? People actually have the nerve to ask such questions? Now
this is 100 times worse than rude comments about breastfeeding. Whose business is it? Gosh, I would have lashed back at them. How rude. You got me real angry right there. I hope that you are not too sensitive about it though. Phoebe & Allyson wrote: I've gotten multiple "what country did she come from / what agency did you use / I always wanted an Oriental baby" comments, though. Apparently nice Caucasian girls don't give birth to mixed-race children around here. Phoebe -- yahoo address is unread; substitute mailbolt |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
Hi Wendy;
I have had the same question all along, but didn't dare to ask, cause I might get shot at ) Most research that I have read about breastfeeding assure that it is actually recommended to breastfeed till the age of 9 months. Then 9 months or more than 9 months has no effect on the child's development, as long as the child has spent 9 months. It has been agreed that less than 9 months has a disadvantage on the emotional development of a child (there has been some research that says that children who have been breastfed for less than 9 months have had difficulties at school & in life. I am not sure though how much to believe in that, cause that would mean that formula fed children have a lower IQ, which simply isn't true). I never breastfed (since this is my first child), but I hear from my friends that did that they feel guilty when they think of stopping, also it makes them feel closer to their child, also it makes them feel more feminine. It hink that every woman may have a different reason for breastfeeding longer. Though I can't understand why someone would breastfeed for so long, but I guess if it makes them feel good, why not (just not my cup of tea). Mona due 07-31-04 Wendy wrote: I am really surprised to hear how many mothers are saying they breastfed their babies past the recommended 12 months. I think breastfeeding is wonderful but I am curious to know why you would WANT to breastfeed that long. I'm not criticizing their choice so no flames, please, but is there a point where it gets weird? Isn't 3,4, or 5 a little old to be nursing? How can you nurse a kindergartener? And if people nurse children of that age why not go to 10 or 11? Where is the cutoff? Just wondering. |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
On Fri, 04 Jun 2004 05:20:43 GMT, cara wrote:
My 4 year old recentlyt announced loudly in the middle of the store 'mom, she (dd#2) wants some BOOB! ROFL! My 4 year old has done that, too! She tells perfect strangers, "my baby sister smiles when she sleeps cuz she's dreaming of boob". Heh. Nan |
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Why does this bother me? (re - breastfeeding)
"zolw" wrote in message news:PdUvc.47709$Ly.6121@attbi_s01... Most research that I have read about breastfeeding assure that it is actually recommended to breastfeed till the age of 9 months. Then 9 months or more than 9 months has no effect on the child's development, as long as the child has spent 9 months. It has been agreed that less than 9 months has a disadvantage on the emotional development of a child (there has been some research that says that children who have been breastfed for less than 9 months have had difficulties at school & in life. I am not sure though how much to believe in that, cause that would mean that formula fed children have a lower IQ, which simply isn't true). Mmmm. This is not accurate. And I am not flaming you. Look. What is important to optimal brain development are the EFA's, the essential fatty acids that are in breastmilk. They can also be put into the child's diet in other ways. There are formulas which have EFAs added. Other foods containing EFAs can be added to the child's diet. But the EFAs are important, and yes they *do* affect IQ. See this article (which just to reassure you, has nothing to do with breastfeeding, but compares problem-solving skills in babies fed 'regular' formula vs formula with EFAs added: http://exchange.healthwell.com/nutri...fattyacids.cfm If you choose, or need, to feed formula, you will do best to feed your child a formula containing EFAs. Will your child be a drooling simpleton if he does not receive EFA-enhanced formula? No, of course not. If you breastfeed, your child will receive EFAs without having to think about it at all. Nor will you have to worry about constipation, contamination, running out of formula at an inopportune time, and certain other inconveniences and discomforts. Now, to address the OP's question about why anyone would want to breastfeed past a year, I can only tell you why I did (#1 until age 5, #2 until age 3 1/2): I don't believe in calendars ruling my life. I don't give a damn about Christmas, Easter, or Thanksgiving. I don't like my birthday. I don't believe in due dates, and I don't think there's anything magical about a child being 365 days old. My babies wanted to nurse, and I found it more advantageous to continue giving them my breasts than to deprive them of it. By the end, my then-5-year-old was only asking once a day, and then once every couple of days, and then once a week. But she still would ask, and I allowed it (briefly). I found if I refused, she sucked her thumb. She needed *something*, and nursing provided it. I didn't want her to suck her thumb because she needed something I could provide, but refused to provide. One day she just never asked anymore. I can't tell you when she was weaned. It was so gradual. I had to wean my #2 because I got pregnant and my milk simply dried up after a couple of months. She resented it and still (a year and a half later) talks about missing being a baby, and missing nursing. I can't imagine trying to find a better panacea for nightmares, scraped knees, bruises, and bonks on the head. I can't imagine leaving my baby to scream herself to sleep at night when I can roll over and let her nurse for five minutes and have silence. I know no better way to get a cranky, fighting-sleep baby to sleep. Or a fighting-sleep toddler. I can't imagine trying to get a sick kid to drink that nasty Pedialyte stuff, when breastmilk is the best thing for a sick baby, chock full of useful antibodies. And it tastes good. I can't imagine giving those things up because a calendar says it's time. I prefer to let my child tell me when she's ready. They do; they will. Eventually, every child asks less and less. Sometimes this is before the age of 1 year; sometimes as old as six. So that's why *I* do it. And I will do it with the nursling I have now, age 10 months. It's good for them, and it's convenient for me. Others' mileage may vary. --angela |
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