Update on the soap opera that is my life...

Dennis Here youreply
wrote in message ...

Tiffany wrote in message ...

But how long do you do that when you meet someone? When do you know its
the
time to involve the kids? NEVER? I mean, you can know someone for years
without knowing the truth sometimes. Do you plan to wait until all your
kids
are over 18?

No, I have been married twice remember so I was as sure enough to get to
that point. Can't expect to introduce the children on the wedding day now
can we?
Just imagine, "Oh, BTW, the bridesmaid is my daughter and the page is my
son, hope you don't mind, I'll introduce you later"

Not wanting to take any moral high ground here but this is the way I have
always dealt with the situation.
I have had plenty of woman friends over the years and my sons have always
been used to meeting them and never seem to have had a problem with it.
What
my sons have not had to deal with is finding any of them in bed with me
prior to disappearing. I have never lived with anyone. I confine my love
life to my own time but this does not stop me having days out with a
woman
and my/her children. On some occasions, rather than inhibit the odd sign
of
affection between us, the children will actively encourage it! I take my
cues from the children as well as how I feel. As to the time involved,
personally it has to be over a year for me to come to any kind of a
conclusion. If this is too long a period for the woman then so be it. If
they are still around and I feel that I could happily spend the rest of my
life with them then things would move up to another level. This is rare
for
me however but it is the rare woman I am waiting for!

Dennis





Excellent way to make a point. That is just about the way I feel. My
daughter has met many of my male friends but only as that.... friends. I did
make 2 mistakes when she was much younger though and that taught me a GREAT
lesson. I won't take my family down that path again.

Tiffany

"Tiffany" wrote in message
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Excellent way to make a point. That is just about the way I feel. My
daughter has met many of my male friends but only as that.... friends. I
did
make 2 mistakes when she was much younger though and that taught me a
GREAT
lesson. I won't take my family down that path again.

Tiffany



You know what they say.....three strikes and you're out ;-)


(like I should talk LOL)

Paul Fritz wrote in message
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"Tiffany" wrote in message
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Excellent way to make a point. That is just about the way I feel. My
daughter has met many of my male friends but only as that.... friends. I
did
make 2 mistakes when she was much younger though and that taught me a
GREAT
lesson. I won't take my family down that path again.

Tiffany



You know what they say.....three strikes and you're out ;-)


(like I should talk LOL)



lol.... how true! One thing I didn't give more then one strike was having a
kid! I learned from that the first time.

T

"Paul Fritz" wrote in message
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"Tiffany" wrote in message
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Excellent way to make a point. That is just about the way I feel. My
daughter has met many of my male friends but only as that.... friends. I
did
make 2 mistakes when she was much younger though and that taught me a
GREAT
lesson. I won't take my family down that path again.

Tiffany



You know what they say.....three strikes and you're out ;-)


(like I should talk LOL)


Yeah, that's the way I'm leaning... I don't have time for men, let alone
toxic ones. So I'm out, I fold, cashing in my cheque...

Christine

"CME" wrote in message
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'Kate wrote in message
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On Thu, 06 Nov 2003 21:42:42 GMT, "CME"

'Kate wrote in message
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On Thu, 6 Nov 2003 09:54:38 -0500, "Lisa aka Surfer"


"CME" wrote in message
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I ended up talking to the other woman lastnight and she's been
dating
him
for the past 3 months and was completely unaware of Brian and I
were
still
together. She dropped by the house and took a look at my MSN chat
logs
and
saw a conversation that completely incriminated him. So yeah, he
was
leading a double life and now both of us are feeling used. The
hilarious
thing is he called me trying to make me feel sorry for him because
I
had
his
vehicle towed, called his work, got him busted with the
girlfriend,
and
I
laughed and said he brought it on himself. Can you believe the
nerve
of
that man??? I think I should consider selling my story to
Hollywood,
that's
how ridiculous this has all gotten. *sigh*

Christine



And was he aware that it was You that had his car towed, called his
work(?)
and ratted him out to this other person?

I don't entirely understand what you hoped to gain from the car and
work
part. I mean really, what's the point?

Lisa

I'd imagine that it's difficult to keep doing things for someone who
has
screwed with your head. She allowed him to keep his car at the apt.
complex where she lives. It's taking up a space that belongs,
essentially, to a resident at the apartment complex. Should she have
to
keep doing that for him after he's treated her with little
consideration? So, she had it towed. She won't have to keep looking
at
it and hurting if it's gone. She won't have to worry about him
coming
by for it and possibly running into her.

The other woman contacted her on behalf of the cheating boyfriend.
Evidently the boyfriend was inconvenienced by the car being towed -
inconvenienced enough to whine to his new girlfriend. That the
girlfriend took matters into her own hands and found out what she did
was based on the new girlfriend's initiative.

The guy made his own bed. You can't cheat on a woman and expect her
to
still keep doing things for you once you've been discovered.

'Kate

Thank you. Really, I'm coping with all this by focusing on my anger
because
if I stopped and thought about it for a moment, I'm afraid I'll just
roll
into a ball and gather dust. The only thing I've been doing to him is
telling everyone the truth. I called his work and told him his
grandmother
didn't die last month, and they should ask for some sort of
verification
because he took 2 days off work, and made the whole company feel sorry
for
him. I had his vehicle towed because it was in MY parking space and
I've
given him MONTHS to get it. I alerted the police to the fact that he's
driving an uninsured/unregistered vehicle because I will no longer
cover
for
him. He lied about having insurance and when I found out, I told him
to
get
his **** together then he gave me some bull**** story. Well that
turned
out
to be another lie, so he's busted. The reason I'm doing all this is
because
it makes me feel better, plain and simple. Why should I let him get
away
with it? Why should I make this easy for him? I'm finally making him
accountable for the wrongs he's committed and I couldn't stand by while
he
lied to this other woman too. We know eachother!!! He's been seeing
BOTH
of us at the same time... leading a double life and she had NO idea.
She
came over to see the proof I had, which was an MSN chat log of a
conversation on Oct. 20 and she witnessed a conversation between myself
and
his bestfriend where he verified that Brian was seeing me, so she was
duped,
just like I was. I knew she didn't know about us, she's not that kind
of
person. But Brian blatantly lied to both of us. He made his bed, now
he's
gotta lie in it... alone. You're damn right I feel good about sticking
it
to him, am I being vindictive? Hell yes I am, he involved my children,
my
family, my friends in this whole LIE and I will not let him get away
with
it.

Christine


heh... nevermind.
I wouldn't have gone so far as to call the cops or the job. I would
have had the car towed though.

I don't think he's going to learn any lessons from this. He'll just
blame it all on the crazy ex-girlfriend.

'Kate


Yeah in hindsight I went too far, but hey you don't think rationally when
you're angry and wounded, I went into mother bear mode. I regret twisting
the knife but he stabbed himself and so he still has to live with the
consequences but I get the feeling he doesn't even think he did anything
wrong, he just regrets getting caught.

Christine


I'm sorry, but I do agree with calling the cops part. Did you call to let
them know he's driving an uninsured vehicle? That's what I'm sure I read
somewhere, but can't seem to find it now. Actually, I'm not sorry, but if I
knew of someone driving around in an uninsured vehicle, I would definitely
report them. God forbid someone, anyone, is driving an uninsured vehicle
and hits me or someone I care about and love. What happens then? It's bad
enough as it is with insurance, I can't imagine what it would be like to be
in an accident, or hit a pedestrian or something with an uninsured vehicle.
Maybe I'm sailing off in the wrong direction or totally missing something,
but if I read right and remembered correctly, Christing, in the long run, I
think you did the right thing, even if your reasons were different from what
mine would have been.