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"P. Fritz" wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... "'Kate" wrote in message ... On Fri, 17 Dec 2004 23:20:02 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: Plus one doesn't know they picked the wrong partner until its to late. T Yep... that's true. If we didn't notice the warning signs the first time and it ends badly, then how can we be sure that we didn't miss them the second time. er... don't want to scare anyone... getting married is good... if it's to the righit person. Step families can work very well. They can and often do benefit the children if only by providing another adult to share the work of the household. 'Kate Oh I agree! But I also agree that the step-parent should not try to be the 'parent'. Me and the guy I am seeing already discussed this..... I told him I will not parent his kids nor he mine. Plus I kind of can't say no to the little boy, he is to damn cute. So when is the wedding? ;-p Oh please! I am waiting for you and you know it. T |
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ps. weren't you the one who took a break recently, when this group
failed to live up to your expectations? Nope. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... I have a question. Those of you who are all gunho for the stepparent to have parenting rights and even veto power if they "feel more strongly" or "have more expertise" I assume, then if your ex gets married or moves in with someone, it's just fine and dandy for their honey to have an equal say in parenting decisions as well.... God help the children who could end up with a committee of parents in this scenero.... Another thing for me to be thankful for anyway... Speaking from experience: I am a stepchild. For much of my teen years, I lived with my dad and stepmother. She had full parenting rights, and it would have been bizarre to expect her to be the mother in the home, mother to my 2 younger brothers, and have no parenting rights over me. I have been a stepmother. I pointed out right from the outset - "I'm not your mom. In this house, I am *the* mom". When they got out of line, I parented them. When they needed advice, I parented them. When they lived with me, I parented them. I think it bizarre to have stepchildren living with me, and not have the right to parent them. That's my 2c worth. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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On Sat, 18 Dec 2004 10:23:09 -0600, "Moon Shyne"
wrote: "Joelle" wrote in message ... I have a question. Those of you who are all gunho for the stepparent to have parenting rights and even veto power if they "feel more strongly" or "have more expertise" I assume, then if your ex gets married or moves in with someone, it's just fine and dandy for their honey to have an equal say in parenting decisions as well.... God help the children who could end up with a committee of parents in this scenero.... Another thing for me to be thankful for anyway... Speaking from experience: I am a stepchild. For much of my teen years, I lived with my dad and stepmother. She had full parenting rights, and it would have been bizarre to expect her to be the mother in the home, mother to my 2 younger brothers, and have no parenting rights over me. I have been a stepmother. I pointed out right from the outset - "I'm not your mom. In this house, I am *the* mom". When they got out of line, I parented them. When they needed advice, I parented them. When they lived with me, I parented them. I think it bizarre to have stepchildren living with me, and not have the right to parent them. That's my 2c worth. Well spoken. lm |
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and yet you're just rude
enough that a thoughtful response to your question is not worth my effort. But its worth your effort to be rude yourself, and frankly I thought your earlier response to me was rude so I thought that was the way you prefer to converse. Jest taking your lead... smack SMACK Hey! Hey, why'd you hit me? Cause you hit me first. Did not. Did so. SMACK SMACK SMACK Hey, that hurt. Yeah, but you started it. MOMMY! -Ron |
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"'Kate" wrote in message ... On Sat, 18 Dec 2004 08:51:17 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: Oh I agree! But I also agree that the step-parent should not try to be the 'parent'. Me and the guy I am seeing already discussed this..... I told him I will not parent his kids nor he mine. Plus I kind of can't say no to the little boy, he is to damn cute. T Hey! It sounds like you have a serious relationship going there! I think that the other adult in the household has certain rights... but you're going to be the coordinater of bringing him into the house slowly enough so that your daughter doesn't feel pushed out or smothered. She's had you all to herself for quite awhile. And knowing you, you will keep things from becoming major problems because you are willing to confront issues head on. 'Kate No one is coming into this house to soon, that's for sure! Man I love my space to much! It is going good, I don't like to talk serious **** though....... I am all about, lets hang out for a year or two then talk of commitment. T |
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"'Kate" wrote ... Oh man... I know exactly what that's about. "It's too soon" "let's see how it goes" Six years later.... Thinks wavy lines and music from the Twilight Zone/Thinks She : Awww honey C'mon lets talk about marriage... He : Nah, sweetie,,, we're doing fine as we are.... whats it been now?.... 35 years... no real problems... we seem to be rubbing along jus fine....why tempt fate... wassat??? six years?... SIX years??? are you sure?..... jeeze it sure feels like 35 ye.... HEY cut that out!!! OW!.... |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... I have a question. Those of you who are all gunho for the stepparent to have parenting rights and even veto power if they "feel more strongly" or "have more expertise" I assume, then if your ex gets married or moves in with someone, it's just fine and dandy for their honey to have an equal say in parenting decisions as well.... God help the children who could end up with a committee of parents in this scenero.... Another thing for me to be thankful for anyway... Thid needs to stop Joelle.......I find myself agreeing with you too much these days :-) Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"steveb" wrote in message ... On 18 Dec 2004 14:41:05 GMT, oaway (Joelle) wrote: Oh God. Well considering your expectations for this group, I'm not surprised you have TOTALLY unrealistic expectations for a spouse and relationship. This wasn't a point about *me*, nor about *my expectations* for this group. For the record .... my last relationship lasted 15 years, and was ended by me, to the utter dismay of my wife :: shrug :: My two boys live in a stable and happy home, a product I believe, of consistent caring and realistic expectations. steveb ps. weren't you the one who took a break recently, when this group failed to live up to your expectations? Funny how when it suits you, you can be just as caddy as the rest of us. Pot meet kettle. Christine |
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