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Old September 8th 03, 08:49 PM
Andrea
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Awww.....they're so cute! Makes me want another one even more. Shouldn't that
last caption read "Daddy takes a nap under Reed"?

Thanks for sharing!

Andrea
twin girls-Jordan & Madison
3 yrs. old
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Old September 9th 03, 03:51 AM
GandSBrock
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Very, very cute digital Larry. Too bad they weren't able to salvage any hair
after the separation surgery - but it seems to be healing nicely. ;-)

Reed and Martin are a couple of beautiful boys. :-) Thanks for sharing.

Stephanie
Jake and Ryan 9/3/99
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Old September 9th 03, 03:51 AM
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Very, very cute digital Larry. Too bad they weren't able to salvage any hair
after the separation surgery - but it seems to be healing nicely. ;-)

Reed and Martin are a couple of beautiful boys. :-) Thanks for sharing.

Stephanie
Jake and Ryan 9/3/99
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Old September 9th 03, 03:53 AM
GandSBrock
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Kimberly,

It can't be! They can't be almost 1 already! They are soooo beautiful. Those
blue eyes and dark hair. You are gonna have your work cut out when they hit
dating age!!


Stephanie
Jake and Ryan 9/3/99
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Old September 9th 03, 03:53 AM
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Kimberly,

It can't be! They can't be almost 1 already! They are soooo beautiful. Those
blue eyes and dark hair. You are gonna have your work cut out when they hit
dating age!!


Stephanie
Jake and Ryan 9/3/99
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Old September 10th 03, 07:17 PM
Gary
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"thefackrells" wrote in message news:mw%6b.391359$o%2.175415@sccrnsc02...

Have you crunched the numbers too see if it is "cheaper" just to have DW (or
even you) stay home?? Typically the second income, minus daycare expenses,
is only a few thousands dollars at the end of the year....which doesn't
really make it worth leaving your kids for someone else to raise...


Well let's put it this way... this is my wife's desire to return to
work (at least theoretically - I know another friend who tried that
for about a week and threw in the towel on a successful graphics
career). It is not based solely on financial considerations. Her
rationale is that she was raised by a single working mother, and
though I hope she doesn't plan to become single, she is just getting
started on a public health career that she got a Master's in her
mid-30's in order to pursue. But... y'know... that's just today's
concept.

As far as the ideal child rearing situation goes, certainly it would
be great if neither one of us had to work and could spend all of our
time watching the kids and videotaping their first this and that. I
feel like I'll be missing all of that anyway. I just returned to full
time and it's difficult.

As when we started into this adventure we do not know how we will feel
when we actually try it. The only consolation is that we can always
change our minds if that becomes necessary. Everyone appears to feel
the sting of time passing as they watch their kids grow and become
less cute (LOL).
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Old September 10th 03, 07:17 PM
Gary
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"thefackrells" wrote in message news:mw%6b.391359$o%2.175415@sccrnsc02...

Have you crunched the numbers too see if it is "cheaper" just to have DW (or
even you) stay home?? Typically the second income, minus daycare expenses,
is only a few thousands dollars at the end of the year....which doesn't
really make it worth leaving your kids for someone else to raise...


Well let's put it this way... this is my wife's desire to return to
work (at least theoretically - I know another friend who tried that
for about a week and threw in the towel on a successful graphics
career). It is not based solely on financial considerations. Her
rationale is that she was raised by a single working mother, and
though I hope she doesn't plan to become single, she is just getting
started on a public health career that she got a Master's in her
mid-30's in order to pursue. But... y'know... that's just today's
concept.

As far as the ideal child rearing situation goes, certainly it would
be great if neither one of us had to work and could spend all of our
time watching the kids and videotaping their first this and that. I
feel like I'll be missing all of that anyway. I just returned to full
time and it's difficult.

As when we started into this adventure we do not know how we will feel
when we actually try it. The only consolation is that we can always
change our minds if that becomes necessary. Everyone appears to feel
the sting of time passing as they watch their kids grow and become
less cute (LOL).
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Old September 10th 03, 07:52 PM
David desJardins
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Gwen writes:
Have you crunched the numbers too see if it is "cheaper" just to have
DW (or even you) stay home?? Typically the second income, minus
daycare expenses, is only a few thousands dollars at the end of the
year....which doesn't really make it worth leaving your kids for
someone else to raise...


Maybe you meant this in a more friendly way, but it sounds like an
attack on working parents. I don't agree that people who use childcare
options, of various sorts, are necessarily less engaged in their
children's growth and development. We used to have one poster who
occasionally showed up here to castigate working parents. We haven't
heard from him for a while, and I'm just as glad for that.

David desJardins
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Old September 10th 03, 07:52 PM
David desJardins
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Gwen writes:
Have you crunched the numbers too see if it is "cheaper" just to have
DW (or even you) stay home?? Typically the second income, minus
daycare expenses, is only a few thousands dollars at the end of the
year....which doesn't really make it worth leaving your kids for
someone else to raise...


Maybe you meant this in a more friendly way, but it sounds like an
attack on working parents. I don't agree that people who use childcare
options, of various sorts, are necessarily less engaged in their
children's growth and development. We used to have one poster who
occasionally showed up here to castigate working parents. We haven't
heard from him for a while, and I'm just as glad for that.

David desJardins
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Old September 12th 03, 03:36 PM
thefackrells
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No so much an attack but more of a Plea to reconsider ALL options of a
parent staying home as opposed to both of them working outside the home.....

But yes, I will not hide the fact that I'm a HUGE supporter of a parent
staying home and raising their own kids! This is not to say I don't realize
that some circumstances can't be helped and both parents must work (or say
one parent is no longer around)... I mean, shelter/food/security MUST be met
somehow!!! I'm not about to suggest that a family live in a refrigerator box
on the street just so a mommy or daddy can be home - not at all!! Life
happens, I understand that!
What I don't care for are the materialist and/or selfish *parents* that just
will NOT give up the second income or their careers so that they can
continue living their DINKY lifestyles....when it comes down to it, kids
don't care if they have a 30' boat, flat screen t.v.'s w/maxed out cable or
satellite, 3 *luxury* cars/suvs/trucks in the garage, or a 4000sq' home (etc
etc etc)....they care about being with their mommies and daddies!! If that
means moving to a less expensive neighborhood and/or state, you do it. If it
means selling off expensive *toys*, you do it....if it means eating at home
instead of out (gulp) you do it! If it means cutting back to live within
your means, YOU DO IT!
I know when we were preggers with my first, all of a sudden DH got scared
and started to say I would have to go back to work....I held my ground,
obviously, and at one point he actually said that he just wanted to make
sure that he was still able to have his steak and lobsters....of which I
replied he would be eating hamburger, potatoes and rice if we had too, I was
staying home!!
heck, I know of a family that made less than $30k/yr with 5 kids (yup, a
pair of twins in there too!) in the home and they managed (I don't know
how!) to have the mom stay home...and I know several on the lower income end
that even make their own laundry soap in order to cut corners! It can be
done!
Gwen


 




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