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deadbeat and enabler list (another thread that went off topic)
On Nov 14, 8:19 pm, "Chris" wrote:
-- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child]"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message ... -- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child] "Sarah Gray" wrote in message .. . Chris wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message y.net... Chris wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message .. . Chris wrote: The thing is, it's for *his daughter*, not for me. Uhuh. *I* don't need anyone supporting me, Umm, it's more like greed, not need. It is not greed to insist her father provide for her. Nice twist. It is GREED to insist that he give you FREE MONEY. He has no way of providing for her commensurate to how I do without either sending money, or paying in full for certain expenses on his own. His obligation to you and your daughter is exactly SQUAT! your opinion. How about his obligation to HIS daughter? What part of SQUAT did you not understand; the "SQ" or the "UAT"? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - |
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deadbeat and enabler list (another thread that went off topic)
On Nov 16, 3:28 am, "Chris" wrote:
-- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child]"Sarah Gray" wrote in message . net... Chris wrote: NOW I get it....... duh! HE'S not good enough to care for her, but he's good enough to send you free money. Please forgive me as I am not the brightest bulb in the chandelier. I keep forgetting that we are talking about a man and NOT a woman. I never said he wasn't good enough. He has no transportation or housing of his own, and he claims he cannot afford to cover half of her basic needs. LOVE the contradiction. What contradiction? He is not capable of supporting her on his own. That is not the same as "not good enough" Then if he IS good enough to care for her, let him do so. -- Sarah Gray- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - her letting him and him wanting to, has to be at the same time. |
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deadbeat and enabler list (another thread that went off topic)
-- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child] "Very Determined!" wrote in message ... On Nov 14, 8:19 pm, "Chris" wrote: -- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child]"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message ... -- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child] "Sarah Gray" wrote in message .. . Chris wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message y.net... Chris wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message .. . Chris wrote: The thing is, it's for *his daughter*, not for me. Uhuh. *I* don't need anyone supporting me, Umm, it's more like greed, not need. It is not greed to insist her father provide for her. Nice twist. It is GREED to insist that he give you FREE MONEY. He has no way of providing for her commensurate to how I do without either sending money, or paying in full for certain expenses on his own. His obligation to you and your daughter is exactly SQUAT! your opinion. No. An opinion is a subjective statement. I presented a true/false statement, thus NOT an opinion. How about his obligation to HIS daughter? What part of SQUAT did you not understand; the "SQ" or the "UAT"? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - |
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deadbeat and enabler list (another thread that went off topic)
-- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child] "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Chris" wrote in message news -- [Any man that's good enough to support a child is good enough to have custody of such child] "teachrmama" wrote in message ... "Sarah Gray" wrote in message . net... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message ... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message . net... DB wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in He is angry because I cheated on him, so his mindset is that *everything* I say and do is wrong. Betrayal is a strong motivator for denying you any assistance of any kind in his eyes! He's never going to give you a dime, I would plan on going it alone from here out! The thing is, it's for *his daughter*, not for me. And frankly, I am not willing to fight this in court past the motion I filed to increase support. If he really does quit his job to haul me into court over and over, that's his problem- he'll just be accruing arrearages. Well, it is very sad that you cheated on him. Were you married or just in a relationship? It would be a very hurtful thing to work through. It would be nice if he could look past the hurt and see his daughter. We were married. I'll admit, I was a pretty crummy wife in many respects. That has nothing to do with how well of a job I do raising our daughter. The only reason I *didn't* file for divorce once I realized things were not working out at all, was because of our daughter. Again, it is very hard to look past hurt. Hurt tends to obscure just about everthing else. You say you only need $250 per month to make it financially--the court will probably order much more than that. If you really want to keep things cooperative for your daughter's sake, you could send back the monies over and above the $250 per month. Just because the court orders it doesn't mean you have to keep it. I see your point, but why should I be cooperative when he refuses to agree to the $250 in the first place? I think the money would be better spent in a college savings fund for my daughter, but I'm sure you think that that would be stealing money from him or something. Well, if you tell him that the money is going into a college fund, and you keep him apprised as to how much he is contributing to the fund, he may not be as upset. But let's just hope that he is reasonable, and agrees to the $250. She controls her money, she controls the child, she controls HIS money, and he's supposed to be reasonable by by giving her free cash? With all due respect, what the heck is WRONG with you? Where, pray tell, is she controlling his money? Technical control, right now. But give it time, and it will become literal control; albeit via third party, but nonetheless control. What the heck is wrong with you? Being that I consistently address the facts, I would say not a whole lot. If he is lurking here, he will have begun to understand how unfair courts can be to NCPs. Code for "fathers". Most often, yes. |
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