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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"TeacherMama" wrote in message om... Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" Actually, Mel, I do have a reason for wording it the way I do. I want the child to recognize their unwise choice. If I always tell them what action I want them to change, they are not learning the valuable lesson of stopping and thinking about their actions for themselves. It would be far easier for me to say "Don't do A, do B or C instead." But the whole purpose is to create a pattern where the child stops, thinks, and chooses better--at the moment guided from the outside, but, eventually, guided from the inside. You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! AMEN to that!! They are too quick to medicate these children with stimulants! My son shows a HUGE improvement on his meds and I am standing my ground that he does need meds to succeed in school, BUT I do wish I wouldn't have been so quick to agree to put him on the meds until I had time to do more research myself. My neice is being evaluated in the next few weeks. My experiences with my son and the other children I met at the hospital when my son was in...I don't think she is ADHD...I think she is being a kid and exploring their world (maybe a little louder than everyone else) and she is doing fine in school. A's B's and a C here and there where my son without meds would get D's and F's -- if he even finished the work. She is nothing like any ADHD child I ever met, but I am also not a doctor. But yes, they shouldnt be so quick to medicate these children. I fought myself about medicating my son for months. There is a huge improvement and I am glad we found somehting to help him (especially in school). Ronni |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"TeacherMama" wrote ............................... I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"TeacherMama" wrote ............................... I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Bob Whiteside wrote in message link.net... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Forgive me for piggybacking here..... I have not read this thread totally but I was wondering Bob..... where can one get local statistics to see how the county I deal with rates overall? I am not aware of states tracking local collection statistics. If the other states are anything like my state (Oregon) the CS Accounting Unit is a statewide group that is located in the state capital. The CS modifications that are done locally on non-TANF cases are on a contract basis where the local DA's are technically working under contract for the state Attorney General. The TANF cases are managed by deputy AG's. IOW, modifications are also managed on a statewide basis under the direction of the state Justice Department. I see.... thanks. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Bob Whiteside wrote in message link.net... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Forgive me for piggybacking here..... I have not read this thread totally but I was wondering Bob..... where can one get local statistics to see how the county I deal with rates overall? I am not aware of states tracking local collection statistics. If the other states are anything like my state (Oregon) the CS Accounting Unit is a statewide group that is located in the state capital. The CS modifications that are done locally on non-TANF cases are on a contract basis where the local DA's are technically working under contract for the state Attorney General. The TANF cases are managed by deputy AG's. IOW, modifications are also managed on a statewide basis under the direction of the state Justice Department. I see.... thanks. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. Mel Gamble Wow....I must agree with you Mel. Though there are the situation where the child isn't in a environment advocating such behavior but has ADHD/ADD, in my experience (and I am dealing with parents who talk about their home lives and kids and husbands) it is highly an environmental issue. From things such as diet, the parents relationships, that the parents are highly medicated or have substance abuse issues, ect. Do you think that these people truly don't see what is in front of them or that doctors have so many people so brainwashed? T |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. Mel Gamble Wow....I must agree with you Mel. Though there are the situation where the child isn't in a environment advocating such behavior but has ADHD/ADD, in my experience (and I am dealing with parents who talk about their home lives and kids and husbands) it is highly an environmental issue. From things such as diet, the parents relationships, that the parents are highly medicated or have substance abuse issues, ect. Do you think that these people truly don't see what is in front of them or that doctors have so many people so brainwashed? T |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == I wouldn't doubt it. 2 local schools are threatening to shut down the school in February for 'lack of funds'. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == I wouldn't doubt it. 2 local schools are threatening to shut down the school in February for 'lack of funds'. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Both. In my state the funding formulas allow additional money going to the schools based on extra weighting of children with special needs. Where the "normal" student counts as one, additions are made for special education (1.00), English language learners (.50), pregnant and parenting (1.00), Poverty (.25), and Foster care/neglected and delinquent (.25). So where a "normal" student (1.00) is worth about $5,500 per year in state funds, a children with ADHD (2.00) is worth $11,000. The more children the schools can get diagnosed with ADHD, the more funding they can get from the state/federal funds budget. The other scam is for the schools to "recruit" children with Hispanic surnames for their English as a Second Language Program. Children who speak perfectly good English, but live in homes where Spanish is spoken, are then counted with a 1.50 factor making them worth $8,250 per year. |
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