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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Both. In my state the funding formulas allow additional money going to the schools based on extra weighting of children with special needs. Where the "normal" student counts as one, additions are made for special education (1.00), English language learners (.50), pregnant and parenting (1.00), Poverty (.25), and Foster care/neglected and delinquent (.25). So where a "normal" student (1.00) is worth about $5,500 per year in state funds, a children with ADHD (2.00) is worth $11,000. The more children the schools can get diagnosed with ADHD, the more funding they can get from the state/federal funds budget. The other scam is for the schools to "recruit" children with Hispanic surnames for their English as a Second Language Program. Children who speak perfectly good English, but live in homes where Spanish is spoken, are then counted with a 1.50 factor making them worth $8,250 per year. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message link.net... "Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Both. In my state the funding formulas allow additional money going to the schools based on extra weighting of children with special needs. Where the "normal" student counts as one, additions are made for special education (1.00), English language learners (.50), pregnant and parenting (1.00), Poverty (.25), and Foster care/neglected and delinquent (.25). That is upsetting.... So where a "normal" student (1.00) is worth about $5,500 per year in state funds, a children with ADHD (2.00) is worth $11,000. This is REALLY upsetting to me as my son has ADHD. The town where he started school NEVER told me to have him evaluated. They asked me to do 'extra' work with him at home to help his academics, and I did. When we moved here the school nurse all but told me I had to have him evaluated and praised Ritalin as if it were a miracle in disguise. Now I think I understand better WHY they were on my case so much until I finally did have him evaluated. They convinved me the reasons for staying on my case was for my son, now I think it was for the money. Don't get me wrong I am glad that I did have him evaluated because he feels alot better with medication, he can concentrate better etc. but the underlying truth is disheartening. The more children the schools can get diagnosed with ADHD, the more funding they can get from the state/federal funds budget. The other scam is for the schools to "recruit" children with Hispanic surnames for their English as a Second Language Program. Children who speak perfectly good English, but live in homes where Spanish is spoken, are then counted with a 1.50 factor making them worth $8,250 per year. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message link.net... "Gini" wrote in message ... "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Both. In my state the funding formulas allow additional money going to the schools based on extra weighting of children with special needs. Where the "normal" student counts as one, additions are made for special education (1.00), English language learners (.50), pregnant and parenting (1.00), Poverty (.25), and Foster care/neglected and delinquent (.25). That is upsetting.... So where a "normal" student (1.00) is worth about $5,500 per year in state funds, a children with ADHD (2.00) is worth $11,000. This is REALLY upsetting to me as my son has ADHD. The town where he started school NEVER told me to have him evaluated. They asked me to do 'extra' work with him at home to help his academics, and I did. When we moved here the school nurse all but told me I had to have him evaluated and praised Ritalin as if it were a miracle in disguise. Now I think I understand better WHY they were on my case so much until I finally did have him evaluated. They convinved me the reasons for staying on my case was for my son, now I think it was for the money. Don't get me wrong I am glad that I did have him evaluated because he feels alot better with medication, he can concentrate better etc. but the underlying truth is disheartening. The more children the schools can get diagnosed with ADHD, the more funding they can get from the state/federal funds budget. The other scam is for the schools to "recruit" children with Hispanic surnames for their English as a Second Language Program. Children who speak perfectly good English, but live in homes where Spanish is spoken, are then counted with a 1.50 factor making them worth $8,250 per year. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ...
"TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Here we don't get extra money for children in special programs--we get the same ada for each child. ADHD/ODD children don't qualify for special services just because of their ADHD/ODD in any case. And children who have another language spoken in the home only qualify for English learner services if they do not pass their English proficiency test. Maybe it is different other places. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
"Gini" wrote in message ...
"TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == Here we don't get extra money for children in special programs--we get the same ada for each child. ADHD/ODD children don't qualify for special services just because of their ADHD/ODD in any case. And children who have another language spoken in the home only qualify for English learner services if they do not pass their English proficiency test. Maybe it is different other places. |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
But is that the message they are getting?
TeacherMama wrote: Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" Actually, Mel, I do have a reason for wording it the way I do. I want the child to recognize their unwise choice. If you tell them you are not happy with their choice, that is not the same as telling them it's a wrong choice, unless you have set yourself up in their minds as godly. Correct choices should exist outside of your - or ronnie's - emotional state. Correct choices should (and probably do) exist as seperate and complete ideas within each child's mind, regardless of outside influences such as your emotional state or even whether you are present or not. The child needs to learn NOT to satisfy YOUR emotional needs, but rather to make correct choices for their OWN benefit, regardless of the environment in which the choices are being made. If a correct choice is made because it makes YOU happy, what is the motivation for making that same choice when you are not present? If I always tell them what action I want them to change, they are not learning the valuable lesson of stopping and thinking about their actions for themselves. Likewise, if you are suggesting that they make those choices because YOU are not happy with alternatives, what is their incentive for making correct choices when they are outside you sphere of influence? It would be far easier for me to say "Don't do A, do B or C instead." Granted... But the whole purpose is to create a pattern where the child stops, thinks, and chooses better--at the moment guided from the outside, but, eventually, guided from the inside. But why must the outside guidance be to satisfy another's changing moods, rather than to do what is "right" (presumably, an unchanging standard)? You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! AMEN!!! There is a large percentage of an entire generation of (mostly) boys being raised by medications instead of parents. Short of war, I see it as one of the saddest and most destructive set of circumstances for a child to grow up in. At some point, society is going to reap the result of all these young men being medicated into submission and not learning proper self-discipline. That point is going to come when those kids are no longer minors and there is nobody left to shove pills down their throats. As I've written, I am very familiar with 2 such boys. I really have my concerns as to whether they will even survive their first couple of years on their own. I have much less doubt that at least one of them - and more and more it's looking like both - will spend significant time in jail or prison. I have no doubt at all that both will continue to be a drain on society rather than contributors. And my daughter has to live with them as "examples".... Mel Gamble |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
But is that the message they are getting?
TeacherMama wrote: Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" Actually, Mel, I do have a reason for wording it the way I do. I want the child to recognize their unwise choice. If you tell them you are not happy with their choice, that is not the same as telling them it's a wrong choice, unless you have set yourself up in their minds as godly. Correct choices should exist outside of your - or ronnie's - emotional state. Correct choices should (and probably do) exist as seperate and complete ideas within each child's mind, regardless of outside influences such as your emotional state or even whether you are present or not. The child needs to learn NOT to satisfy YOUR emotional needs, but rather to make correct choices for their OWN benefit, regardless of the environment in which the choices are being made. If a correct choice is made because it makes YOU happy, what is the motivation for making that same choice when you are not present? If I always tell them what action I want them to change, they are not learning the valuable lesson of stopping and thinking about their actions for themselves. Likewise, if you are suggesting that they make those choices because YOU are not happy with alternatives, what is their incentive for making correct choices when they are outside you sphere of influence? It would be far easier for me to say "Don't do A, do B or C instead." Granted... But the whole purpose is to create a pattern where the child stops, thinks, and chooses better--at the moment guided from the outside, but, eventually, guided from the inside. But why must the outside guidance be to satisfy another's changing moods, rather than to do what is "right" (presumably, an unchanging standard)? You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! AMEN!!! There is a large percentage of an entire generation of (mostly) boys being raised by medications instead of parents. Short of war, I see it as one of the saddest and most destructive set of circumstances for a child to grow up in. At some point, society is going to reap the result of all these young men being medicated into submission and not learning proper self-discipline. That point is going to come when those kids are no longer minors and there is nobody left to shove pills down their throats. As I've written, I am very familiar with 2 such boys. I really have my concerns as to whether they will even survive their first couple of years on their own. I have much less doubt that at least one of them - and more and more it's looking like both - will spend significant time in jail or prison. I have no doubt at all that both will continue to be a drain on society rather than contributors. And my daughter has to live with them as "examples".... Mel Gamble |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Unfortunately, schools are in it for the money - at least at the upper
levels... Gini wrote: "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == In oregun, we have a lot of "alien" children whose home language is not English (primarily mexicns). California has proven that the quickest way to get these kids to learn and use English is "deep emersion" (???), where they are quickly taught to understand and work in English. It takes about a year and the kids do very well in English-only classes after that. But in oregun, the state contributes a certain amount per-student from state taxes and the rest comes from local property taxes. The state contribution comes out to about half the total cost on a per-student basis. But for ESL (English as a second language) students, the state contribution DOUBLES, so the school districts have a financial incentive to PREVENT kids from understanding and working in English. Needless to say (unfortunately) oregun schools are dead-set against the "deep emersion" idea - they'd rather keep the kids handicapped by trying to learn and think in two languages than get the kids up-to-speed in English and lose the double-funding from the state. It's a sad commentary on the attitudes of those who control the schools in this state. Mel Gamble |
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Choices, choices, choices -- but only for women
Unfortunately, schools are in it for the money - at least at the upper
levels... Gini wrote: "TeacherMama" wrote .............................. I worked at a school one time where the parents every child who did not fit nicely into the "good student" mode, or displayed "over active tendencies", were requested to take the child for an "evaluation" for ADHD. You should have seen how many of those children were on medication! (This was a very wealthy area, and a private school) I say we should go back to letting kids be kids, give them the opportunity to be active in the exploration of their world, instead of just automatons in desks--and save the meds for those who *really* need it! == My cynicism begs: Do you think schools put kids in special programs just to increase federal funds for their schools or to prevent having federal funds reduced because they used less than awarded? == In oregun, we have a lot of "alien" children whose home language is not English (primarily mexicns). California has proven that the quickest way to get these kids to learn and use English is "deep emersion" (???), where they are quickly taught to understand and work in English. It takes about a year and the kids do very well in English-only classes after that. But in oregun, the state contributes a certain amount per-student from state taxes and the rest comes from local property taxes. The state contribution comes out to about half the total cost on a per-student basis. But for ESL (English as a second language) students, the state contribution DOUBLES, so the school districts have a financial incentive to PREVENT kids from understanding and working in English. Needless to say (unfortunately) oregun schools are dead-set against the "deep emersion" idea - they'd rather keep the kids handicapped by trying to learn and think in two languages than get the kids up-to-speed in English and lose the double-funding from the state. It's a sad commentary on the attitudes of those who control the schools in this state. Mel Gamble |
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You asked my opinion - now you're going to get it : )
First off, I think a lot of these "it's the easy way out" diagnosis' are accepted by parents who are too busy or too lazy to deal with the REAL issues that are contributing to the unacceptable behavior that leads to the diagnosis in the first place. I say "easy way out" because after a child's discipline has been allowed to deteriorate to the point where such a diagnosis CAN be made, "fixing" the problem the correct way is HELL compared to "fixing" it by shoving pills down the kid's throat. "Too busy" applies to parents who are so consumed with earning a lifestyle that they just "don't have time" to deal with respect, discipline, and teaching a child that actions have consequences. It ALSO applies to parents - 2 or 1 - who are so busy with their own personal pursuits that they just don't want to deal with junior's issues. The least that MIGHT be said for these parents is that they are trying to provide "the best" for these same kids and they just "don't realize what they are doing" to those same kids. I don't think some of the regular posters here will appreciate my definition of "too lazy", because it includes a lot of single mothers who are using welfare and other "easy-outs" to make their way in this world. It takes a while to let a kid get to the point where such a diagnosis can be made. It takes a lot of work to get those kids back on-track and I'm sad to say that I believe a lot of those mothers just don't think it's worth the effort. And then there's the financial incentive, which I've mentioned before. Every kid diagnosed as ADHD or whatever, so long as it equates to "emotionally disabled", is worth an added $400/month to the custodial parent of that kid. "Do you think that these people truly don't see what is in front of them..." NO. In most cases, I just don't think they care enough about their kids to question the diagnosis or try to fix the problem in a non-medicated way. Mel Gamble Tiffany wrote: Mel Gamble wrote in message ... Below... TeacherMama wrote: Dealing with an ADHD/ODD child is difficult under the best of circumstances. You are correct in your statement that consistency is of key importance. In my classroom, I make it clear what choices are acceptable, and the consequences of both acceptable and unacceptable choices. If the child chooses outside of the acceptable area, the promised consequences will follow, as the night, the day. The idea is not punishment--it is to establish that choices bring predictable results--and it is to help the ADHD/ODD child begin to learn self discipline. I don't think that Ronni is punishing her son based on her anger. "Now you're making me mad, do you need a time out" seems to be the words she uses consistently to help him reevaluate his choices. But that makes the "acceptableness" of his actions dependent on whether mom is getting mad - makes his choices grey instead of black-and-white. It may not be a totally wrong thing for her to do, but it certainly makes it more difficult for the boy to see the cause-and-effect results of his actions and the consequences if they are "wrong" actions. In my classroom, I always say "I am not happy with your choices." This gives the child a chance to change his choice before the inevitable consequence falls. Why not "(child's name), do you think (whatever action) is a good choice or can you think of a more positive choice?" You mentioned in an earlier posting that environment plays a role in working with ADHD children. Of course it does. Not sure that I made that statement. What I did state was that I think WAY too many kids are displaying inappropriate behavior that is a reaction to environment - kids who would be displaying appropriate behavior if their environment was different - but being diagnosed as having a chemical problem that requires medication. I know this happens for a fact. I've watched a perfectly decent little boy's environment change drastically and within less than a year he was on "meds"...and mom was getting that extra "disability" check every month. And it helps if everyone involved with the child in a supervisory way is on the same page and uses the same consequences. But even the best environment will not "cure" a truly ADHD/ODD child. No argument there, just with the percentage of "diagnosed" ADHD/ODD cases that are a result of environment and the attempt at treating them by changing the kid instead of changing the environment. The child still needs time to internalize the cpoing skills that will help him deal with his difficulties. One of the problems faced by those who are dealing with true ADHD children is the popularity of the term. I have had parents bring their little darling to my classroom, explaining that he is ADHD, but the doctor doesn't want to give him medicine. Then when the child acts up to the point that I bring the parents in, they say "But we *told* you he is ADHD!" As if that gives him leave to do anything he wants without no consequence. That's what I'm trying to say. There are far too many adults ready to holler "ADHD" because it's much simpler to shove a pill down junior's throat twice a day than it is to go through the difficulty of changing his behavior by changing their own. Mel Gamble Wow....I must agree with you Mel. Though there are the situation where the child isn't in a environment advocating such behavior but has ADHD/ADD, in my experience (and I am dealing with parents who talk about their home lives and kids and husbands) it is highly an environmental issue. From things such as diet, the parents relationships, that the parents are highly medicated or have substance abuse issues, ect. Do you think that these people truly don't see what is in front of them or that doctors have so many people so brainwashed? T |
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