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List Hosts' Name on Baby Shower Invitation??
I am expecting my first child and my mother and two sisters are making
a group effort to organize a baby shower for me that will be held at my home. I am sure that my mother-in-law will also want to contribute to the effort of the shower. I am wondering what is the best way to acknowledge (or not) that they are putting the shower on for me. Like I said, it's being held at my house, and I am making and sending out my own invitations and keeping track of who is coming, but they are coordinating all of the refreshments, games, decorations, etc. I was offended recently when I put a lot of effort into a baby shower (supposedly only *helping* my mother-in-law put on the shower when in reality I coordinated almost all of it) and only my mother-in-law's name appeared on the invitation (I was also 5 months pregnant at the time). I would not have thought twice about *no* host being listed on the invitation, but to have only listed the name of one of the two hosts seemed very offensive. Since there may be as many as 5 different women contributing to my shower (and invitations have limited space anyways), would it be acceptable to say "Hosted by family and friends" or "Please join family and friends at a baby shower in honor of..."? I just don't want to make anyone feel that their efforts are not appreciated. Thanks for any advice you all can offer!! |
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List Hosts' Name on Baby Shower Invitation??
"GarciaGM" wrote in message
I am expecting my first child and my mother and two sisters are making a group effort to organize a baby shower for me that will be held at my home. I am sure that my mother-in-law will also want to contribute to the effort of the shower. I am wondering what is the best way to acknowledge (or not) that they are putting the shower on for me. Like I said, it's being held at my house, and I am making and sending out my own invitations and keeping track of who is coming, but they are coordinating all of the refreshments, games, decorations, etc. I was offended recently when I put a lot of effort into a baby shower (supposedly only *helping* my mother-in-law put on the shower when in reality I coordinated almost all of it) and only my mother-in-law's name appeared on the invitation (I was also 5 months pregnant at the time). I would not have thought twice about *no* host being listed on the invitation, but to have only listed the name of one of the two hosts seemed very offensive. Since there may be as many as 5 different women contributing to my shower (and invitations have limited space anyways), would it be acceptable to say "Hosted by family and friends" or "Please join family and friends at a baby shower in honor of..."? I just don't want to make anyone feel that their efforts are not appreciated. Thanks for any advice you all can offer!! Some of my co-worker/friends hosted a baby shower for me last Saturday. Several people were involved in the planning of it and most of the people invited were people I know through my affiliation with the organization. On the invitation in the pre-printed "host" section, the main hostess just wrote "Friends from Organizationname." Then, the RSVP section had her name & the name of the woman at whose house the shower was held. I acknowledged the main three hosts personally after the shower by giving them each a small gift & a letter. I know this isn't what you were asking about & please don't take offense, but as Dagny sort of touched on, you probably want to avoid seeming like you're throwing this shower for yourself. If I were you, I would *definitely* have someone else send the invitations instead of sending them out yourself. Since there are quite a few contributing hosts, why don't you suggest that one of them take on invitation-sending responsibility? You could still make them, but have someone else write them & mail them from their address. This also seems like it may be a particularly good idea because of the shower being held at your house as well. Best wishes! I hope you have a nice time! -- Em edd 9/23/03 |
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List Hosts' Name on Baby Shower Invitation??
I think the family adn friends is a great idea. No one gets left out and it
doesnt take up as much room as 5 names would. |
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List Hosts' Name on Baby Shower Invitation??
GarciaGM wrote:
I am expecting my first child and my mother and two sisters are making a group effort to organize a baby shower for me that will be held at my home. I am sure that my mother-in-law will also want to contribute to the effort of the shower. I am wondering what is the best way to acknowledge (or not) that they are putting the shower on for me. Like I said, it's being held at my house, and I am making and sending out my own invitations and keeping track of who is coming, but they are coordinating all of the refreshments, games, decorations, etc. I was offended recently when I put a lot of effort into a baby shower (supposedly only *helping* my mother-in-law put on the shower when in reality I coordinated almost all of it) and only my mother-in-law's name appeared on the invitation (I was also 5 months pregnant at the time). I would not have thought twice about *no* host being listed on the invitation, but to have only listed the name of one of the two hosts seemed very offensive. Since there may be as many as 5 different women contributing to my shower (and invitations have limited space anyways), would it be acceptable to say "Hosted by family and friends" or "Please join family and friends at a baby shower in honor of..."? I just don't want to make anyone feel that their efforts are not appreciated. Thanks for any advice you all can offer!! You've got an even bigger issue--it is considered *very* inappropriate for you to throw yourself a baby shower (looks like gift grubbing), so it is *essential* that the invitations go out in the hosts' names, not yours. Furthermore, it's only fair for the guests to know who the hosts are so that they know whom to call if they have questions. If you don't lists specific hosts, people don't know anyone to call but you, and they may feel awkward calling you to enquire about gift issues or such. So that leaves you with the issue of which hosts to put on the invitation. Frankly, this is an issue that should be decided among the hosts themselves--it's their job. They might decide that they all should be listed, or they might decide to designate one person as the "official" host who will handle any questions guests might have and then acknowledge the others by thanking them at the shower, or whatever. If you are making your own invitations, there's likely a way to squeeze on all the names that need to be on there. I know it can be a bit awkward, but it's really one of those issues where I think it's important to do the right thing. Ideally, the hosts will also keep in mind that "helping" and "hosting" are not necessarily the same thing. The host plans, coordinates, and manages the party. Helpers assist, but don't have the same level of responsibility for ensuring the successful operation of the party. It may well be that some of your possible hosts are really helpers and see their role as such, in which case they won't be offended at not being listed as hosts. But ultimately, it all depends on their perceptions, so they really have to make the decision. If I were you, I'd punt to the chief host and ask her to talk to the others and sort out which names need to head the invitation. Best wishes, Ericka |
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