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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other
three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
This could be short-lived behavior caused by the change in family
circumstance. But when I learn of a sudden change in the voiding situation -- especially at night, I wonder about a bladder infection. True, bladder infections usually include fever, pain on urination, urgency, frequency. But not always. Jaime wrote: I just had my fourth baby a little more than a month ago. The other three, youngest to oldest are 13 months old, two years old and three years and two months old. The oldest, Sarah, was potty trained about six months ago and had been doing really well until Rachel first came home. With Rachel home, there were three girls in diapers and something must have happened because Sarah started making in her pants. The first couple times it happened, we weren't concerned but after a little while, it started happening quite often, sometimes more than once a day. Just this afternoon, I asked Sarah if she had to go potty and she said no. I didn't want to push her so I just let it be. Not more than 10 minutes later, she was soaked. In the past few days, she has started wetting the bed at night also. We're really thinking about putting her back in diapers because there seems to be no other way. We never used pull-ups with her because they're really expensive and they're just like diapers anyway. I'd greatly appreciate any advice on what to do here!! |
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"Shannon" wrote in message ...
I say no dont, just talk to her lirk a person when she does it and explain over adn over again where she is suppose to go eventually she will get it also give her lots of attention for all the good things she does, after all that is most likely why she is doing it. She wants your attention if she only gets it for bad things or for things like that she wont stop. Im not saying you dont give her attention btu i can see how it must be hard to give them al the attention they need. You may feel you give her lots but maybe she sees it differently. Good Luck!!! Shannon due Sept 12 I agree she just needs some special attention, give her some quality one on one time and maybe she will come around. |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
Jaime wrote:
Thank you all very much for your kind words of advice. After much consideration, we've decided to put Sarah back in diapers for a little while anyway. Friends of ours came up with an interesting suggestion that is food for thought: have her wear nothing over the diaper, so maybe when people see a child her age in diapers, they'll comment and maybe she will decide she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore. Your thoughts? I don't think humiliation teaches anyone any useful lessons. IMO she needs encouragement and praise for NOT wetting or soiling, not shame for regressing. gloria p |
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"Tsu Dho Nimh" wrote in message ... (Jaime) wrote: Thank you all very much for your kind words of advice. After much consideration, we've decided to put Sarah back in diapers for a little while anyway. Friends of ours came up with an interesting suggestion that is food for thought: have her wear nothing over the diaper, so maybe when people see a child her age in diapers, they'll comment and maybe she will decide she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore. No ... humiliation will do NOTHING to help her. It will be bad enough when her favorite things don't fit over the diapers. If I remember correctly, the OP's child is only three. *My* 3 year olds (I have twins) couldn't care less about what other people say. As they came closer to 4, they began to care a bit. But only a bit. My twins will be 4 next Friday, and we're just getting the one potty trained now. She has run around in a diaper only, MANY times, and people have seen her and made no comment. Why would they? Unless the OP was *soliciting* negative comments from people....? Now, in my case, there were complicating factors that held us back from potty training her, namely, my being hospitalized for 2 months (we'd begun potty training her before that, but when I went in the hospital, it was one thing too many for my DH to deal with), and because she has a g-tube we hadn't quite figured how to work around. Surely, our daughter could have trained younger. But she didn't, and it doesn't make any difference - in the 2 weeks since we started, she's had all of 3 accidents, and *this* is *very* good for her self-esteem, as we praise her highly for the behavior we want to encourage (and since she's been almost completely successful, she gets a lot of praise), and tell her she'll do better next time when she has an accident. That's all. If the OP's child is regressing due to the presence of a newborn, why humiliate her for it? It's very common, normal behavior. It won't last. --angela |
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"Nan" wrote in message
... I would have a problem with anyone saying anything negative to my child about *anything*. Nan That's a whole other issue. Better get used to that one. Life ain't all wine and roses. AJPDLA |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... On Sun, 20 Jul 2003 10:24:27 -0700, "ajpdla" wrote: "Nan" wrote in message .. . I would have a problem with anyone saying anything negative to my child about *anything*. Nan That's a whole other issue. Better get used to that one. Life ain't all wine and roses. AJPDLA Gee, you'd think I'd know that since I've already raised one to 19 years. I was speaking of a 3 year old being shamed by strangers. Nan Hey. Don't climb all over me. I wasn't the one who spoke in absolutes. And I wasn't the only one who caught you doing it either. AJPDLA |
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Should I put my 3 year old back in diapers?
For advice from parents on how to potty train your child, you can visit
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-Health_...potty_training. -- For family-safe freebies, visit www.Freebies.xrs.net. Updated Daily! "Jaime" wrote in message om... Thank you all very much for your kind words of advice. After much consideration, we've decided to put Sarah back in diapers for a little while anyway. Friends of ours came up with an interesting suggestion that is food for thought: have her wear nothing over the diaper, so maybe when people see a child her age in diapers, they'll comment and maybe she will decide she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore. Your thoughts? |
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