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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
DEADBEAT FATHERS ARE A GROWING PROBLEM THROUGHOUT REGION
BY CALEB HALE THE SOUTHERN [Sat Jun 14 2003] SOUTHERN ILLINOIS -- Not every dad is a "super-dad." Some aren't even attentive dads. Some are just plain deadbeats. It is a sad story in modern American family lifestyles and one that is repeated far too often in Illinois. According to figures from the Illinois Department of Public Aid, the state collected $300 million in child support payments during the 2002 fiscal year. However, $467 million went unpaid. The Southern Illinois region shares a portion of the problem as well. John Bigler, Union County state's attorney, said neither his office nor any other local state's attorney's office pursues child support cases. But it is not uncommon for him to receive a couple calls per week from mothers wanting help, he said. Bigler said he usually hears of fathers who are months behind on payments and owe thousands of dollars. "It is a very serious problem in this area," said Camille Dorris, director of the Women's Center in Carbondale. Dorris said many of her clients are single mothers, suffering financially because of fathers not paying their share of child support. She said it is difficult for many mothers to pay for simple bills and rent. Child support can help, but Dorris said some women don't bother to collect. "When the mother is pursuing child support, that process can be cumbersome itself," she said. Dorris said mothers come into the center burdened with the struggle of being a single parent, and lengthy court proceedings are something they would rather avoid. Vicki Duncan, director of the Union County Child Advocacy Center in Anna, said the effects of a deadbeat father can easily transfer to a child. She said she sees many children without natural fathers in the home. Duncan said the impact on a child is obvious, as the lack of stability in the family leads them into greater risk for negative behavior. The stress a deadbeat dad puts on the mother sometimes leads the women to speak negatively about the father. Duncan said those words create a lasting impression on kids as they grow into young adults. "They feel that there is someone out there who should be caring for them," she said. "They continue to look for the reason why." In some cases children begin taking out aggression about neglectful fathers on the mother, Duncan said. She said disobedience often results from anger over a family situation, especially when there is any strife between the mother and father. Duncan said, however, things have changed over the past five years and the state is getting involved to crack down on fathers who owe large payments of child support. "More of those fathers are being identified and being held to their payments," she said. Mike Claffey, a spokesperson for the Illinois Department of Public Aid, which refers child support cases to the attorney general's office, said it's not so easy for deadbeat dads to shirk their financial responsibilities anymore. Patrice Ball-Reed, Illinois deputy attorney general for child support enforcement, said her department can make life difficult for men not paying up. If the child support payments become too high, he said the department can intercept payments from returns or lottery winnings -- even garnish wages from the paycheck. Restrictions to passports and negative credit reports can also rear up, she added. "In extreme cases we can press federal and state charges to prosecution," Claffey said. He said in August, the department will be setting up a Web site listing "the worst offenders" in the area of child support. This rogue list will include pictures and the amounts the men owe in back pay to their families. Claffey said offenders who are posted on the site must owe more than $5,000 in unpaid child support, and the case must be non-violent in nature. The purpose for running such a public chastising is twofold, Claffey said. One is to help locate the offenders, and the other follows a more basic premise: "We want to shame them into paying up," he said. |
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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
"We want to shame them into paying up," he said.
The shame should be on the state and on the sluts who take the money. End of story. |
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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
Oh so they are sluts what does that make the men who sleep them? Man
Whores?? "Lecher9000" wrote in message ... "We want to shame them into paying up," he said. The shame should be on the state and on the sluts who take the money. End of story. |
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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
"Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... Oh so they are sluts what does that make the men who sleep them? Man Whores?? Maybe. FFK... There are two people in these situations they should both be paying. The perception for many NCPs is that the woman has a free-ride. The challenge is changing this perception. Give the evidence that changes the perception and you may have a chance at changing the system. "Lecher9000" wrote in message ... "We want to shame them into paying up," he said. The shame should be on the state and on the sluts who take the money. End of story. |
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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
Perception being the best word here beacuse the NCP has NO clue what
its like being the CP, and vice versa. On Sun, 9 Nov 2003 18:55:22 -0500, "Cameron Stevens" wrote: "Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... Oh so they are sluts what does that make the men who sleep them? Man Whores?? Maybe. FFK... There are two people in these situations they should both be paying. The perception for many NCPs is that the woman has a free-ride. The challenge is changing this perception. Give the evidence that changes the perception and you may have a chance at changing the system. "Lecher9000" wrote in message ... "We want to shame them into paying up," he said. The shame should be on the state and on the sluts who take the money. End of story. |
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Deadbeat Fathers are a growing problem throughout the region
NCP's many times share custody or nearly share custody. Don't say it is
some exclusive "parental role" all CP's have. In near shared 42% +, there is really no difference. wrote in message ... Perception being the best word here beacuse the NCP has NO clue what its like being the CP, and vice versa. On Sun, 9 Nov 2003 18:55:22 -0500, "Cameron Stevens" wrote: "Fighting for kids" adf wrote in message ... Oh so they are sluts what does that make the men who sleep them? Man Whores?? Maybe. FFK... There are two people in these situations they should both be paying. The perception for many NCPs is that the woman has a free-ride. The challenge is changing this perception. Give the evidence that changes the perception and you may have a chance at changing the system. "Lecher9000" wrote in message ... "We want to shame them into paying up," he said. The shame should be on the state and on the sluts who take the money. End of story. |
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