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Dad's Visitation Responsibility
On Oct 9, 10:48 pm, "DB" wrote:
"Chris" wrote in jackets, and coats are too small. I spent close to $1,100.00 last winter, and close to $500.00 this summer. The above fiscal recklessness is typical of people that think they are somehow owed "child support". Is it any wonder they can make ends meet with the thousands of tax free money they get? Crybaby! You're just mad because the majority doesn't share your opinion about child support. If they did, the institution of child support would never have been introduced to the masses. You have like 40 people (maybe) in your little group, and yet there are millions of child support cases. You are a big fish in a little pond on the internet, but in reality, you're swimmikng in a fish bowl. The real world acknowledges a fathers responsibility, and nothing you post is going to change that! |
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"child support owed by deadbeats" wrote in message ups.com... On Oct 8, 7:00 pm, "Gini" wrote: "Lvnsurpriseaz via FamilyKB.com" wrote What are you thinking Child support is for? It isn't just for shoes, clothes and food. It for a portion of everything I need to keep a home running and a car running for the childs benefit as well. CS is for all household expenses, vehicle expenses, ontop of clothes, shoes, haircuts, food, entertainment, etc. ==== No, it's NOT "for a portion of everything [you] need to keep a home running and a car running." It is NOT "for all household expenses, vehicle expenses..." The amount of child support applicable for household expenses is negligible. For instance, the amount of utilities to which child support can be applied is one half (or the NCP's percent share) of the difference *between the amount needed for the parent and other family members* and the amount directly attributible to the child(ren) of the order. ie--Only the amount of electricity directly used by the child of the order. It is not an even split between all household members. The NCP is NOT responsible for one dime of the CPs and other family members' household needs. Rent is somewhat easier to define-- If a one bedroom apartment rents for 400. per month and a two bedroom rents for 465. per month, the child support share of rent would be one half (or the NCPs percent share) of the difference. In this case, CS for rent would be one half of $65.00., or 32.50 per month--assuming no other children in the household. If there is even one other child, the CS contribution for rent would be even less or none at all especially if the child shares a room with a child not of the order. Auto expenses--The NCP is not responsible for half the cost of keeping your car on the road. You are required to insure your car no matter how many kids you have. Your car is required to have tires and other maintenance, regardless how many kids are riding in it. Unless the child is a driver, no CS is to be allocated for car insurance and very little for auto maintenance. These numbers are even less when there are more family members not of the order. It appears, from what you've written here, that you are grossly mismanaging your child's support money by diverting it to the household pool which is not permitted. If only Gini had put this much passion forth toward her OWN children.... You really need to get to know a person's story before you make such comments. She and her ex never went through the courts for CS. They worked together as loving, caring parents to rear their children, even after they split up. Too bad all parents coul not handle their child support issues in such a mature, loving way, instead of indulging themselves in the acrimonious, adversarial family court system. |
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"child support owed by deadbeats" wrote in message ps.com... On Oct 9, 10:48 pm, "DB" wrote: "Chris" wrote in jackets, and coats are too small. I spent close to $1,100.00 last winter, and close to $500.00 this summer. The above fiscal recklessness is typical of people that think they are somehow owed "child support". Is it any wonder they can make ends meet with the thousands of tax free money they get? Crybaby! You're just mad because the majority doesn't share your opinion about child support. If they did, the institution of child support would never have been introduced to the masses. You have like 40 people (maybe) in your little group, and yet there are millions of child support cases. You are a big fish in a little pond on the internet, but in reality, you're swimmikng in a fish bowl. The real world acknowledges a fathers responsibility, and nothing you post is going to change that! The "real world," as you call it, has no idea what the CS system has done to far too many people. Because the majority of people have not been touched by the system personally. Look at your own responses. You are so sure that your idealistic solutions will fix everything. It doesn't even occur to you that these solutions have and many, many more that you have not even thought of, have been tried and have failed because of the wide latitude of discretion given to the family court system. And the fact that federal moneys are tied to collections rates. Now, who do you think the system is going to spend their money going after? Those that would pay anyway, even without a court order? Or those that are never going to pay, no matter the efforts spent to collect from them? And the federal money pours in. You need to spend some time getting to know what the system is really like--instead of criticizing people you assume just don't want to pay. True, there are those out there that just do not want to pay. But the majority on this group have never failed in their child support payments, even when they were overwhelming and unfair. |
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On Oct 10, 6:24 am, "teachrmama" wrote:
Too bad all parents coul not handle their child support issues in such a mature, loving way, instead of indulging themselves in the acrimonious, adversarial family court system. But you do acknowledge that the way in which Gini and her ex were able to handle the rearing of their children was possible only because they BOTH made the choices necessary to make it work. If only one of the parents refuses to make choices based on what's best for the children, what options are left? For clarity I want to note that either a CP or a NCP can be the parent choosing to place their own desires above the needs of the child. The sword cuts both ways ... something which is often lost in the demonization of CPs that happens within this group. Paula |
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Exactly, they are NOT a necessity, that is why I pay a portion that I feel is
a fair portion and he has to pay the rest. That is the only fair thing to do here. A high school boy WILL NOT wear payless shoes, nor would I want to have an argument over trying to"make" him wear them. So the best solution is to pay a reasonable amount (out of his child support) towards clothes, shoes, etc... that HE NEEDS, and if he wants to blow his money on expensive stuff he has to pay the rest. Nothing wrong with that!!!!!!!!!! DB wrote: "Lvnsurpriseaz via FamilyKB.com" u37991@uwe wrote in If he wants $80 pair of shoes, I pay half, yea, my father would have laughed and given me directions to Payless shoes! $80 shoes are not a necessity!!!! -- Message posted via http://www.familykb.com |
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"child support owed by deadbeats" wrote in Crybaby! You're just mad because the majority doesn't share your opinion about child support. Yes and you squealed loud and high when gas prices reached $3.00 per gallon! Lets see you be the first to write out a check when the war tax is introduced! I'm sure they'll set up a payment program for you too! LOLOLOLOL |
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"child support owed by deadbeats" wrote in message ups.com... On Oct 8, 2:41 pm, "DB" wrote: "child support owed by deadbeats" wrote in Think I spent a total of $200 last year on new clothes. That was new clothes for myself! I still have T-shirts that are over 6 years in use! jackets, and coats are too small. I spent close to $1,100.00 last winter, and close to $500.00 this summer. Ever hear of Wal-Mart? Ever hear of quality? I'm not cheap, I'm poor and know how to live with in my means! |
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"Paula" wrote wrote: Too bad all parents coul not handle their child support issues in such a mature, loving way, instead of indulging themselves in the acrimonious, adversarial family court system. But you do acknowledge that the way in which Gini and her ex were able to handle the rearing of their children was possible only because they BOTH made the choices necessary to make it work. == True, to some degree. But, it also takes a lot of compromise, which is the main thing lacking in many of the CPs who appear here. They are obsessed with "getting what's due," having bought into the attitude that mothers are inherently better qualified and outrank fathers on the parenting scale. There were many things I could have argued with and dragged my ex into court for but that mindset was not a part of my/our parenting psyche. *Our kids were not property to be bickered over. Period.* My ex was/is a great dad and I would never get into court disputes with my boys' father for any reason unless he were somehow a danger to them. I could have dragged him into court when he went to Ecuador for months and to Russia for months whining that our boys were "due" the money those trips cost but I would not have made that an issue, as many CPs would. He sent the boys letters, gifts and emails from all over the world that they still have today. That was of far greater value to the kids than him handing me fists of money to put out for consumables that would never be remembered by the boys into their adulthood. Money should never, ever, ever be the apex of a parent's relationship with their children's father (or mother). It is really that simple. Fathers have just as much parenting rights as mothers, and their parenting style (if the father was chosen carefully by the mother, which he absolutely should have been) is crucial to a healthy relationship within the family dynamic--and therefore, a somewhat less traumatic childhood for the children of divided families. The other thing I had (have) was a very understanding second husband who never ever interjected himself into my sons' relationship with their dad (or their relationship with me, for that matter). My husband always welcomed my ex into our home and my ex always treated my later-born children as part of his sons' family as well, always welcoming them into his home. Would it have been this way if I believed money was more important than these relationships? I think not...and that is why I've been speaking out for fathers for more than two decades and why I am and have been a part of this group (despite some poster's assertions that I am an unfit parent from Florida :-) |
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You call me stupid? You obviously don't know the system. A CP doesn't have
a specified amount of child support to pay because the child lives with them 100% of the time so therefore they pay for things that the NCP child support does not cover! Plus, I was assessed with an income greater than my income at that time to establish the fathers child support and that did not bother me at all!!!! If I was such a money driven B---- that would have bothered me because I could have gotten more CS if the judge would not have assessed me with a higher income then what I was making! Get your head out of your ASS, you must be one of those fathers that owe thousands of dollars in back child support just because you want to be stubborn and refuse to pay because you have so much hatred towards the childs mother. What a shame,,,,,,,,,,,,,, that does a child no good!!! wrote: On Oct 8, 5:17 pm, "Lvnsurpriseaz via FamilyKB.com" u37991@uwe wrote: Court orders don't specify an amount that the CP provides? If the father had more visitation his CS would go down because he would have to provide for his son when he has visitation. How much does the Court ORDER you to pay for your child? Why not post a copy of the last court order of support entered and let us all see how much some fat, lazy ass judge ORDERED you to pay for your kid? ___ NONE ___ that's how much the court ordered you to pay. Stupid bitch. -- Message posted via http://www.familykb.com |
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On Oct 10, 11:30 am, "DB" wrote:
"childsupportowed by deadbeats" wrote in Crybaby! You're just mad because the majority doesn't share your opinion aboutchildsupport. Yes and you squealed loud and high when gas prices reached $3.00 per gallon! Lets see you be the first to write out a check when the war tax is introduced! I'm sure they'll set up a payment program for you too! LOLOLOLOL Laugh if you want to-we are not talking about the war hippie, we are talking about child support. I didn't say anything when the gas price went up, I don't pay for gas, my boss does. Who's laughing now bitch? As for the war, since you want to keep bringing it up, I got some questions for that ass: What did you expect was going to happen when they blew up the T.T's? Why would you allow your country stad by, do nothing, and become a target for other fanatical, extream groups? Do you think freedom comes without a price? All the **** you have posted about the government, do you think you would have this right to do this if men and women didn't fight for it? Why do you keep bringing up the war in a discussion about deadbeat's and child support? What IS the problem with paying child support? Are you just plain stupid, or did you have to work at it? |
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