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Old October 23rd 03, 10:17 PM
KimandJuan
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ROTFL!!!!!!!!!! OMG I really needed a good laugh. Thanks Helen. I thought I
had heard them all.


~Kimberly
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Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02
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Old October 23rd 03, 11:01 PM
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At first, I obliged the strangers, but it soon became ridiculous. Now,
I just don't look at anyone. It works. If they can't catch your
attention, they won't stop you.

If you are stopped and they come up to you, just say, "Sorry I can't
answer your questions, I'm pressed for time." Or something to that
effect. My dh gives an extremely short answer and moves away, even if
he has to come back.

As to the personal questions, just answer with a question, "MY! That's
extremely personal! Why would you ask a complete stranger such a
thing?" and move on.

You are under NO obligation to answer all or any of their questions.
You're under no obligation to say anything. You might come off as rude,
but frankly, you just won't have the time to be super polite.

Another thing to be wary of is that strangers will want to touch them.
I'm just warning you on this one.

I found the easiest solution was either I went out alone or my dh did.

Sadly, you will garner even more attention that us parents of twins, and
we get a lot. LOL! I hope you develop your thick skin quickly. ;-)

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Old October 23rd 03, 11:01 PM
DeliciousTruffles
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At first, I obliged the strangers, but it soon became ridiculous. Now,
I just don't look at anyone. It works. If they can't catch your
attention, they won't stop you.

If you are stopped and they come up to you, just say, "Sorry I can't
answer your questions, I'm pressed for time." Or something to that
effect. My dh gives an extremely short answer and moves away, even if
he has to come back.

As to the personal questions, just answer with a question, "MY! That's
extremely personal! Why would you ask a complete stranger such a
thing?" and move on.

You are under NO obligation to answer all or any of their questions.
You're under no obligation to say anything. You might come off as rude,
but frankly, you just won't have the time to be super polite.

Another thing to be wary of is that strangers will want to touch them.
I'm just warning you on this one.

I found the easiest solution was either I went out alone or my dh did.

Sadly, you will garner even more attention that us parents of twins, and
we get a lot. LOL! I hope you develop your thick skin quickly. ;-)

--
Brigitte aa #2145
edd #3 February 15, 2004
http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/joshuaandkaterina/

"Readers are plentiful; thinkers are rare."
~ Harriet Martineau


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Old October 23rd 03, 11:57 PM
Andrea
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Oh yes, I remember those days. Although I'm sure it's about 300 times worse
for you with triplets. It took forever for us to go anywhere because of all
the spectators. Try not to make eye contact. That may help a little, but then
there are always the people who are going to come up to you no matter what. It
will probably get better when they are past the infant stage, at least it did
for us.

Andrea
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3 yrs. old
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Old October 23rd 03, 11:57 PM
Andrea
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Oh yes, I remember those days. Although I'm sure it's about 300 times worse
for you with triplets. It took forever for us to go anywhere because of all
the spectators. Try not to make eye contact. That may help a little, but then
there are always the people who are going to come up to you no matter what. It
will probably get better when they are past the infant stage, at least it did
for us.

Andrea
twin girls-Madison & Jordan
3 yrs. old
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Old October 24th 03, 12:05 AM
David desJardins
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I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.

I'm not surprised that triplets get a lot of attention, though.

David desJardins
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Old October 24th 03, 12:05 AM
David desJardins
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I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the
people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had
a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a
combination of all three.

I'm not surprised that triplets get a lot of attention, though.

David desJardins
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Old October 24th 03, 01:23 AM
David desJardins
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Lori writes:
When I lived in Sunnyvale, I worked in Palo Alto as a nanny for two
families. They each had one child that were 6 months apart in age. I
took them out almost daily for a walk and I got comments all the time
asking if they were twins and saying 'double trouble' and all that.
These people didn't block our path and drill me with questions for 5
minutes. But I did get quite a lot of comments.

Are you saying people completely ignored you? Or you just didn't get
asked several intrusive questions?


Sure, some people notice us. People ask, "Are they twins?" and they
say, "You must have your hands full," stuff like that. So far, it's
always struck me as "friendly conversation" rather than "intrusive
questions." I don't ever remember being slowed down, or inconvenienced,
by strangers, as some people complain happens a lot to them. Don't
recall any rude questions either, although there might have been a
couple that I just shrugged off. I recall more disapproving looks from
people who don't like one aspect or another of how I handle the kids
(usually giving them too much rope in a store, something like that)---
but those people don't tend to go as far as to actually say anything,
and anyway, I'd probably get just as much of that with non-twins.

David desJardins
 




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