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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
"Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... Please do show me where in any post I have ever put down custodial parents in general. Because I haven't. We are discussing a system where mediation might be an answer. It is NOT the system in place today--because there is no need to negotiate when you already know you are going to win. That does NOT mean that the kind, caring people would behave that way. But they are not teh problem, are they? And long as mandatory mediation is done in the courthouse by court employees there is no hope for mediation to be unbiased and without being "in the shadow of the law." And as long as judges treat mediation agreements reached prior to hearings as being non-legally binding and not admissible in court, mediation is a joke. Precisely. The system in place today does not have a level playing field. Nor does it allow adults to be adults. An outside person (the judge) has the final say, no matter what agreement the adults might reach together. |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
teachrmama wrote:
"Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. Yeah, I could never talk to my mom about anything important. I hope my daughter can at least feel comfortable talking to me. -- Sarah Gray |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"DB" wrote in message et... Not sure what relevance this might be for some, but it talks about retirement plans vs college funding plans http://money.cnn.com/galleries/2007/...neymag/11.html on top of all the other expenses NCP's are required to provide, is there any money left over for a retirement fund or does the government just assume that NCP's are not worth concerning themselves with those second class citizens? We sure don't have enough to be able to retire at the normal time. I figure my husband and I will have to work an extra decade to make up for what CS has done to us. And the child's mother will still never have to work a day in her life. |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
"Sarah Gray" wrote in message t... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. Yeah, I could never talk to my mom about anything important. I hope my daughter can at least feel comfortable talking to me. I have to admit I resent this secret society attitude between mothers and daughters on maturity issues. Fathers have just as much credibility in discussing sexuality with daughters as mothers. And the stereotype fathers can't have open communication with their daughters is just bogus! |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
Bob Whiteside wrote:
"Sarah Gray" wrote in message t... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. Yeah, I could never talk to my mom about anything important. I hope my daughter can at least feel comfortable talking to me. I have to admit I resent this secret society attitude between mothers and daughters on maturity issues. Fathers have just as much credibility in discussing sexuality with daughters as mothers. And the stereotype fathers can't have open communication with their daughters is just bogus! Ok, well, I couldn't talk to my father about anything, either. If her dad was likely to be around as an active parent, I would hope that he would be the kind of dad she could talk to about personal things if she needed to. I think that's highly unlikely, though, if he continues to choose to live so far away. -- Sarah Gray |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "Sarah Gray" wrote in message t... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. Yeah, I could never talk to my mom about anything important. I hope my daughter can at least feel comfortable talking to me. I have to admit I resent this secret society attitude between mothers and daughters on maturity issues. Fathers have just as much credibility in discussing sexuality with daughters as mothers. And the stereotype fathers can't have open communication with their daughters is just bogus! My daughters talk to their father just as much as they do to me--except about such things as menstrual cycles. chuckle I certainly never meant to give the indication that dads and daughters don't talk--any more than I believe that mothers and sons don't talk. smile |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"teachrmama" wrote in message ... "DB" wrote in message et... Not sure what relevance this might be for some, but it talks about retirement plans vs college funding plans http://money.cnn.com/galleries/2007/...neymag/11.html on top of all the other expenses NCP's are required to provide, is there any money left over for a retirement fund or does the government just assume that NCP's are not worth concerning themselves with those second class citizens? We sure don't have enough to be able to retire at the normal time. I figure my husband and I will have to work an extra decade to make up for what CS has done to us. And the child's mother will still never have to work a day in her life. Not to worry, her health plan will force an early retirement, permanently! :-) |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
In article , teachrmama says...
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message ... "teachrmama" wrote in message ... Please do show me where in any post I have ever put down custodial parents in general. Because I haven't. We are discussing a system where mediation might be an answer. It is NOT the system in place today--because there is no need to negotiate when you already know you are going to win. That does NOT mean that the kind, caring people would behave that way. But they are not teh problem, are they? And long as mandatory mediation is done in the courthouse by court employees there is no hope for mediation to be unbiased and without being "in the shadow of the law." And as long as judges treat mediation agreements reached prior to hearings as being non-legally binding and not admissible in court, mediation is a joke. Precisely. The system in place today does not have a level playing field. Nor does it allow adults to be adults. An outside person (the judge) has the final say, no matter what agreement the adults might reach together. There's somebody (or some persons) missing - here. Banty |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child
In article , Bob Whiteside
says... "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: "Sarah Gray" wrote in message et... teachrmama wrote: snip for length I got joint custody. Parenting time was 50/50. Ex then left the state and now he balks at paying a minimal amount of child support. Go figure. -- Sarah Gray (benefit of being a CP #1: child playing "bongo head" on you while you type while she sings :"you're my favorite mama in the whole wide world") One of those wonderful perks of paernthood that I wouldn't want to give up for all the money in the world!! =c) My point exactly. Parenting is it's own reward. Well, and punishment, at times, but I guess I'll see more of that when she's a teenager I've got two of them--it's kind of like the Agony and the Ecstasy. chuckle Today she asked me if I would be there when she had a baby. I told her of course, but that she wasn't allowed to have any children until she finished college, had a job and a husband. I think she could see how much that question scared me, ha. It's good to remind them of the proper order of things. Even though they are teenagers now, my daughters and I have open communication about everything. It is scarey, some of te things they talk about--but it would be even scarier if they didn't talk to you about them. Yeah, I could never talk to my mom about anything important. I hope my daughter can at least feel comfortable talking to me. I have to admit I resent this secret society attitude between mothers and daughters on maturity issues. Fathers have just as much credibility in discussing sexuality with daughters as mothers. Heh - *more* in some ways. And the stereotype fathers can't have open communication with their daughters is just bogus! I was close with my Dad and I am also fairly open about such matters by nature (I'm the one that hears "TMI!" sometimes ;-) But *he* shied away from any of that kind of subject. Probably a generational thing, but still. Has this been used as an excuse not to give men custody of their daughters?? Banty |
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