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No fluid/20 week induction update
Hi,
We saw the perinatologist this morning. She was very kind, and took lots of time with us and answered all of our questions. We took another look at the baby on the u/s and saw absolutely no fluid this time. It seems that (on top of everything else, and probably not unrelatedly) I'm leaking fluid as well. We confirmed that the chances of carrying this baby to term and having it be viable and healthy are very, very slim. We are also optimistic that the cause of the problem is unlikely to be a recurring one, so that we can hope for an unproblematic pregnancy in the future. Going through all of the options, it seems that the course with the least risk to my health and future fertility is an induction. On Monday and Tuesday I have appointments for something to soften my cervix (don't know exactly what yet), and then the induction will be on Wednesday. The baby is still wiggling and squirming, even though there's no room without any fluid. It's pushing on the uterine wall (which is actually kinda painful). The perinatologist says that it must be a strong baby to do that -- I guess good muscle tone tends to run in our family. DS has always been very strong, practically could handle his own head (strong neck) from birth, walked at 9.5 months, etc. I asked about donating milk, and the perinatologist said she would look into it for me. There's a chance that it could actually be used in the NICU at the hospital where I will deliver. Otherwise, there aren't any milk banks in my city, but I will look into sending it to one. So, I wish this could be over sooner, so I could get on with things more quickly. It's very strange to be grieving already for someone who is still alive. My department has been very supportive and accommodating, and my class is taken care of for the rest of the quarter. I should be able to teach next quarter (starting 3/29) and think that I'll enjoy being able to throw myself into my work. DS is, of course, a huge comfort. I can imagine that this would be 100x harder if it were my first pregnancy, and only harder still after previous pregnancy loss. I am very much looking forward to trying again (once my body has had a chance to recover so that I start off on the best possible footing), and to seeing lots of fluid on a ultrasound some day soon, and even more so to cuddling a newborn! Thanks again to everyone here for being so supportive. I expect I'll keep posting as I go through this experience and then fade away again until I'm pg again. -- Emily mom to Toby 5/1/02 #2 EDD 7/19/04/induction scheduled for 3/2/04 |
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Emily wrote: I asked about donating milk, and the perinatologist said she would look into it for me. There's a chance that it could actually be used in the NICU at the hospital where I will deliver. Otherwise, there aren't any milk banks in my city, but I will look into sending it to one. Emily, I'm really sorry about your baby. As for milk donation- I donated milk here (extra from pumping for DD while I worked): http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/5816/tmmb.html You do need blood drawn and sent to them (they test it). They sent me a fedex cooler, and I packed my milk and fedex picked it up. It was very easy. Take care of yourself, Mary |
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((hugs))
I didn't post in the other thread because I didn't know what to say, I still don't know what to say, but I just wanted to say I am thinking about you. A big thumbs up to you for donating your milk, it would be fab if it could get used in the same hospital. Good Luck with the induction, Anne |
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"Emily" wrote in message news:m1t%b.402942$I06.4380323@attbi_s01... Hi, We saw the perinatologist this morning. She was very kind, and took lots of time with us and answered all of our questions. We took another look at the baby on the u/s and saw absolutely no fluid this time. It seems that (on top of everything else, and probably not unrelatedly) I'm leaking fluid as well. We confirmed that the chances of carrying this baby to term and having it be viable and healthy are very, very slim. We are also optimistic that the cause of the problem is unlikely to be a recurring one, so that we can hope for an unproblematic pregnancy in the future. Going through all of the options, it seems that the course with the least risk to my health and future fertility is an induction. On Monday and Tuesday I have appointments for something to soften my cervix (don't know exactly what yet), and then the induction will be on Wednesday. The baby is still wiggling and squirming, even though there's no room without any fluid. It's pushing on the uterine wall (which is actually kinda painful). The perinatologist says that it must be a strong baby to do that -- I guess good muscle tone tends to run in our family. DS has always been very strong, practically could handle his own head (strong neck) from birth, walked at 9.5 months, etc. I asked about donating milk, and the perinatologist said she would look into it for me. There's a chance that it could actually be used in the NICU at the hospital where I will deliver. Otherwise, there aren't any milk banks in my city, but I will look into sending it to one. So, I wish this could be over sooner, so I could get on with things more quickly. It's very strange to be grieving already for someone who is still alive. My department has been very supportive and accommodating, and my class is taken care of for the rest of the quarter. I should be able to teach next quarter (starting 3/29) and think that I'll enjoy being able to throw myself into my work. DS is, of course, a huge comfort. I can imagine that this would be 100x harder if it were my first pregnancy, and only harder still after previous pregnancy loss. I am very much looking forward to trying again (once my body has had a chance to recover so that I start off on the best possible footing), and to seeing lots of fluid on a ultrasound some day soon, and even more so to cuddling a newborn! Thanks again to everyone here for being so supportive. I expect I'll keep posting as I go through this experience and then fade away again until I'm pg again. -- Emily mom to Toby 5/1/02 #2 EDD 7/19/04/induction scheduled for 3/2/04 I'm so sorry to hear of your impending loss. It's so thoughtful of you to think of donating your milk. I hope that you are able to do so and help others even during your difficult experience. I'm glad that you are opting for the induction. Research has shown that women who terminate pregnancies for medical reasons cope better (as a group, not necessarily every individual) if they induce rather than D&E. Seeing the baby and being able to have that closure is very important. My thoughts are with you, Amy |
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Emily,
I am so heartbroken for you. I read but didn't respond to your other post because frankly I was crushed and just didn't know what to say. You are so brave & strong -- your family is very lucky to have you. It's wonderful that your son is such an incredible source of strength to you during all of this. Take care, Carla On Thu, 26 Feb 2004 20:53:38 GMT, Emily wrote: Hi, We saw the perinatologist this morning. She was very kind, and took lots of time with us and answered all of our questions. We took another look at the baby on the u/s and saw absolutely no fluid this time. It seems that (on top of everything else, and probably not unrelatedly) I'm leaking fluid as well. We confirmed that the chances of carrying this baby to term and having it be viable and healthy are very, very slim. We are also optimistic that the cause of the problem is unlikely to be a recurring one, so that we can hope for an unproblematic pregnancy in the future. Going through all of the options, it seems that the course with the least risk to my health and future fertility is an induction. On Monday and Tuesday I have appointments for something to soften my cervix (don't know exactly what yet), and then the induction will be on Wednesday. The baby is still wiggling and squirming, even though there's no room without any fluid. It's pushing on the uterine wall (which is actually kinda painful). The perinatologist says that it must be a strong baby to do that -- I guess good muscle tone tends to run in our family. DS has always been very strong, practically could handle his own head (strong neck) from birth, walked at 9.5 months, etc. I asked about donating milk, and the perinatologist said she would look into it for me. There's a chance that it could actually be used in the NICU at the hospital where I will deliver. Otherwise, there aren't any milk banks in my city, but I will look into sending it to one. So, I wish this could be over sooner, so I could get on with things more quickly. It's very strange to be grieving already for someone who is still alive. My department has been very supportive and accommodating, and my class is taken care of for the rest of the quarter. I should be able to teach next quarter (starting 3/29) and think that I'll enjoy being able to throw myself into my work. DS is, of course, a huge comfort. I can imagine that this would be 100x harder if it were my first pregnancy, and only harder still after previous pregnancy loss. I am very much looking forward to trying again (once my body has had a chance to recover so that I start off on the best possible footing), and to seeing lots of fluid on a ultrasound some day soon, and even more so to cuddling a newborn! Thanks again to everyone here for being so supportive. I expect I'll keep posting as I go through this experience and then fade away again until I'm pg again. |
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(((((((((((hugs))))))))))......I want to say exactly what Nicky
said...... i'm so glad you posted asap.....i've been looking for you.....and we'll BE looking for you to be pregnant again....;-)) =95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95 =95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95 =95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95=95 No fluid/20 week induction update Group: misc.kids.pregnancy Date: Thu, Feb 26, 2004, 9:26pm (EST+5) From: (Coccinella) (((((Emily))))), I really think you are a very strong and generous woman. What you are going through is so tough and you can manage to think of others. I really admire you. I am sending you pampering vibes. -- Love Nicky Fur Babies |
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I have no words, just {{hugs} for you and your husband.
Sophie "Emily" wrote in message news:m1t%b.402942$I06.4380323@attbi_s01... Hi, We saw the perinatologist this morning. She was very kind, and took lots of time with us and answered all of our questions. We took another look at the baby on the u/s and saw absolutely no fluid this time. It seems that (on top of everything else, and probably not unrelatedly) I'm leaking fluid as well. We confirmed that the chances of carrying this baby to term and having it be viable and healthy are very, very slim. We are also optimistic that the cause of the problem is unlikely to be a recurring one, so that we can hope for an unproblematic pregnancy in the future. Going through all of the options, it seems that the course with the least risk to my health and future fertility is an induction. On Monday and Tuesday I have appointments for something to soften my cervix (don't know exactly what yet), and then the induction will be on Wednesday. The baby is still wiggling and squirming, even though there's no room without any fluid. It's pushing on the uterine wall (which is actually kinda painful). The perinatologist says that it must be a strong baby to do that -- I guess good muscle tone tends to run in our family. DS has always been very strong, practically could handle his own head (strong neck) from birth, walked at 9.5 months, etc. I asked about donating milk, and the perinatologist said she would look into it for me. There's a chance that it could actually be used in the NICU at the hospital where I will deliver. Otherwise, there aren't any milk banks in my city, but I will look into sending it to one. So, I wish this could be over sooner, so I could get on with things more quickly. It's very strange to be grieving already for someone who is still alive. My department has been very supportive and accommodating, and my class is taken care of for the rest of the quarter. I should be able to teach next quarter (starting 3/29) and think that I'll enjoy being able to throw myself into my work. DS is, of course, a huge comfort. I can imagine that this would be 100x harder if it were my first pregnancy, and only harder still after previous pregnancy loss. I am very much looking forward to trying again (once my body has had a chance to recover so that I start off on the best possible footing), and to seeing lots of fluid on a ultrasound some day soon, and even more so to cuddling a newborn! Thanks again to everyone here for being so supportive. I expect I'll keep posting as I go through this experience and then fade away again until I'm pg again. -- Emily mom to Toby 5/1/02 #2 EDD 7/19/04/induction scheduled for 3/2/04 |
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Emily wrote:
Thanks again to everyone here for being so supportive. I expect I'll keep posting as I go through this experience and then fade away again until I'm pg again. My heart just aches for you, Emily. You are coming across as very strong and in control of things for the moment, but I hope you will give yourself plenty of time and space for the grief. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for you. You and your family will be in my thoughts and I'll be holding you in the light (to borrow a Quaker phrase). Take care. {{{{{Emily}}}} -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [23 mos.] mom) This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: Financing for "5" years -- car dealership sign Mommy: I call you "baby" because I love you. Julian (age 4): Oh! All right, Mommy baby. All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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Emily wrote:
We saw the perinatologist this morning. She was very kind, and took lots of time with us and answered all of our questions. We took another look at the baby on the u/s and saw absolutely no fluid this time. [...] I'm at work, so I can't cry out loud, but inside I'm hurting for you. Your little baby's spirit is returning to the universe, where it came from, but it will always be with you. You are so brave for thinking of others by donating milk. I wish you a strong, healthy, fluid-filled pregnancy in the future. -- Anita -- |
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