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128 students suspended at Ind. school
"bizby40" wrote in message ... "Jen" wrote in message ... I'm sorry, but I've always been a believer that the people who stand by and watch are just as bad as the bullies themselves. lol -- I've been called a netnanny and a netcop before for the same reason. I too can't stand to see someone being bullied. I just generally think of bullying as being several people ganging up on one, or one person being belligerent while the other is cowering. This situation seemed much more like a pretty even match between two people. And in that situation, I (obviously don't mind my own business like I should) try to play peacemaker. No, it wasn't only one person, there were others as well. That's why I felt the need to step in. Jen |
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"Jen" wrote in message ... "bizby40" wrote in message ... "Jen" wrote in message ... I'm sorry, but I've always been a believer that the people who stand by and watch are just as bad as the bullies themselves. lol -- I've been called a netnanny and a netcop before for the same reason. I too can't stand to see someone being bullied. I just generally think of bullying as being several people ganging up on one, or one person being belligerent while the other is cowering. This situation seemed much more like a pretty even match between two people. And in that situation, I (obviously don't mind my own business like I should) try to play peacemaker. No, it wasn't only one person, there were others as well. That's why I felt the need to step in. I also meant to say, she sounded *cornered*, and was constantly defending herself, and explaining herself. Jen |
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On 1 Sep 2006 04:58:31 -0700, wrote:
Nan wrote: On 31 Aug 2006 08:45:50 -0700, wrote: Barbara wrote: Its difficult to comprehend the extent of poverty in even so-called first-world countries. I recall a friend working on a legal aid case. The client lived in an SRO (at least he wasn't homeless) with no access to a kitchen or means to cook. He testified that he ate lunch most days and Dunkin Donuts or another inexpensive fast food place. The ALJ kept asking where he ate his other meals. The guy just didn't get it. There WERE no other meals. That's all he could afford each day -- a cheap junkie lunch. That guy didn't have kids, but if he had, there might not have BEEN an extra dime each week. But if he had kids there would have been food stamps. The kids would have gotten free breakfasts and lunches at school. IF he was aware of such programs, wasn't illiterate and therefore able to read forms that came home with the child, and was able to even provide the documentation necessary to receive public assistance. He was obviously able to apply to legal aid. Yes, I know, I was pointing this out as a general comment that would apply to others. You're not understanding that there is an entire class of families that fall through the cracks. They're the Working Poor. They make too much money to receive assistance programs, but can't afford much beyond basic necessities. What would you have them do? Quit their jobs to receive help? A guy living in an SRO and eating one meal a day at Dunkin' Donuts is almost certainly NOT 'the working poor.' I agree. I put it in this response for lack of a better place. I apologize if it was confusing. There happen to have sitting here by the computer the papers sent home with SHaina at the beginning of the year about applying for free school lunches and textbooks. THe income cut off for a family of 3 is $2,560 a month. That's over $30,000 a year. In this city, you can rent a 2 bedroom apartment for under $600 a month. (Oh, and no special documentation is required. You just fill out the form and send it in.) Again, there are certainly families in difficult straits. They need to ask for help. If they can't read the forms, they contact the school and ask for help with the forms. (Oh, and the form has a spanish and french translation on the bottom telling the reader to call for assistance if needed.) I agree that the need to ask for help is there.... I'm just pointing out that there are circumstances unique to some families that may prevent that. For an example: We have a neighbor family with 6 children that recently got their utilities turned off. I noticed the utilities still hadn't been turned on after a week. I don't speak Spanish and they don't speak English, so the language barrier meant I couldn't ask if they knew of assistance programs. I ended up having another neighbor translate, and asked certain agencies to mail forms in spanish to me so I could give them the forms. Turns out they didn't know they could get Energy Assitance to pay their bill. Or that they probably qualified for food stamps and medicaid or at least free dental at the clinic for the kids and WIC for the babies. My point (yes there is one G) is that while my comment doesn't apply to school supplies directly, that there are situations in which some families aren't aware of assistance. And I think to say, 'well, the help is out there' is an assumption that judges people and I don't think it's good to make that assumption. Nan |
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"nimue" wrote in message ... She was being bullied by a few people and I felt she needed some support. I did and I appreciate it. It restored my faith in humanity. I don't think I've ever received that kind of support in all my years on usenet. That is so sad. The very first time I tried usenet I was bullied, and there were only a few short comments in my defence, and the others just kept going. I was constantly re explaining myself, and defending myself. I got so upset, I cried for days and didn't get much sleep or anything. I never went back to that group, and I was very wary of other groups. But I found that not all of them were that bad. and a lot of people didn't agree with bullying, but just stay out of it. I'm glad I helped you. Jen |
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On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 12:58:11 GMT, "Jen"
wrote: "Jen" wrote in message ... "bizby40" wrote in message ... "Jen" wrote in message ... I'm sorry, but I've always been a believer that the people who stand by and watch are just as bad as the bullies themselves. lol -- I've been called a netnanny and a netcop before for the same reason. I too can't stand to see someone being bullied. I just generally think of bullying as being several people ganging up on one, or one person being belligerent while the other is cowering. This situation seemed much more like a pretty even match between two people. And in that situation, I (obviously don't mind my own business like I should) try to play peacemaker. No, it wasn't only one person, there were others as well. That's why I felt the need to step in. I also meant to say, she sounded *cornered*, and was constantly defending herself, and explaining herself. Yep. Sometimes the dynamic of misc.kids seems to be that new or sporadic posters seem to get targeted, whether intentionally or unintentionally. I have no trouble defending someone I perceive as being treated unfairly. I like a good debate as well as anyone, but it doesn't need to spiral down into what this discussion turned into. Hey Barbara, if you haven't killfiled me, I apologize for my words yesterday. Nan |
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128 students suspended at Ind. school
Nan wrote: On Fri, 01 Sep 2006 01:29:19 GMT, "toypup" wrote: You don't need all the answers. If you don't have the answers, then the solutions that are presented are the only ones that we know of that can be practically applied. You can't argue that we can't use those solutions without presenting something of your own, because what can we do? We are not saying absolutely everyone can buy the supplies, just that most poor people, even on the bottom rungs, can come up with the basics; and those who can't can get some help from school or other resource. Nobody is asking you to use solutions. Only that you understand your "solutions" won't fit everyone. You can't imagine any other concept than what you know. The world is much bigger than your tiny corner in which your perceptions fit only you and those you know. Then you are agreeing that there are no solutions? That the poorest of the poor (and the illiterate 'working poor' who can't read forms) will always fail? I happen to believe that ALL human beings have certain capabilities, and while some will fail despite their best efforts, many people simply choose to not put out their best efforts. Because, of course, there are many deeply poor people who DO succeed. Who care enough for their children that they do what is necessary to help their children succeed. (BTW, having checked, a family of 3 in Indiana is eligible for food stamps if they make under about 21,000/year. The family can get up to $300 a month in stamps. That, with those free school breakfasts and lunches available at that income level, should provide ample food for the family, without having to miss a meal to buy a packet of pens.) (Oh, and you can actually rent a nice 2 br apt. in this town for around $450-$500, a one bedroom for under $400.) Naomi Nan |
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My point (yes there is one G) is that while my comment doesn't apply
to school supplies directly, that there are situations in which some families aren't aware of assistance. And I think to say, 'well, the help is out there' is an assumption that judges people and I don't think it's good to make that assumption. Well see you are doing your part by telling them where to get help. Tori |
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"Nan" wrote in message ... Yep. Sometimes the dynamic of misc.kids seems to be that new or sporadic posters seem to get targeted, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Sometimes the dynamic of misc.kids is that regulars get into long and sometimes intense arguments. This group has evolved into more of a debating society than a social or support group. At one point there used to be many more ctts and cttd posts -- even the occasional birth story. While we still field "advice" questions such as "Help! My 2 year old isn't sleeping!" an increasingly large part of this group has become debates on philosophical or political questions. The unfortunate part is that we don't have a moderator -- and I mean moderator in the real life sense of "someone to keep the conversation on track" rather than the Usenet "someone to censor objectionable posts" sense -- so often these debates go off track and get into name calling and hurt feelings. I'm not complaining mind you -- I found the birth stories boring even why my kids were infants! So I think this group is more interesting to me than alt.mothers would be. That's the nature of Usenet -- if you don't like one group, you find another you like better. Note that I'm not trying to tell you or nimue or anyone else to leave. That's the other nature of Usenet -- you can post what you want. If enough people started posting the birth stories and cttx posts, the nature of this newsgroup would swing back again. Nimue may be new to this group, but she's not a net newbie. I read some of her stuff on the cf newsgroup, and she doesn't seem to shy away from debate. I think she can hold her own. I didn't read much, but I liked what I read, and really respected the fact that she sometimes took on the more radical child-free elements. I would be happy to have her stick around if she chooses to do so, because we have a lot of education-related threads, and it's nice having teachers' perspectives. Bizby |
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