How do I help my daugher?

I'm sorry...what the hell does any of this have to do with child
support?

On Feb 5, 1:53 pm, Beverly wrote:
On 5 Feb 2007 08:22:25 -0800, "kal" wrote:



On Feb 5, 12:20 am, "teachrmama" wrote:
What does her psychologist say?

"kal" wrote in message

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I have an 11 year old daughter. It has been 8 mos. since she has had
contact with her father and as time goes by she is starting to tell me
of the abuse she has suffered at his hands. At this time he is not
fighting me in court but he continues to call my home and leave
messages for my daughter, which I believe are his way of threatening
her to keep her from talking. Does anyone have any suggestions or
know how I can prevent him from continuing to harrass her and scare
the crap out of her. This child is afraid to go to bed at night for
fear he will come in her window and afraid to go to school for fear he
will show up. I am just devastated and have for many years tried to
prove this to the courts with no results in our favor.

Her psycologist says that it is very important that she not have any
contact with her father and that the only reason she has not contacted
protective services is because she has not seen him in 8 mos. she
says there is more to what has happened than what she is saying.

Remind the psychologist that there is a court order for your daughter
to go with this parent alone and that, despite no contact for the last
8 months, if he wished to see her this coming weekend that the court
demands you send her. THEREFORE, as a mandated reporter, if the
psychologist DOESN'T report and something were to happen, the
psychologist could be held criminally and civilly liable. DON'T
phrase it as a threat; rather, let the psychologist know that you are
concerned about your daughter's safety, how the psychologist's expert
opinion states you have reason to be concerned, but until you can
connect the two in a legal fashion, you may BOTH let this child down.
YOU are court ordered to go against your better judgment; however, the
psychologist is NOT.

That said, the next issue is in making your daughter feel safe.

What is the school's policy on releasing a child to a non-custodial
parent? I'd speak with the counselor there and, if the policy would
make your daughter feel safer, I would involve the daughter in a
meeting with the counselor where the counselor can detail how they can
keep children safe at school. Sometimes they need to know that other
adults, besides a parent, are invested in keeping them safe.

Have you considered updating your home security in such a way that
your daughter feels he cannot get in? Explore different options and
involve your daughter in the decision. She doesn't even have to know
it is to keep her father out... just that it is a good idea.

Last, but not least, is there a method in which you can screen
messages from her father without her hearing? I wouldn't advise
cutting him out completely, but anything you feel is threatening can
be tempered with your relay of the message.

Good luck. I raised two children sired by a pedophile and know how
difficult it can be to keep them safe while remaining within the law.

Beverly

Thank you! Good Information I will contact the school and explain my
security system to my daughter

wrote:
I'm sorry...what the hell does any of this have to do with child
support?

Easy, Brigg. I don't think this one is a troll.

- Ron ^*^

What kind of abuse are we talking about, verbal, physical or sexual?

Kal:
I have contacted the police in the past when she had his fingers
bruised onto her arm and the officer said that sometimes things just
get out of hand that there was no abuse going on.
As far as I know it is just verbal and pysical

Jalojor:
CALL THE POLICE NOW AND HAVE YOUR DAUGHTERS
FATHER ARRESTED AS A PEDOPHILE; press charges and GET A RESTRAINING
ORDER. Then get a lawyer, go to court and expose him.....got that?


Quite a leap you made, there, Jal.