How to stop him?

"Janet" wrote in message
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Why would I want to encourage this? As I said before she is having to
see a therapist because she is having emotional problems related to
change.

I can see that regardless of how many replies and all the good advice you
have received, it has fallen on deaf ears. I feel so sorry for your child
that is suffering much anxiety about meeting her father.

Question is that you don't seem to grasp, where did that anxiety come from?

Does your therapist think it's a good idea to keep the father out of the
child's life?

Why is she in such a state of fear that she needs therapy?

"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Parenting time plans are used to establish CS awards. CS can be set
administratively and then get court approval. Parenting time plans
require
separate approval and can only be set by the courts.

I'm sure that she is well aware of this. That's why she's trying to line her
fat lazy pockets with the maximum amount of free cash.
The day she drops her "child support" lawsuit is the day that I will believe
that it's not about stealin' his money. , but only about keeping the child
fatherless.


Your child's father is not doing anything unusual.

From the tone of your original post it sounds like you might have some
control issues.

"Might"?

Since the two of you had a child together your lives will
be intertwined forever through the child. Get used to it and stop trying
to
drive her father away.

"Janet" wrote in message
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Why would I want to encourage this? As I said before she is having to
see a therapist because she is having emotional problems related to
change. Any change in her routine sets off a crying fit. It will not
help her to be forced to go with someone that she doesn't want to
see.I thought they used the best interest of the child to determine
these things?

Translation:
Why would I want my daughter to know her father? As I said before, I
successfully ruined my life and my daughters life when I acted like a whore
and screwed every Tom, Dick, and Harry. Now I have my paycheck here, and I
want to collect without any issue. It doesn't matter that I ruined my
daughter's life, she'll get over it, just pay me already. I thought mothers
had more rights in court when determining these things?


Her father was just someone that I had a brief fling with. We didn't
really care that much about each other and we both understood that. If
he is such a caring father then where was for the first 6 years of her
life? He could have found me if he wanted. Now just because I asked
for some help with the kid that he is halfway responsible for all of a
sudden he wants to act like hes a real dad to her. She doesn't even
like him. She got along fine without him all this time and now he
shows up disrupting her life. Is that fair to her? Do the courts
really think it will be in her best interest to have her being dragged
out of the house by someone she doesn't like and just barely knows?
That seems like child abuse!

Translation:
I'm a degenerate whore who wants all the thrills and none of the
responsibility. I can justify my stance as a whore because sex is a
two-some thing, and he did it too, so that justifies my screwing around with
every Tom, Dick, and Harry. Now, 6 years later, I'm ready to cash in, I
sure fooled him!! He thought I was out of his life, now since I'm smarter
than him, I get to collect!! During these last 6 years, I had everything
planned. I taught my daughter to hate men, how to collect from them, how to
screw them, and I have successfully ruined her life for my own selfish
wants. Now, that I am trying to collect, I find it unfair that this is not
a one sided battle. I just want my paycheck, why does he have to fight with
me? Why doesn't he just go ahead and give my all his money and leave me and
my ruined daughter alone? Doesn't he know that his plans to spend time with
his daughter is totally disrupting my plan for a free ride? This has to be
child abuse, because I don't like it.


On Wed, 6 Dec 2006 06:12:16 -0800, "teachrmama"
wrote:


"Janet" wrote in message
. ..
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

It's going to be up to you to make this easy for her. The judge almost
certaily will assign him time with his chld. So you need to start talking
about all the wonderful things little girls can do with their fathers.
Talk
to him, and arrange for the 3 of you to start doing some things
together--go
out for a hamburger, go see a movie, etc. Laugh with him, talk with him.
Let HER see what a nice man he is. (You obviously did more thatn laugh
and
talk at one point in time, or she wouldn't be here) Let her see the man
you
cared enough about to create her. YOU have the power to help this happen
without trauma. Be a loving mother to your daughter and help her get to
know and love her daddy.




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"Dale" wrote in message
et...

"Moon Shyne" wrote in

You're right - I don't care. The opinions of people who actually
KNOW me carry far more weight.

And once again the subject matter depletes into all about her.

Can we not get passed this rambling idiot, some of us have much larger
issues to deal with such a imprisonment, forced poverty, Shyster
lawyers and a corrupt government system.

Recognize that USENET Kooks will take the opposite side of any
discussion to create excitement for themselves. They thrive on the
attention as they have no life outside of the internet.

When you see a posting from a looney like Moon Shyne, expect a wacked
out responce and ignore it.
Lets move on, there's more important things to discuss.

thanks

Dale

I understand your position but I just can't help allowing people like
this to solidly place both feet into their ample mouths.
Phil #3

"Chris" wrote in message
...

"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
...

"Janet" wrote in message
...
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Parenting time plans are used to establish CS awards. CS can be set
administratively and then get court approval. Parenting time plans
require
separate approval and can only be set by the courts.

I'm sure that she is well aware of this. That's why she's trying to line her
fat lazy pockets with the maximum amount of free cash.
The day she drops her "child support" lawsuit is the day that I will believe
that it's not about stealin' his money. , but only about keeping the child
fatherless.


Your child's father is not doing anything unusual.

From the tone of your original post it sounds like you might have some
control issues.

"Might"?

Since the two of you had a child together your lives will
be intertwined forever through the child. Get used to it and stop trying
to
drive her father away.




I understand why we assume a women is after a pay check, don't get me wrong.
What I don't understand is how short sighted that goal is. Money or not,
long term a child is worse for wear minus both parents. (And the boyfriend
of the week isn't a parent) The possible effects of a child growing up
without a father far out weigh the amount of money one MIGHT get.

Lady, you need to get and keep daddy around. The free time you will get
while he is with your daughter alone is worth more then the money. Trust me!

"Dale" wrote

"Moon Shyne" wrote in

You're right - I don't care. The opinions of people who actually KNOW me
carry far more weight.

And once again the subject matter depletes into all about her.

Can we not get passed this rambling idiot, some of us have much larger
issues to deal with such a imprisonment, forced poverty, Shyster lawyers
and a corrupt government system.
==
Gotta killfile?

"Gini" wrote in message
news:9d0eh.1692$4p2.994@trndny07...

"Dale" wrote

"Moon Shyne" wrote in

You're right - I don't care. The opinions of people who actually KNOW
me carry far more weight.

And once again the subject matter depletes into all about her.

Can we not get passed this rambling idiot, some of us have much larger
issues to deal with such a imprisonment, forced poverty, Shyster lawyers
and a corrupt government system.
==
Gotta killfile?

Yes, and we need to killfile those that insist on reponding to her antics!
It's the only true way to put an end to trolls on USENET forums.

"Dale" wrote

"Gini" wrote

"Dale" wrote
............

Can we not get passed this rambling idiot, some of us have much larger
issues to deal with such a imprisonment, forced poverty, Shyster lawyers
and a corrupt government system.
==
Gotta killfile?

Yes, and we need to killfile those that insist on reponding to her antics!
It's the only true way to put an end to trolls on USENET forums.
==
Dale, Dale, Dale--She's been here for years,
just as many others have. If anyone were going to killfile her they'd have
done it by now.
Heck, I've listened and bantered about with her for years and only recently
killfiled her because of one
single thread. But, she's something of an artifact here and gives a little
spice for those looking to usenet
for spicey-ness. I don't know of anyone who takes her seriously, except
maybe you, but I'll defend her right
to be here. OTOH, you have the right to deal with her as you see fit or move
on--cuz she ain't going nowhere,
and I can assure you she's pleased as punch at getting under your skin. BTW,
if you killfile everyone who
chats with her, you won't have anyone to talk to.

"Gini" wrote in

single thread. But, she's something of an artifact here and gives a little
spice for those looking to usenet
for spicey-ness.

If she wants spice-ness, she can go to Alt.kooks.net where she'll find all
the arguments till her heart is content. IN the mean while there's lots of
us that need cold hard facts to help save the quality in our lives and she's
just a waste of space.

I don't have the time to waste any more energy on her!

"Dale" wrote

"Gini" wrote in

single thread. But, she's something of an artifact here and gives a
little spice for those looking to usenet
for spicey-ness.

If she wants spice-ness, she can go to Alt.kooks.net where she'll find all
the arguments till her heart is content. IN the mean while there's lots of
us that need cold hard facts to help save the quality in our lives and
she's just a waste of space.

I don't have the time to waste any more energy on her!
==
She's really quite a harmless entertainer. Somewhat annoying, not much of a
penchant for the truth,
but otherwise harmless. What facts are you looking for? This group has one
heck of an archive in Google