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long absent father now wants visitation
wife was 3 month pregnant with other mans child when we married. he wanted
nothing more with her once she told him she was having baby. the baby was born and weve been real happy together. nows 5 years later he comes back and wants to see his child. i always told the girl i was her daddy she knows nobody else. now what do i do? i don't want this other guy to come in and say he is girls daddy. my wife says since girl was born when i was married to her then i am the bio daddy and the other guy cant say he is girls daddy. is this true? Kevin & Kristin Ramos 1290 Trombetta St. Santa Rosa, CA |
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Ramos wrote:
wife was 3 month pregnant with other mans child when we married. he wanted nothing more with her once she told him she was having baby. the baby was born and weve been real happy together. nows 5 years later he comes back and wants to see his child. i always told the girl i was her daddy she knows nobody else. now what do i do? i don't want this other guy to come in and say he is girls daddy. my wife says since girl was born when i was married to her then i am the bio daddy and the other guy cant say he is girls daddy. is this true? Partly. There is a rebutable presumption under common law that a child born in a marriage is the natural child of the father. This comes down all the way from common law in England. So, yes, there is that. However, with the advance of DNA technology, more and more you are seeing courts do away with this and rely on the DNA test. Simple, straight, and forward. So, conceivably, he could come back, demand a DNA test, and the courts would side with him. On the other hand, look at it this way: once that is established, your wife can come back at him for five years of back child support. I'm supposing that if you lay that on him, he might decide being in the shadows is where it's at. |
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First - You shouldn't post you & your wife's real names & address,
it's not too safe posting personal info like that where any weirdo in the world can see it. wife was 3 month pregnant with other mans child when we married. he wanted nothing more with her once she told him she was having baby. You married her just three months after she was sleeping with this other guy. Either you believe in love at first sight and leaped from dates to marriage just that quick, or you and ex/biodad were both involved with her at the same time. In which case, are you really sure who the biological father really is? Without a DNA test, noone can be sure. nows 5 years later he comes back and wants to see his child. Pehaps his initial ill feelings towards the sitution have cooled and he wants to be a part of daughter's life, if it is indeed his daughter. i always told the girl i was her daddy she knows nobody else. now what do i do? What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. i don't want this other guy to come in and say he is girls daddy. my wife says since girl was born when i was married to her then i am the bio daddy and the other guy cant say he is girls daddy. is this true? You are the Legal father. Legal trumps biological. The same vile paternity laws that hold men responsible for child support even after they've been proven via DNA NOT to be the father - those same laws will protect your interest in the child. You are the Legal father because you were wedded to the mother at time of birth, and by caring for and acting as the child's father for 5 years, that adds presumption of paternity. The paternity laws are based on the idea that it is not in the best interest of the child to take away the only father they have known, therefore whoever's been acting as father is stuck with continuing to be father even if they want out. Even if a DNA test proves the other man is the father, there's not much a court could do for him unless they want to overturn hundreds of past cases where biology didn't mean a thing when it was the non-bio making a plea. Assuming the other guy IS the biofather & legalities aside - think about this: The child's only five years old. She's got a long life ahead of her, maybe 40+ years til her biodad kicks the bucket. Do you want to deny her 40 yrs of knowing & having a relationship with her biological father and all her blood family on his side just because of the mistakes the adults here made? If you truly love the child, think about what's best for her, not what's best for you and your wife. Get the DNA test and if he does prove to be the biofather, that's a relationship that needs to be nurtured, not pushed away. |
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"John Meyer" wrote in message ... Ramos wrote: wife was 3 month pregnant with other mans child when we married. he wanted nothing more with her once she told him she was having baby. the baby was born and weve been real happy together. nows 5 years later he comes back and wants to see his child. i always told the girl i was her daddy she knows nobody else. now what do i do? i don't want this other guy to come in and say he is girls daddy. my wife says since girl was born when i was married to her then i am the bio daddy and the other guy cant say he is girls daddy. is this true? Partly. There is a rebutable presumption under common law that a child born in a marriage is the natural child of the father. This comes down all the way from common law in England. So, yes, there is that. However, with the advance of DNA technology, more and more you are seeing courts do away with this and rely on the DNA test. Simple, straight, and forward. So, conceivably, he could come back, demand a DNA test, and the courts would side with him. On the other hand, look at it this way: once that is established, your wife can come back at him for five years of back child support. I'm supposing that if you lay that on him, he might decide being in the shadows is where it's at. It is going to depend on how the state laws has been written regarding paternity. In my state there are two possible scenarios. First, a child CONCEIVED while a husband and wife cohabitate is conclusively presumed to be the child of the mother's husband. And second, a child BORN while a man and woman are married is presumed to be that of the mother's husband but that is a disputable presumption. The paternity laws are set up in such a way that a married men who's wife has an affair and gets pregnant cannot challenge paternity even though he is not the bio-dad, while a man who married a pregnant woman has no paternal rights because the bio-dad's rights prevail. |
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