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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but need help!)
zolw wrote in message news:kcfrc.1742$JC5.241045@attbi_s54...
I am not sure why everyone is still stuck on the ultra sound issue. I have already explained that it seemed to me that most drs give 2 ultrasounds. Now that I know they don't I do not want another ultrasound. I just want to be certain that my child is alright. Most of the arguing is still happening based on your first note, not on subsequent information. When you have a big thread like this, it's often difficult to keep track of what further information is available. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
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zolw wrote:
What expectations do i have that are so unrealistic? A dr that answers my questions & doesn't brush me off? A dr that doesn't patronize me? If I have concerns (with every right to have them, taking my family history into consideration), he needs to address them. NOT IGNORE THEM! I think you people donh't really know what my expectations are. It is not about getting some tests or having a touchy feely dr. It is about working with a person that treats you like a person, not just another check in his bank account. Well, you did mention both in your original post ;-) The tests and medical care you are receiving seem appropriate, with the possible exception of the attention he has paid to your family history (maybe he considered it and wrote it down somewhere later; maybe he didn't). I think most have agreed that his manner seems a bad fit for you. It's hard to declare it universally bad, as there are women who prefer that approach. Best wishes, Ericka |
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zolw wrote:
I also feel that so far into my pregnancy it will actually be inconvenient for me to start shopping for another dr. Especially that there is no guarante that the next dr I see won't be exactly the same way. I will probably have to put up with what I believe to be not proper care giving. I do not care if he is an OB or a midwife, there is ABC treating other people. He can not always treat me like he is doing me a favor. Actually he gets paid much more than his service deserves & he should have the decency to treat his patients better. I am not asking him to sit there & hug me or comfort me but he can smile every now & then, he can listen to me when i have questions (instead he gives me those patronising looks. I even caught myself sometimes apologizing for having questions, which is real sad). You must get past this. If you think it's bad now, when you're just going in for routine prenatals in a healthy pregnancy, heaven forbid you have to deal with this during labor or if a complication crops up. If he is not the right fit for you, CHANGE! Think of it this way--if you had these feelings about a pediatrician for your child, don't you think you would owe it to your child to change peds and get one that gave the sort of care you felt your child needed and deserved? Give up the fear of change and the unknown and try another caregiver. Sure, you could end up with someone who isn't any better, but you could end up making a huge difference in your labor and delivery. You can get consult appointments with other caregivers without transferring your care. When you find one you like, *then* transfer your care. Most offices will give a consult appointment for free. Best wishes, Ericka |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but
Sorry to jump into this thread. I am a new in posting to NGs in
general. I am from India and amma (Mum) to my 10 month old DD. I hope I don't scare the OP. But I feel OP has every right to have a US scan if she is nervous about the health of her baby. Wanted to share my experience. When I was in 36 weeks (I had a very very 'normal' pregnancy until 34 weeks checkup), I went for a routine (as far as the doc I consulted was concerned) US scan and found that the fluid level was dangerously low and my placenta had deteriorated. I did not feel any abnormal leakage. I still could feel baby movements and so I thought all was well. I had an emergency induction, which failed and ended up in c-section. So now, how do we define a normal pregnancy? I thought everything was normal until the US scan and I shudder to think what would have happened otherwise. May be I would have been lucky noticing when the baby started to become less active. But there is no guarentee. Years back when US scan was not used, people may have been lucky. But there were many people who lost babies due to unexplained reasons too (at least in India). My grandma lost 2 of her kids in her 3rd trimester and the rest 4 she had home births with mid wives (no doctors). Thanks for listening... OSPAM (Naomi Pardue) wrote in message ... I must admit that the idea of having little baby pics is a very tempting idea, especially for a first timer. But my idea was that she was seeing the development of her little girl. She was not totally in the dark. And neither are you. THere are scores of books out there that describe (and illustrate) the normal development and growth of a fetus. Since we can assume that your baby is doing fine, I still don't see why you need to have pictures of your particular baby. You really WILL get to see her. When she is born. (It's only been in the past 15-20 years or so that ultrasound has been even remotely routine in normal pregnancies. Women did just fine without getting frequent peeks at their developing baby.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but
"MomToN" wrote in message m... Wanted to share my experience. When I was in 36 weeks (I had a very very 'normal' pregnancy until 34 weeks checkup), I went for a routine (as far as the doc I consulted was concerned) US scan and found that the fluid level was dangerously low and my placenta had deteriorated. I did not feel any abnormal leakage. I still could feel baby movements and so I thought all was well. I had an emergency induction, which failed and ended up in c-section. Wouldn't there be other signs of this -- small fundal height? Palpation shows baby isn't growing well between visits? Doesn't blood pressure go up if the placenta is failing? I don't sit around worrying about this because I think there are signs that would point one toward having an ultrasound to see if there is a problem. Please correct me if I'm wrong. And I'm sure there are a few problems that are found when everything else looks absolutely perfect; I just suspect they are too few and far between to subject kids routinely to not-proven-safe ultrasound. -- Dagny #1 10/03 #2 1/05 |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but
MomToN wrote:
Sorry to jump into this thread. I am a new in posting to NGs in general. I am from India and amma (Mum) to my 10 month old DD. I hope I don't scare the OP. But I feel OP has every right to have a US scan if she is nervous about the health of her baby. Wanted to share my experience. When I was in 36 weeks (I had a very very 'normal' pregnancy until 34 weeks checkup), I went for a routine (as far as the doc I consulted was concerned) US scan and found that the fluid level was dangerously low and my placenta had deteriorated. I did not feel any abnormal leakage. I still could feel baby movements and so I thought all was well. I had an emergency induction, which failed and ended up in c-section. So now, how do we define a normal pregnancy? I thought everything was normal until the US scan and I shudder to think what would have happened otherwise. May be I would have been lucky noticing when the baby started to become less active. But there is no guarentee. I understand your feelings, especially given your experience. However, I don't necessarily agree with your conclusions. When studies have been done using very large numbers of subjects, they have found that routine u/s does *not* improve outcomes. That doesn't necessarily mean that it never finds anything. It just means that statistically, there is no difference in outcomes between groups that are routinely scanned and those that are not. There are several possible reasons for this: 1) The things that routine u/s find can't be treated. When this happens, all you get is a heads up that there is (or might be) a problem, but not really an opportunity to fix the problem. 2) Routine u/s finds things that would be discovered via another route and treated even without the routine u/s. This, for example, is the case with placenta previa. It is often detected via routine u/s, but the vast majority of cases are detected even without routine u/s due to third trimester bleeding. This may have also been the case with your situation, as most cases of low amniotic fluid and placental insufficiency are diagnosed via u/s after medical indication. (There have also been significant debates over how much fluid is too little, with the threshhold for problems having been dropped substantially recently.) 3) Sometimes routine u/s "finds" problems that aren't really problems, leading to unnecessary interventions that may cause risks of their own. We live in a culture where the dominant paradigm in pregnancy and childbirth is the notion that a healthy baby can be guaranteed with enough testing and intervention. Unfortunately, *science* doesn't always bear out that theory. We also live (in the US) in a society where access to care is rationed by ability to pay. The consequence of increasing testing in one area is that other areas get fewer resources. Personally, I would prefer to have access to care based on solid, medical evidence, rather than anything else. I would rather we pay for all the things that are *known* to improve outcomes before we start spending on things where there isn't any proof of efficacy. Of course, if people are willing to pay out of pocket for non-medically indicated tests, then that's their business (in my opinion). Best wishes, Ericka |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, butneedhelp!)
ooh, I just read something interesting - placental insufficiency is
protective against prostate cancer in the baby throughout life! I will talk to the consultant OBs at work about this - I've honestly never heard of P.I. being more likely in subsequent pregnancies. I have, however heard of IUGR being more likely, most probably due to lifestyle factors. I'm not working again 'till Monday, but I'll get back when I find out for you. However, I don't see how seeing two doctors can avoid problems if there is P.I... Jo (RM) zolw wrote: That's actually not true. My sister had 3 pregnancies (2 children, since she lost one of them in the 9th month) & in all 3 cases she had placenta insufficiency. Actually the doctors (she was seeing 2 doctors at te same time, to avoid having the same problem as with her unborn child) all agreed that if a woman has placenta insufficiency once, she is at much higher risk to have it every time. JoFromOz wrote: Placental insufficiency in one pregnancy has nothing to do with the health of the placenta in subsequent pregnancies, let alone a pregnancy in another woman. It is also not that uncommon for inductions to fail when a woman isn't ready to go into labour. I really think that your sister's placental problems have anything to do with you. That placenta was formed when the fertilised egg implanted into her uterus... The body doesn't make the same placenta twice Jo (RM) Welches wrote: zolw wrote in message news:E2Qqc.7387$zw.4579@attbi_s01... yes, my sister has a condition called placenta insufficiency. Apparently her placenta ages quickly. At the same time, she does not get contractions or go into labor, even after induction. I have already told my doctor about that (the first few appointments I tried to give him as much family history as possible. I have an aunt who would miscarriage every single pregnancy at 6 months. Never had a child. My mom menopaused at the age of 38. So, I thought all that may be real important for him to know), he just said ok. Didn't even jot it down or anything. I probably should mention it to him once more. I wonder whether he might think it's appropriate to check (via u/s) the placenta in 8th month. (apparently they can do this) Remind him about your sister, and ask him whether it would be a good idea. Might be a good idea to see if your insurance would cover this. Suspect the aunt's problems were unrelated, and genetically she's probably considered far enough from you not to be concerned-and you're past 6 months :-) Maybe if you haven't insurance for it you might think it was worth paying to check the placenta? I don't know whether there is any genetic aspect in placenta insufficiency-maybe that would be a good point to start-by asking your doctor that. Debbie |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but
Zolw, remember that a doctor is nothing more than a hired hand. If you
are not satisfied with his service, fire him and hire somebody else. They aren't gods(although many think they are), they are human beings (with an education) and are subject to all the failings and shortcomings of the human race. When you look for a new one, consider looking for a female OB/GYN that herself has had children, she is more likely to be empathetic.(Not to say their aren't very good male ones and lousy female ones, but you are running out of time and you need to play the odds). You wouldn't hesitate to dismiss a gardener, interior designer, tutor,carpenter, or craftsman, or any other "expert" whose work you were unsatisfied with, why should a doctor be any different? You don't have the knowledge to evaluate his skills? So what? No matter what his expertise, if he is not taking you and your concerns seriously, he is not the doctor for you. I will be praying for you and your baby. Take care, and let us know what happens.-Jitney |
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"Elfanie" wrote in message ... #1 most scientifically accurate method of determining fetal weight prior to birth? Asking mom. Just to clarify for the OP -- asking a MULTIP mom is scientifically more accurate than caregiver estimates and ultrasound. The OP is likely to say "how the hell would I know?" Well, she wouldn't, she's a primip. I'm looking forward to feeling another term baby and going, Oh yes, heavier or lighter than Meg. My baby was 9#3 and estimated by the OB and midwife as being very average -- 7.5, 8 pounds. It turns out she was just very long (22") at birth, and I'm tall. But yet, the estimate of fetal size was entirely appropriate because she was of quite average "widths" and birthing a baby who's hiding weight in her length is no problem. They come out lengthwise -- Dagny |
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frustrated with Doctor. Am I rightfullt so? (a bit long, but need help!)
"zolw" wrote in message
news:bL9rc.30055$gr.3028579@attbi_s52... Oh yeah, I have mentioned my concerns & my family history to the docor, but he brushed me off. I also have a list of questions every appointment (written down, so i don't forget anything), but he always gives me a quick "this is normal" or "you're pregnant" answers. & if I try to push him to give me more detailed answers, he usually seems upset that I want more details. You're really hung up on your family's history. I'm not saying it's not awful, or sad, but I'm just not sure how much it matters in regards to *your* pregnancy. My mom had a miscarriage. I never have. My sister took 2 + yrs to get pregnant with her first. The longest it's taken me is 4 months (for 2 months of that I didn't know about charting or ovulation). Their histories aren't mine. I think the answers your Dr gives you (it's normal and you're pregnant) are sufficent, jsut not long-winded. Get a new Dr if he's so cold and aloof. Sophie #4 due July 7, 2004 |
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