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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid
them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Dhelderman" wrote:
I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. grandma Rosalie |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
Rosalie B. wrote in :
"Dhelderman" wrote: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. I've just posted on mk, but I do think it is normal for children this age to become interested in fire. I know I was at that sort of age and at least four of my friends were. What I would do would be too teach my kid about fire safety. I'd ban fires inside, but I'd try and find somewhere outside where he can light fires - under supervision - and learn about them that way. The Cub Scout pack my son goes to has sessions where they cook very small sausages over candle flames, maybe you (the OP that is) could do that with your child. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Rosalie B." wrote in message
... "Dhelderman" wrote: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. "Psychiatric intervention"!?! How about just quit leaving lighters laying around!? Or better yet quit smoking. Leave a loaded handgun by your cigarettes then come back later you're in the same situation as leaving a lighter laying around. I believe one should at least try to keep dangerous things out of reach of children. It says so right on the lighter: "KEEP OUT OF REACH OF CHILDREN"! I must sound like a smarty pants but this is just common sense! |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Dhelderman" wrote in
: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him Have you tried directing this energy and interest in fire into something positive? Stop by your local fire department and ask your question. They might have some fire safety materials they can provide that you could go through with him. Have him help put together a fire escape plan and practice it as a family. |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
In article c%0Mc.6644$BX.6505@lakeread08, "Rich"
wrote: "Rosalie B." wrote in message ... "Dhelderman" wrote: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. "Psychiatric intervention"!?! How about just quit leaving lighters laying around!? Or better yet quit smoking. Leave a loaded handgun by your cigarettes then come back later you're in the same situation as leaving a lighter laying around. I believe one should at least try to keep dangerous things out of reach of children. It says so right on the lighter: "KEEP OUT OF REACH OF CHILDREN"! I must sound like a smarty pants but this is just common sense! You may not have read the entire OP carefully. They ARE keeping the lighters locked up -- the child has escalated to torching things on the gas stove. A child of 10 who wants to light fires is going to find a way to do it, no matter WHAT you keep under lock and key. And, yes, if a child becomes obsessive about something that is dangerous, psychiatric intervention may, indeed, be called for. I'm not sure it has gotten that far yet -- I don't know what the boy's parents are doing to give him SAFE opportunities to "play with fire" -- but if he continues to light fires in secreat AFTER they give him safe ways and places to do it -- yes, psychiatric intervention seems called for. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
i now keep my lighters locked up so he cannot get them.. He's moved on to
my gas stove to light things now. I can't lock that up. "Rich" wrote in message news:c%0Mc.6644$BX.6505@lakeread08... "Rosalie B." wrote in message ... "Dhelderman" wrote: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. "Psychiatric intervention"!?! How about just quit leaving lighters laying around!? Or better yet quit smoking. Leave a loaded handgun by your cigarettes then come back later you're in the same situation as leaving a lighter laying around. I believe one should at least try to keep dangerous things out of reach of children. It says so right on the lighter: "KEEP OUT OF REACH OF CHILDREN"! I must sound like a smarty pants but this is just common sense! |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Rich" wrote:
"Rosalie B." wrote in message .. . "Dhelderman" wrote: I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him I would be surprised if this could be handled without psychiatric intervention. I do not think it is normal for a child this age to be so fascinated with fire. "Psychiatric intervention"!?! How about just quit leaving lighters laying around!? Or better yet quit smoking. Leave a loaded handgun by your cigarettes then come back later you're in the same situation as leaving a lighter laying around. I believe one should at least try to keep dangerous things out of reach of children. It says so right on the lighter: "KEEP OUT OF REACH OF CHILDREN"! I must sound like a smarty pants but this is just common sense! It's not common sense and yes you do sound like a smarty pants (You said it) Or rather like someone who is leaping to judgment without actually reading and processing all that was written. And responding with a good bit of hyperbole - comparing a lighter to a loaded gun is definite over the top exaggeration. Because she's said that she's already locked up the lighters. What she can't lock up is her gas stove. I don't see anything wrong with being interested in fire. That wasn't what led me to suggest psychiatric help. What triggered that was that the kid to sneaks away to do it behind his mom's back when he is an at age where he KNOWS that it is forbidden and is TEN and not some toddler who can't control his impulses. I don't think a mom should have to hide lighters from a 10 yo child - that's something that you do when they are TWO. And the fire training needs to be done a bit earlier, although I will suspend judgment on that. grandma Rosalie |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Dhelderman" wrote in message ...
I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. So now i keep it all locked up. This morning i got up and he had burnt card board on our gas stove. Does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do or say to him to get him to stop i don't think he realizes how easy fire can get away from him.. I"m afraid one day he's going to burn down the house in my sleep or catch something on fire when i'm not in the same room with him Teach him how to cook, maybe? At 10, he should be able to handle working safely with fire. Rupa |
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10 year old steals lighters and plays with fire.
"Dhelderman" wrote in message ... I have a 10 year old who recently started taking my lighters when i laid them down by my cigerettes. Idea that will help you and your son: stop smoking. As you point out, there are other source of fire (the stove), but at least there will be one temptation gone and your lungs and his will be in better shape. Jeff |
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