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"Joy" wrote in message ... "Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message ... I am leaning towards suggesting to Sara to get legal custody of the baby Isn't Sara the baby's mother? Then doesn't she already have legal custody? Or am I missing something? Joy Ironically, petitioning the court for 'custody' (and of course CS) actually gives the father (nd his family) more rights than if she didn't, AND would open the door to the mother losing custody to the father. |
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Joy wrote in message ... "Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message ... I am leaning towards suggesting to Sara to get legal custody of the baby Isn't Sara the baby's mother? Then doesn't she already have legal custody? Or am I missing something? Joy No.... and what would be the benefit to a court battle for legal custody? Do you think that the father is going to kidnap the baby? (that comment to Bebe, not to Joy) T |
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Paul Fritz wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Bebe lestrnge wrote in message ... snipped other stuff percentage of child support Vicky wrote; There is no choice. Food, Home, Clothing, Lessons, Academics....shall I continue? You are a single parent, you know it takes monetary support to raise children if you do not have a high income. Bev wrote; I agree with you on this Vicky, I have received child support for my girls for about 15 years now. I have accepted 50.00 per week per child and that has come to 5200.00 a year. Now we all know it cost way more than that to raise two kids. This is not even half of the cost. When I make around 22,000.00 a year and there is no savings. I go without to give my kids what they need and yeah sometimes just what they want . Cause I can. I am not complaining, but it urks my craw when people make child support a negative issue. It is not, the children deserve it and a whole lot more than they get most of the time if they are getting it at all from both moms or dads. Just my opinion . Bev The support isn't meant to pay for ALL your kids needs. $100.00 a week for 2 kids..... how much do you think it does cost for 2 kids if $100.00 isn't enough? And actually your annual income is 27,200 with that support you get. Alot of folks here get NO financial help btw. Since CS is after tax income, that equates to closer to 30k in 'income' dollars. Good morning Paul..... get spammed lately? BTW... I have been busy as hell and not able to answer emails. Busy is good though..... it means more money. T |
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On Tue, 17 Feb 2004 07:55:39 -0500, "Tiffany"
wrote: Bebe lestrnge wrote in message ... Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Mon, Feb 16, 2004, 4:16am (EST+5) From: oaway (Joelle) Well, what's done is done, but that really was the question they should have been asking themselves when they decided to raise the baby. Yes Joelle I was a very large part of the decision. O.K. so I asked for this..... because I do not believe in abortion as a form of birth control, because I could not live with knowing I had a granddaughter out there being raised by strangers as good as that is for some people , just not me. Because after having suffered the loss of my partner to death not that long ago , this was maybe a joy to hold unto....I am digging deep so maybe I will be understood. Truth be told They got pregnant on purpose, so they told me, after I went off on a rant about how stupid they were and did they realise how much life will change as they know it. My final cry while I digested what was happening I hugged my daughter and told her I would support them as best I could that I loved her no matter what mistakes or how wrong I think what she does is and it has always been that way and always will. I am part of the problem and this I know. I certainly am not letting these kids off easy. They do and have been left to take care of the baby I am here when I am not working and I work full time . I took 2 weeks after the baby was born "family leave" to be sure my daughter could handle herself with the baby. I know I have to learn to keep out of most of this and I do understand what you are saying . -------- There's the rub. Abortion or adoption was never your choice to make. It was theirs and you made it easy to choose to raise the baby because they knew they could depend on you. Now I kind of think you are stuck. They made the choice expecting your help. If they didn't have your help maybe they would have made a different choice, but what's done is done. I think you are kind of obligated, more so than the boys parents because they made it clear in the beginning that they weren't going to take responsibility for the child. His mother totally peaked when they told her, I went with them for moral support. From yelling at them that they were idiots to there was no way they were gonna raise a welfare baby, to WIC was out of the question . The woman was way out there and scared the crap out of them. I was speechless.......... WIC is a wonderful program and I was not gonna let her rantings stop us from using it. As is the welfare program When my marriage first broke up I had nothing and these programs helped me back on my own. I have been a working member of society for at least 20 years ! We don't need the welfare program and that is good. If we did yes I would of directed my daughter that way. I see how getting started here can take many twists and turns, deep down I knew. I am looking at myself in a different light. thanks for your honesty again. Bev Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle Wow.. they got pregnant on purpose??? Yeah, I think they would be dealing with this on their own if that were the case. The child can be in daycare will the daughter is in school, ect. Honestly it sounds as though you wanted them to have the baby for all your reasons. So many grandparents step in and take care of kids that can be given to adults who are ready for parenthood and the lifelong commitment. I have seen grandparents who do that end up taking care of the child for 18 years too. Read what you posted above again. You should have gotten a puppy instead. It's not too late for the baby to be given up for adoption. lm |
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"Paul Fritz" wrote in message ... Child support is the guvmint mandating what ONE parent spends on their child, without ANY accounting of how that money is spent by the other parent. It further sets a different for NCP's vs. ALL other types of parents. It is patently unconstitutional, Then why did the Appellate Court of Florida rule in Bennett v. Bennett? but since it is so PC, it is allowed to continue. It has also further eroded the stability of marriage in this country, as well as encourages out of wedlock births. You can not blame out of marriage births on child support. How can it erode the stability of marriage? Assuming one parent can leave and live off 33% of the other parents salary? It allows women to escape financial responsibility for their sole and unilateral choices. Most single mothers work and I find that it appauling that you generalize women and state that they are eluding responsibility. It irks me when people so blindly accept it as 'the way it should be' It irks me when people take what is best for the children and twist it to appear like the non custodial parent is going without to support some gold diggin' biatch or bassard that he or she injected sperm or casted out an egg for. Come on. Do you really believe this is how it truly is? V |
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Hello, way long sorry.....
Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Tue, Feb 17, 2004, 7:19am From: (Paul=A0Fritz) =A0=A0=A0=A0"Bebe lestrnge" wrote in message ... Hello, way long sorry..... Group: alt.support.single-parents Date: Mon, Feb 16, 2004, 4:33pm From: (P.Fritz) Paul wrote: =A0=A0=A0=A0Nope, you just don't want to hear opiniions that you don't agree with. Well so what, do I have to agree with your opinion ? I don't agree ......Oh Well . =A0=A0=A0=A0 Paul wrote: Did you read the enabling drivel before you posted it? Yep I did and you sit around and wonder why she is in the situation that she is? Nope I don't You are dooming her and your grandchild to repeat the same cycle. How ? You are how old and making 22k a year. Well I am a 42 year old woman no college education . I cook for 6o elderly folks in a small nursing home in Pennsylvania. 22k isn't too shabby for no education. But I am a damn good cook ! You have a live in 'partner' =A0 Some role model Yes I have a live in partner.......... should I be ashamed that we are not married? Well the guvment denies me that right Or is it that I am a lesbian Paul? I have dealt with this before and before you or anyone else wants to judge me for who or how I love let me assure you that My children lost their other mother to death and they grieve just like any other child that lost a parent.....that you can not deny, judge or condemn . **** off =A0=A0=A0=A0There is no wondering about you. |
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