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Thanks to all who replied
Well, I just wanted to thank everyone who replied to my original post
"Boy/Girl Anatomy". Here's the conclusion I've come to: I've told Jenna that "the place where her pee comes from" is called her Urethra. I am actually amazed at how she has mastered the word. At first she was saying "Mommy, this is my Aretha!" Now, it's more like "ArethRa". When the day comes that she asks about her vagina, I will give her the word... even if that day is tomorrow! I never thought my post would cause such a stir. But it's nice to see so much activity on the board! I wanted to address a few people in a new thread, because frankly, I was starting to get overwhelmed with the length on that one. So, here goes: To Gummy Joe... I don't think you're a troll. You just jumped in fast on my original post (I think you were the very first to reply) and I didn't recognize you. Then, your reply was just so... short? "Vagina? Bagina"? My initial reaction was that you were mocking me. When you said "Either way, it's not a real problem" I felt like you dismissed me as some kind of idiot for asking such a stupid question. I still feel that is it a very legitimate question and as a caring parent I sought advice from the other caring parents on this newsgroup. Evidently, by the amount of people who replied, lots of others thought it was a good question too... and worth some thought and debate. I apologize that I scared you :~) To Chotii... While we might have slightly different parenting styles, I value so much of what I read in your posts. I always find you to be informative and you seem like a compassionate a great mom . That you're a little more liberal (and I'm a little more conservative) is just fine. I am a bit more conservative as far as what I want to teach them at 4, but that doesn't mean that I think you're over the top. To Cindy... I like what you said about "Private Parts". I have started introducing that concept to them. I've always told my kids how beautiful they are (their bodies too) and how strong and healthy their bodies are. I've always been very much into helping them develop a positive body image. So, when they talk at home about they penis or urethra, I subtly interject that "Yes, this is your penis (or urethra) and they are your private parts." And that just like any other part of their body, it is okay to talk about them... and touch them (in private). I've been telling them that it's okay to say "penis" or "urethra" at home, but it's more polite to say "Private Parts" if we're in public. Not that they've ever really done that, but I do think it's good manners. Then, onto "Only you and Mommy and Daddy touch your private parts... and Mommy and Daddy only touch when we're helping with the potty or helping to wash at bathtime." Anyway, thanks to all! It did help me come to (I think) a good conclusion. Lynn (Mommy to Charlie and Jenna 8/30/00) |
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Thanks to all who replied
The conclusion you came to sounds wonderful.
I too was shocked, amazed, and a little overwhelmed with the length of the original thread. At one point I counted 80 replies! While it is great that everyone is so supportive and eager to offer their opinions and advice on the matter, I would be willing to bet that you did not anticipate quite THAT many. -- Terri & Rob Colton (11-29-00) Aimee and Kylie (12-22-03) Visit us at: http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a..._kylie_colton/ |
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Thanks to all who replied
The conclusion you came to sounds wonderful.
I too was shocked, amazed, and a little overwhelmed with the length of the original thread. At one point I counted 80 replies! While it is great that everyone is so supportive and eager to offer their opinions and advice on the matter, I would be willing to bet that you did not anticipate quite THAT many. -- Terri & Rob Colton (11-29-00) Aimee and Kylie (12-22-03) Visit us at: http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a..._kylie_colton/ |
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Thanks to all who replied
The conclusion you came to sounds wonderful.
I too was shocked, amazed, and a little overwhelmed with the length of the original thread. At one point I counted 80 replies! While it is great that everyone is so supportive and eager to offer their opinions and advice on the matter, I would be willing to bet that you did not anticipate quite THAT many. -- Terri & Rob Colton (11-29-00) Aimee and Kylie (12-22-03) Visit us at: http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a..._kylie_colton/ |
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Thanks to all who replied
I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is
INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Ureter is the correct terminology for both boys and girls, and urethra is also correct but somewhat confusing. The terminology that is easier for children to grasp is, boys have penises and they pee out of the ureter in their penis. Girls have labia and they pee out of the ureter in their labia. Anatomically correct. :-) Also, I agree that when outside in public, private parts are just fine to refer to genetalia, but as your children age, having them learn the term genitals is going to be more helpful because most doctors and other medical specialists use that word. Marjorie mum to almost 12 yo b/g twins |
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Thanks to all who replied
I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is
INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Ureter is the correct terminology for both boys and girls, and urethra is also correct but somewhat confusing. The terminology that is easier for children to grasp is, boys have penises and they pee out of the ureter in their penis. Girls have labia and they pee out of the ureter in their labia. Anatomically correct. :-) Also, I agree that when outside in public, private parts are just fine to refer to genetalia, but as your children age, having them learn the term genitals is going to be more helpful because most doctors and other medical specialists use that word. Marjorie mum to almost 12 yo b/g twins |
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Thanks to all who replied
I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is
INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Ureter is the correct terminology for both boys and girls, and urethra is also correct but somewhat confusing. The terminology that is easier for children to grasp is, boys have penises and they pee out of the ureter in their penis. Girls have labia and they pee out of the ureter in their labia. Anatomically correct. :-) Also, I agree that when outside in public, private parts are just fine to refer to genetalia, but as your children age, having them learn the term genitals is going to be more helpful because most doctors and other medical specialists use that word. Marjorie mum to almost 12 yo b/g twins |
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"animzmirot" wrote in message ... I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Well, I suppose if we want to get REALLY technical we can explain that the opening of the vagina itself is the perineum, but this isn't useful for anything I can think of at this point in my kids' lives (they're 6, 4 and 4). But you do have a point. I think 'labia' and 'vulva' are fairly interchangable, except that 'vulva' refers to the entire area, and 'labia' to the various individual fleshy bits. You know what struck me as odd with my daughters? I don't remember what I looked like as a little girl, so I was shocked to discover that there are parts of a girl's external genitalia which hardly even exist at birth (like the inner labia) and which grow and can become quite large at puberty. Funny, I've had girlie bits my whole life and it never occurred to me that my baby daughters would not look like mature women, minus the hair. So that's another thing I've had to explain. "Why do you have that there, mommy?" "Because I'm a grown up woman. When you're a grown up woman, you'll have that too. Right now you're a little girl."(*) Silly me. I knew that a boy's penis grows considerably at puberty - not just hair - but it never occurred to me that girls did growing there too. Even though I am one. *I find this explanation works for all kinds of things. Like "When will I grow nursies?" and "Why don't I have milk in my nursies for my babies?" and so on. --angela |
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Thanks to all who replied
"animzmirot" wrote in message ... I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Well, I suppose if we want to get REALLY technical we can explain that the opening of the vagina itself is the perineum, but this isn't useful for anything I can think of at this point in my kids' lives (they're 6, 4 and 4). But you do have a point. I think 'labia' and 'vulva' are fairly interchangable, except that 'vulva' refers to the entire area, and 'labia' to the various individual fleshy bits. You know what struck me as odd with my daughters? I don't remember what I looked like as a little girl, so I was shocked to discover that there are parts of a girl's external genitalia which hardly even exist at birth (like the inner labia) and which grow and can become quite large at puberty. Funny, I've had girlie bits my whole life and it never occurred to me that my baby daughters would not look like mature women, minus the hair. So that's another thing I've had to explain. "Why do you have that there, mommy?" "Because I'm a grown up woman. When you're a grown up woman, you'll have that too. Right now you're a little girl."(*) Silly me. I knew that a boy's penis grows considerably at puberty - not just hair - but it never occurred to me that girls did growing there too. Even though I am one. *I find this explanation works for all kinds of things. Like "When will I grow nursies?" and "Why don't I have milk in my nursies for my babies?" and so on. --angela |
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Thanks to all who replied
"animzmirot" wrote in message ... I didn't read the entire thread, but I'd like to point out that a vagina is INSIDE the body and not the entire female genital area. When a female child asks what her genetalia is, the correct term for the outside of the body that she can touch is her labia. Only the inside is referred to as the vagina. Well, I suppose if we want to get REALLY technical we can explain that the opening of the vagina itself is the perineum, but this isn't useful for anything I can think of at this point in my kids' lives (they're 6, 4 and 4). But you do have a point. I think 'labia' and 'vulva' are fairly interchangable, except that 'vulva' refers to the entire area, and 'labia' to the various individual fleshy bits. You know what struck me as odd with my daughters? I don't remember what I looked like as a little girl, so I was shocked to discover that there are parts of a girl's external genitalia which hardly even exist at birth (like the inner labia) and which grow and can become quite large at puberty. Funny, I've had girlie bits my whole life and it never occurred to me that my baby daughters would not look like mature women, minus the hair. So that's another thing I've had to explain. "Why do you have that there, mommy?" "Because I'm a grown up woman. When you're a grown up woman, you'll have that too. Right now you're a little girl."(*) Silly me. I knew that a boy's penis grows considerably at puberty - not just hair - but it never occurred to me that girls did growing there too. Even though I am one. *I find this explanation works for all kinds of things. Like "When will I grow nursies?" and "Why don't I have milk in my nursies for my babies?" and so on. --angela |
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