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I have alot of people pushing me to give the baby a bottle with either
formula or breastmilk. He doesn't take it but also I'm so afraid of him rejecting my breast like in the "why do I bother" post. I don't go anywhere and I don't work. Sometimes I will pump and leave some for whoever watching him, but that's only been for 3 hours the most. Someone told me to force him to get used to it so I can get more freedom. I really don't mind leaving all the dishes everyday to nurse. It's true that all I do is take care of kids but he is my last baby and I want to cherish every moment I have with him. I want to feed him. I was so gypped with the other kids because I didn't nurse them. My family isn't all that supportive about it either. They think I should get him on the bottle so I can wean him from me when he gets teeth. I tell them I expect to do this for at least the first year and take it from there. They think I'm crazy. This group is the first place I really found support. I don't get it from Dr.'s or most family and friends. Kris |
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My advice is to do what your heart is telling you. My DD is now a year, and
still almost exclusively BF (she doesn't like solids too much). I have never given her a bottle. At around 5 1/2 months she started drinking water uut of a cup (normally mine), and when I sit her down for her meals she drinks from a sippy cup. If I am going to be away for a while (I think the max is probably 3 hr also), I do pump, and DH (we haven't left her with anyone else yet - we have plans for my Bday in September which will be the first time we are both gone) can put it in the cup. Before she took the sippy cup, I still expressed, and DH would attempt to give it to her from a bottle, but she always refused. What worked for him was giving it to her in a dropper. This is your child and you need to do what is best for both you and your child. Listen to your gut feelings!! Michelle P "K.B." wrote in message rthlink.net... I have alot of people pushing me to give the baby a bottle with either formula or breastmilk. He doesn't take it but also I'm so afraid of him rejecting my breast like in the "why do I bother" post. I don't go anywhere and I don't work. Sometimes I will pump and leave some for whoever watching him, but that's only been for 3 hours the most. Someone told me to force him to get used to it so I can get more freedom. I really don't mind leaving all the dishes everyday to nurse. It's true that all I do is take care of kids but he is my last baby and I want to cherish every moment I have with him. I want to feed him. I was so gypped with the other kids because I didn't nurse them. My family isn't all that supportive about it either. They think I should get him on the bottle so I can wean him from me when he gets teeth. I tell them I expect to do this for at least the first year and take it from there. They think I'm crazy. This group is the first place I really found support. I don't get it from Dr.'s or most family and friends. Kris |
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K.B. wrote:
I have alot of people pushing me to give the baby a bottle with either formula or breastmilk. People were always confused about why my kids didn't have bottles. They could not fathom that my life could include my babies so completely that I could always feed them at the breast. He doesn't take it but also I'm so afraid of him rejecting my breast like in the "why do I bother" post. That would scare me too...we've been hearing a lot of sad stories around here lately, and nipple confusion is 100% preventable for someone with your lifestyle. I don't go anywhere and I don't work. I went lots of places and work darn hard as a SAHM, but I still didn't need bottles. Sometimes I will pump and leave some for whoever watching him, but that's only been for 3 hours the most. Someone told me to force him to get used to it so I can get more freedom. boggle Just the word 'force' is so awful. They're babies for such a short time...why don't people get that? I really don't mind leaving all the dishes everyday to nurse. Yeah, I never minded holding a baby as opposed to doing housework, although there are times now when putting away toys or sweeping is cathartic for me. It's true that all I do is take care of kids but he is my last baby and I want to cherish every moment I have with him. Great attitude! My kids are five and three, and I'm so grateful that I got a chance to really savor their babyhoods. There were days that felt soooo long, but the years themselves just flew by. I want to feed him. I was so gypped with the other kids because I didn't nurse them. How wonderful for you that you have the chance to nurse this baby. It's always interesting to me to hear mothers talk about the differences in parenting when they nurse after bottle-feeding. My family isn't all that supportive about it either. They think I should get him on the bottle so I can wean him from me when he gets teeth. I tell them I expect to do this for at least the first year and take it from there. They think I'm crazy. People who haven't done it generally don't get it. Some people are supportive, or at least keep quiet (most of my family falls into that category), but others feel defensive about their choices when yours differ, or continue to spout on ignorance. I'd just smile and say, "we're doing great...thanks for the concern!" then change the subject. This group is the first place I really found support. I don't get it from Dr.'s or most family and friends. I found that my need for support ebbed and flowed. Once the baby is no longer nursing in public, fewer people know you're nursing and it's less of an issue. Most people would have no idea that my kids are not weaned, even though they are always complimenting me on their behavior and intelligence. If you get through the first year and then stop bringing the subject up, or at least be vague about weaning, it will probably get easier. Emily |
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"K.B." wrote in message rthlink.net... I have alot of people pushing me to give the baby a bottle with either formula or breastmilk. He doesn't take it but also I'm so afraid of him rejecting my breast like in the "why do I bother" post. I don't go anywhere and I don't work. Sometimes I will pump and leave some for whoever watching him, but that's only been for 3 hours the most. Someone told me to force him to get used to it so I can get more freedom. I really don't mind leaving all the dishes everyday to nurse. It's true that all I do is take care of kids but he is my last baby and I want to cherish every moment I have with him. I want to feed him. I was so gypped with the other kids because I didn't nurse them. My family isn't all that supportive about it either. They think I should get him on the bottle so I can wean him from me when he gets teeth. I tell them I expect to do this for at least the first year and take it from there. They think I'm crazy. This group is the first place I really found support. I don't get it from Dr.'s or most family and friends. Kris My best advice is to ignore people pushing you to do something which you are not happy doing. If you don't need him to take a bottle, then there is no need to force it on him to make others feel better about it. You are doing the right thing in feeding him yourself when he is hungry - why mess about pumping and sterilising bottles when you don't need to? ....and as for weaning when they get teeth ... why? I've hardly ever been bitten by DD and bf is a quick way to calm her down or ease her stress through the pain of teething (or immunisations or colds etc). When she has bitten me its been by accident. FWIW I don't think you are crazy - just a good Mum for breastfeeding your DS Cheers Amanda |
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How old is your baby? He just turned 3 months on the 19th. Is your husband not supportive, or are you just talking about other relatives (in-laws/your parents/siblings, etc?). My husband is supportive. He a goes with the flow type a guy. It's siblings, friends, my Mom. Plus Dr.'s. My Dr. was pushing me to put him on formula and the gyno was pushing me to stop for the pill. I don't have many in-laws but my sister -in-law is very supportive. she has a baby the same age and she nurses. Kris Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to reply.) |
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"Marvin L. Zinn" wrote in message ... Kris, If we had a lot more mothers like you the world would be a better place to live! marvin Marvin L. Zinn Reply to: Using Virtual Access Windows 2000 build 2600 Thanks, that's so nice of you. Kris |
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"K.B." wrote in message rthlink.net... My husband is supportive. He a goes with the flow type a guy. It's siblings, friends, my Mom. Plus Dr.'s. My Dr. was pushing me to put him on formula and the gyno was pushing me to stop for the pill. I don't have many in-laws but my sister -in-law is very supportive. she has a baby the same age and she nurses. Yeesh--it sounds like time for new doctors! Belphoebe |
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My husband is supportive. He a goes with the flow type a guy.
That's great. Your husband is definitely your most important support. With him behind you, you should be able to deal with the other attempts at sabotage... My Dr. was pushing me to put him on formula and the gyno was pushing me to stop for the pill Lordy! You DEFINITELY need new doctors. Why was the doctor telling you to put him on formula... and what kind of idiot gyn would want you to put a baby on inferior food just so you could take bc pills? Is he really unaware that there are other methods of bc available? Seriously, if these doctors have been telling you to wean, I would consider changing if at all possible. There is simply no reason for a doctor to be telling a mother of a new infant she should be formula feeding. (Unless he has no milk and the baby is starving! Whiich is clearly not the case here.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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"Naomi Pardue" wrote in message ... Lordy! You DEFINITELY need new doctors. Why was the doctor telling you to put him on formula... and what kind of idiot gyn would want you to put a baby on inferior food just so you could take bc pills? Is he really unaware that there are other methods of bc available? Seriously, if these doctors have been telling you to wean, I would consider changing if at all possible. There is simply no reason for a doctor to be telling a mother of a new infant she should be formula feeding. (Unless he has no milk and the baby is starving! Whiich is clearly not the case here.) Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator I'm not going back to the gyno. I'm upset with them anyway because they wouldn't give me my epidural and they forgot about me in the hospital. They forgot to circumcise the baby too. That's another story. The ped. I'm going to stick with. He is my Dr. plus my 4 kids. I like him and I'm just going to overlook his lack of support with bf. The baby had an issue with allergies and he told me to give him formula instead of my milk. I stuck it out and we are fine now. There is also a Nurse practitioner that works with him and she was supportive and said to call her with any bf questions. She never knew any answers when I called. I called her once because my one boob was so much smaller than the other and wasn't making milk. She said she would call me back with an answer on what to do and never did. My husband had elbowed it and it hurt real bad. I pumped it regularly and the milk is back now. I think it was a little bruised or something. Kris |
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